I am a naturally shy person. I don't just go up to people and talk to them. I want to overcome this though. How should I approach a guy and just talk to him as a acquaintance? I also don't seem to be that approachable either. I think people notice that I'm shy by my body language. How can I change this?
You must understand that this is a skill. Not just something you get. The more you do it, the easier it is. I used to be a shy person, scared to talk. Now I am just a quiet person who prefers to be on her own, but if I want to talk, I can.
I didn't know the exact way to a swimming pool and saw a man walking in that general direction. I just walked up to him told him my issue and he showed me the way, we parted ways because he had to be somewhere else. Nice guy, never saw him again. Laid back conversation.
Another is a delivery guy, some lighthearted chat before you take your food can go a long way. Some even appreciate the chat becausr others usually take the food in a hurry. If I order he will even put extra things in the bag, lovely!
The best way for me is to have no expectations of how it will go and just enjoy it for what it is.
s start with little steps… small challenges. smile at him when passing by if you guys glance at each other. then move on to saying hi while passing by. and then maybe small talk with a bigger group? to then just doing it on your own.
Just go for it! I personally love it when a girl makes the first move. That way I know she likes me and I'm spared a ton of speculating and overthinking. Start with small organic conversation. The line at the grocery store or somewhere public where you can easily comment on something casually as an icebreaker. Jokes are always good icebreakers and so is the weather. You're attractive so the odds of being rejected are super low. Even if you're shy you can appear confident and that's the key. Remember you are desirable and you have the power. I hate myself for what I'm about to say but smile. Smiling and laughing are flirty like a casual touch on the arm and it will make you seem interested. Good luck
By accepting that until you woMAN up you're going to keep losing men to women who aren't shy.
I'm talking to a woman right now that claims she's "SHY". What she means is she doesn't want to put forth any effort. Shy in her 40's. 😆 OK, well she'll forgive me if I'm shy then to.🙄 It's better I choose a woman who's not shy.
Guys are people to. No guy wants to be with a woman who he has to "pull teeth". You think doing ALL the work is fun for us? No!
Good luck.🙂
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The truth is, it's not easy and it's never gonna happen until you take a leap of faith and step out of your box.
You can start small and easy, but eventually you're going to have to start doing things that make you uncomfortable and be ok with the fact that you might embarrass yourself.
You have to retrain your brain and expand your comfort zone. Face your fears so you learn there's nothing to be afraid of. It's the only way
In life when trying to get good at anything, practice makes perfect. The more you put yourself out there the easier it'll get. I've been shy and introverted since I was a kid.
Build some trust in yourself and be yourself, many people are shy at first, do not to underestimate yourself.
Accept that guys feel the same way, and are also very shy themselves!
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