My crush played me, I'm so hurt. please help?

[Anonymous]

My crush that I've been talking to played me and just stopped talking to me after i got intimate with him today. We were talking for about a month, we hung out a couple times and I hung out with him today at his house. We got intimate but never resulted into sex (sorry if this is vulgar lol) and today we almost did, but i stopped that from happening and gave him oral instead for the first time. i felt like it was the right time but now he's stopped talking to me/wont text me and is on twitter writing things that i believe are about me. he tweeted, "i loose interest fast, sorry sis" Im so hurt I don't know what to do..

[Esplorare]

:/ Unfortunately, at this point there's nothing you can do but let time do it's thing and let the pain take it's course. No one wants to be used then discarded but being SEXUALLY USED is an especially crappy feeling! Just take this as a lesson learned and be serious about the fact that there are some guys out there who only want to get in your pants. At the end of the day, their goal is to receive sexual gratification from you. I remember hearing my cousins talking about how one of them waited SEVEN MONTHS just to get sex from a girl. SEVEN MONTHS. Almost a year just to get sex from her then blow her off and only contact her when he was horny. As sad as it is, some guys are like that and they will play you.

This is why I find it's best to not give any sexual favors to someone who hasn't committed to you. Works for me!

[Destinee7]

Aww. *Giving you a e-hug*

You will be fine hun. It will take some time. But tell yourself that you will rise above this😊

Be careful of guys like this. Sheeps in wolves clothing. They sweet talk u, smile, hold your hands, etc but its all a ploy to seduce you & get into your pants. But dont be discourage. Consider yourself lucky. At least u didn't sleep with him. You made a mistake but now its the time to learn from that mistake. Next time look out for signs. What has this experience taught u? What signs will you NOT ignore next time? And also, a month isn't that long to get to know someone by the way.

I hope you rise above this hun. Im rooting for you😘

[Destinee7]

Yikes! I meant wolves in sheep clothing.

[Annonymous300918]

THIS. Happened to me almost 98% but I didn't gave him any. Just gave in to kisses until... after... he kept saying he's 'busy' and those texts subside. It's sad tho but at least i know now that's his intention are purely sexual. Even when he still text me, i know that obviously he is just trying his luck. I hv a hard time letting him go, because he's quite the 'sweet talker'. He took advantage of the 'situation' of me having a crush on him and thought that i cud easily jumped in the sack with him. Boy, hw wrong he is. That's hw i knew, we cud never be even friends. But no more for me. Lesson learned! Be strong and walk away.

[vaibhav29]

thats wise

[Anonymous]

He's a dick. Know that all guys are NOT like that. I sincerely hope you find a decent guy. There was nothing you could have done. If a guy's a jerk, he's going to be a jerk whether or not you are intimate with him. If a guy is decent, he's not going to bail after intimate moments. Try not to dwell on it too much. He doesn't deserve your tears. Work on making the best version of you, and try to not go for anyone who has similar personality traits to this guy.

[Anonymous]

I had the same problem. My crush tricker me into falling in love with him just to get in my pants and we talked for a month and we hung out and made out but I never gave oral. But he stopped talking to me a few weeks after we almost did it. He told me it wasn't going to work out and I cried a lot because Iater on I found out it was all a joke and a bet to see if he could have sex with me. And I got even more upset and I'm still not over it but I'm acting like I am because whenever your around him or his friends you got to act like it didn't affect you like if you don't care. I learned that they don't deserve you and you don't deserve them because they aren't worth it😘

[Anonymous]

That's all he wanted from you. Hopefully not.