Why is my girlfriend behaving so odd?

[Alxve]

So I will be brief, me and my girlfriend had an conflict and for 4 days we took an break from each other but it seems like when I returned she is like "I changed a lot" and she became so dry and the conflict wasn't so big we had both mistakes and we forgive each other but seems like she is always chatting me dry like this... "What did you eat?" and she says "Soup" and she doesn't use any endearments anymore. This dryness is breaking my heart. And she even said that "I lost interest in you" so yeah...

Any advices to help me out?

[D_Bone_Steak]

Taking a break... AKA one of you needs to fuck someone and not do the whole "cheating" process or the stigma or whatever. So that guy wasn't you? you didn't get no new pussy, right? Yes? So who is the new guy then? That's my input on that... there is a new guy... probably the real underlying reason there were any fights, to begin with.

Heed her words... she's lost interest in you. I'm guessing at this point, you're just the main man that she is "with" because of commitments, but there is some dude that has that "interest" and it isn't you.

Sorry bro... it broke my heart just saying what I just said. This kind of bullshit is just below toothaches, migraines, and other kinds of pain on my totem pole of pain.

[OlderAndWiser]

Taking a break usually means there is somebody else she wants to hookup with, or she wants your relationship to end but she doesn't want the trauma of a breakup.

[Alxve]

I kinda feel the same way that she has someone else on her mind. I dont know how to catch her redhanded is there any way?

[OlderAndWiser]

Does it really matter whether you catch her with someone else? If her feelings for you are gone, why would you want to stay with her? You would be wasting your time. End it, take time to learn your lessons and lick your wounds, then start looking for someone who actually wants to be with you.

[Alxve]

I won't say they are gone but seems like she doesn't like regular conflicts we having some conflicts but seems like she is very dramatic and keep grudges on them so we never got any time to make it up

[OlderAndWiser]

So, if she hold grudges and maintains drama, maybe she isn't ready for a real relationship. And conflict is inevitable in relationships; what makes a relationship good is how you deal with the conflict. If that bothers her too much, you future will just be more of the same.

[BigAssB1tch]

Your girlfriend sound like she done got a case of the bitchitis. That's when a woman get all dry and itchy for no damn reason. You gotta figure out why she's acting like this. Did you forget to put the toilet seat down or something? Girl be getting that bitchitis from the toilet. Maybe you didn't lick her cooter right the last time you guys messed around coz you know cotter lickin' keep that bitchitis away. Whatever it is, find out and fix it ASAP. And if she still being a cold fish, then maybe it's time to move on. There are plenty of fine hoes out there who would love to have a piece of that.

[rosemilk]

that's because taking a break means breaking up. she has moved on during that "break" and she is acting like this because she's still hurt.

obviously she is still not over this conflict and she doesn't really know how to talk about her feelings or how to resolve things, likely because you guys are only 16, so she acts like this. also, she doesn't want to resolve things. she thinks you guys already broke up so might want to have a talk to make it an official break up

[IslaTheWitch]

Talk to her.

No one here can read your or her mind.

Ask her to sit down on the couch, kitchen table or just invite her for coffee.

Tell her, what you feel. Tell her how you see the argument. Then ask her about her feelings and point of view.

If possible agree on how to handle the next conflict and aftermath.

If she wants to cooperate, you are on the good path. If not, voice your concerns and ask what's coming next.

[Brittanykeen88]

If youo16 you're very young I'm assuming she is too. Not saying young people aren't capable of romantic love, maybe life experience makes it difficult to have proper tools to have a quality relationship. Have you asked her whats going on?

[Alxve]

Well she said she didn't like the way we were having regular conflicts and Im trying to not have as much as conflicts. But seems like she doesn't want to fight because she thinks it makes the relationship unhealthy.

[Brittanykeen88]

Why are you fighting thou?

[Alxve]

Because I want the relationship to survive I mean she does want to keep the relationship but she doesn't like regular conflicts.

[Brittanykeen88]

Ok. Conflict isn't what makes a relationship unhealthy. It's communication and and how you both go about solving the issues.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I would ask her if she wants to be with someone else or ask what did you do to make her upset with you, I would not kiss her butt for no matter. Don't be getting yourself down over her, hey, it's not worth it.

[Alxve]

Well she wants me only and no one else. She doesn't have anyone guy.

[madhatters4]

after a fight it can be hard, sometimes impossible, to rekindle the intimacy. hopefully the fight wasn't so bad that you guys can't get back to being close.

[Cute_potato01]

Take her out on a date n surprise her with something she loves

[Lisia]

You can have a conversation with her about it? If that doesn't work then I don't know honestly..

[iwannaknowrn]

Um find a new girlfriend. Nobody wants to be treated like that. She’s being very childish. When she dry text don’t respond and wait for her to say something back but if she lost interest that means she's not interested in You anymore so leave

[BoopBoopBeep]

If you're fighting for four days eventually you gotta read the writing on the wall. Seems she already did and you're just late to the party.

[KrakenAttackin]

Because she drained some other guys balls during those four days. She wants to get out of the relationship but doesn't want to take responsibility. She wants you to dump her to make you the bad guy.

[Billlewis]

Ask her if she's still interested in a meaningful relationship with you.

[DextroShade]

During your time apart she fucked another guy. It's time to get rid of her and move on with your life. I would recommend blocking her on everything and never speaking to her again.

[Unit1]

She lost interest in you obviously. No can do.

[Staximus]

She says she lost interest in you, Just leave her alone.

[Akothee005]

I think she has found another person.

[Radiate143]

She's still pissed.

[Joker_]

hm, seems like a real conundrum