Is this behavior of my girlfriend normal?

[Anonymous]

Hi, my girlfriend goes to sleep at 8/9 PM everyday and it's driving me crazy. She sleeps until 9AM. We have been together for 5 months now. The first 2/3 weeks of the relationship she was going to bed at 11/12PM. We see each other only on weekends because of my work. The weird thing is that we can not talk that much for the entire day and she still won't stay a bit longer to talk or when we talk and 9PM rolls around she goes to sleep, period. Is this behavior normal or is she texting someone else?

[Thestupidusername]

Well clearly something happened if she went from sleeping at 11 pm till 9 pm.. if she sleeps at 9pm and wakes up 9 pm then she sleeps 12h/night. Thats way too much unless she has some severe disease or whatever.

I would talk to her about it if I were you. Maybe ask if she wants to stay up longer and chat

[Asker]

I talked with her about it a lot and she said that she always slept like this but at the beggining of the relationship she stayed longer to "get to know me". I always ask if she wants to stay longer but she always declines and says she is super tired. I don't know how you can be tired at 9AM if you slept 12 hours the day before

[Thestupidusername]

Maybe she has depression or something else is going on.

Maybe you should tell her its bothering you

[Asker]

I told her many times and we argued about it many times. She said that she won't change it and if it's bothering me I should end the relationship

[Thestupidusername]

Then she clearly doesn't care about you at all. You should end it.. at least I would if I were you.

[Asker]

This is what I'm considering. She also became cold lately and we barely sext or send spicy texts. I will probably end it after Christmas just not to be a dick

[Thestupidusername]

Alright then. You do whats best for both of you. Best of luck

[Asker]

Thank you, I needed an unbiased opinion

[Thestupidusername]

👍👍

[rosemilk]

the girls tired, let her sleep. in general tho, ask her if she's okay. i sleep that much when i'm depressed...

[slatyb]

She's sleeping 12 hours a day? Are you sure she's not up in the middle of the night? 12 hours per day is not normal.

[Asker]

This is what is very strange for me. She probably is and is texting someone untill 1 or 2 AM. I argued with her a lot about it and she says that I'm a psychopath to have a problem about it...

[slatyb]

Just end this and find a partner who is not insane.

[NamerOfStars]

Are you dating a parakeet? Humans aren't supposed to sleep twelve hours a day.

[Akam93]

Sounds like ocd.

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Akam93]

She's on a time limit. My sister has the same problem.

[Asker]

But where is she rushing? This is destroying our relationship because I started suspecting that she has someone else

[Akam93]

Unless she's rushing to text someone else. If she dosent change dump her.

[Asker]

She clearly said she won't change because we argued over it many times. She told me I'm crazy to think this way but I guess she is gaslighting me

[Akam93]

Then break up with her clearly she's not willing to change.

[Asker]

This is what I'll do. Thank you for the unbiased opinion because she manipulated me so hard that I thought I was a maniac about it