How do I get over my shyness around the man I like?

[Anonymous]

So I like a guy and he's genuinely a great person. We used to be friends too but now things have become a bit awkward. I caught feelings and thought it was unrequited. After spending months like that I recently realized that it might not be unrequited. Now, whenever we're not talking he doesn't take his eyes off me even once and I get nervous, I stammer, make mistakes after mistakes, forget what I was saying and can't look at his eyes. How do I become normal? Do men feel okay with a shy girl?

[Orion84]

Don't worry, you are normal. It's completely normal to get flustered around someone you like. Just be yourself around him.

He can probably tell you're shy/nervous, and most guys like that. We think it's cute, and take it as a compliment. It seems that he likes you, too, so try to relax a little bit while you're with him, and you'll be just fine.

[Asker]

I used to be fine around him before I caught feelings, lol. But yes, as of now he's very patient with me.

[Orion84]

Yeah, feelings will do that to a person, lol. It's perfectly normal, don't worry.

Have you told him how you feel? You're most likely nervous because you're not sure if he feels the same way. Once you find out he does, the nervousness will get a little better.

[Asker]

No, I've not told him. I'm nervous because he looks at me. Like he's standing at a place talking to someone, if he sees me he'd immediately fix his gaze on me. Then he'd dismiss that person and come to talk to me and as we talk he'd keep looking at my face. Even if we're in a huge crowd he'd find me out and talk to me. If he's working alone somewhere and he sees me he'd immediately ask me to sit and as I sit and look down I can feel him looking at me. That makes me nervous.

[Orion84]

He obviously likes you, too, if he's going out of his way to talk to you, and spend time with you. You should tell him how you feel. It'll be good for both of you to get it out into the open, and for you to know how he feels about you.

[DishLady]

Some guys just have intense eyes, so it IS challenging to look back at them. It's important to be a little less timid around him each time you see him. Look a few seconds today, for example... a few seconds longer next time... and a few seconds longer the time after that. He'll feel that you're becoming comfortable around him.

When you stammer or make an error just laugh and joke that he makes you a little nervous.

[WhitneySnow]

Tell him how you feel. I know it’s hard being shy but odds are better than even that he feels the same way.

[Cute_User513]

This!!! I was super shy around my boyfriend but getting it off my chest and letting him know how I felt helped a lot!!!

[WhitneySnow]

@Cute_User513 that’s great!!!

[aaron13547]

If dude has any brains he is loving it and can feel you like him. You should use this to your advantage before he uses it to his. Shy isn't bad its love knocking at the door but being afraid of the answer... this is an opportunity not a problem. Think of it like that and the shy won't feel so uncomfortable

[Asker]

He knows I can't initiate the conversation so he initiates it himself every time we see each other. But the issue is that he keeps staring at me when we talk and I forget everything I'm saying.

[aaron13547]

Lol just sit in that uncomfortable feeling then untill it gets comfortable. There is a purpose to fear and anxiety it makes us pay attention to things. In your cause you freeze up because all you can think about is him instead of the words you wanna say. Connecting with peope can be scary, and he might even say no. But thats the thing taking the chances is what makes it worth it. One day you will yearn for this feeling you can't handle right now. 🫠💛

Our minds our meant to keep us safe, and alive, not happy. This is the perfect example.

[Asker]

I don't about saying no, but I feel his eyes on me. My friend told me once that he doesn't listen to me as much as he looks at me. It starts like this: we see each other, he keeps looking at me, makes an excuse to talk to me and keeps staring at me when we're talking. Now that makes me feel extremely self conscious.

[Asker]

*don't know

[Rangers]

Your shyness is as endearing as it is cute. Know this, the expections are on the guys not to stammer, not you.

Guys aren't so picky about how you say things, so just relax your face and stop imagining every negative reaction he might give to what you say, cause that will keep you from speaking and that will create awkward tension as well as require him to try to pull the conversation along

[HollyK21]

The normal thing to do is just tell the guy you like him.

[Asker]

I can't make an eye contact, how can I tell him? I don't initiate the conversations either, whenever he sees me he gets alert and starts the conversation himself. The way he keeps staring at my soul I forget what I was saying.

[jshm2]

You don't.

If he liked you , he would approach. But he's probably wondering why the hell you're all awkward around him.

[supercutebutt]

This is why gloryholes have become so popular in the past few years.

[Rangers]

Stop watching so much porn

[supercutebutt]

@Rangers Mind your business, fascist.

[Anonymous]

I used to feel very similarly to a girl I had a massive crush. She gave me anxiety attacks. At the time, the only thing that could of helped me was alchol, but she disappeared.

[888theGreat]

I would need her to run me over with a truck to get the hint. SO no I treat everyone equally.

[Anonymous]

Next time you see him, strip naked and yell, "FUCK ME, NOW!!!"

[Anonymous]

Someone i love once told me that it's ok to sit in silence and enjoy each other's company

[spartan55]

Did you actually tell him?

[Asker]

I've not, yet. I don't have to do anything much though as of now, he visibly gets activated whenever he sees me and initiates conversations.

[spartan55]

OK, he doesn't know how you feel then.

[Asker]

He probably does know. Why does he pay extra attention to me or treat me slightly better than others? I'm 5 years younger than him, I feel nervous, he understands it and stands through it.

[spartan55]

Believe what you want. But if you don't tell him he doesn't know.

[Asker]

Then why does he give me so much attention? He's not teenage boy, he's around 30.

[spartan55]

Him giving you attention has nothing to do with him being aware of your feelings.

[zombiewoof]

Most guys like shy girls, just talk to him

[Asker]

I do talk to him. I mean he himself tries to talk to me whenever he sees me.

[zombiewoof]

Then take that and work on it

[zombiewoof]

Make innocent contact, like touching a forearm, shoulder, that will show trust

[Asker]

I've never touched a man before, I don't talk to any other man either. He probably understands all that.

[zombiewoof]

You can do it

[blackeagle007]

Ask him out