I'm very shy around my boyfriend, how do I loosen up?

[Anonymous]

This is my first relationship and we have been together for 2 1/2 months. I am naturally a very shy person but I have been working on being more outgoing for a few years now. I'm not shy with my parents or friends that I have known for a long time, but it takes me a while to feel like I am friends with someone new.

When I'm with my boyfriend or with his friends I don't really know that well, I get REALLY quiet. My boyfriend already knew I was quiet when he first asked me out but I still haven't gotten over my shyness around him. I smile and laugh all the time when I'm with him or his friends but I don't add to the conversation much.

Is there a way to not be so shy around him? I really like him but I don't want him to get the wrong idea.

[dragonfly6516]

This is a sign of insecurity. You're worried that you will say or do something to make him like you less, or even leave you. Try to remember this: He chose you, he wanted to be with you, and the reason is because he saw something in you that was special, and made you stand out apart from all the other girls he could have asked out/to be his girlfriend :)

[Mgoods]

Don't change yourself. In time, you will get used to him and open up. Maybe start a conversation about your shyness and talk about how you guys could do fun things and visit nice places, to become more comfortable around each other. Don't force it, though. It should be an organic process and with time, you'll notice a change :)

[Mgoods]

Thanks for MHO
:)

[Mycsph]

It would take time for you to be comfortable dealing with him so he should be understanding. Tell him why you're acting that way when he's around you so he won't be confused.

[Klaatu51]

Np actually... u r just not used round his pals... no?

[Asker]

I'm super shy around him and his friends. When I'm just with my boyfriend im still really shy but not as much.