A lot of women complain that guys don't notice them, or only go after the hot women. A lot of women say that they don't get apporached, guys overlook them, can't get a date and find it difficult in finding a man. But, do you think that is necessarily true. ?
What do you guys thinks?
IMO: On average in reality a women has heaps of guys apporaching her, doing things for her and basically going out of their way to invite her to events. Yet, if these guys aren't super hot, rich, or charismatic enough , she will not deem their attempts at woohing her over as a legitamite approach, or attempt by the opposite sex to form a relationship with her.
This can be sumed up quite nicely in this picture:
From a male perspective: A woman has plenty of suitors, but they are looked at as invisible in her eyes.
Do you think when women complain of not being approached, they are lying?
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Anonymous
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While there may be some women who don't count guys who they aren't attracted to, I don't think that the majority of women who complain about not being approached are lying.
Personally, I'm almost 30 and I've only ever been approached by guys twice in my life. They were both men who were significantly older than me, one clearly had mental health issues (I mean that genuinely, not trying to be insulting), and the other was homeless (well, technically, he told me he had just moved into transitional housing).
I'm probably average or a bit below average in terms of looks. I have gone on dates and have had boyfriends, but they were either men I met online, men I was already friends with for some time, or men that I approached myself. Not men who approached me.
And if that's my experience, then I don't find it hard to believe that there are plenty of other average or below average looking women who have had similar experiences of being largely invisible to men.
Well, a issue I have frequently is I am approached by men who are older than my dad, and do not take no for an answer. I get really tired of being approached by sleazy men because I am hot... all day long, and I get discouraged because when I make a move, since I'm just a normal chick with a job that forces me to move a lot, usually I get turned down. I don't have impossible standards, I just like to be able to have intellectual convo's with a guy similar to my age, and be able to have as much fun during play with them.
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Anonymous
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I can see your point in some cases. It might also vary on location and how the person appears to others.
I'm reserved in public and do not get approached a lot. I know if I smiled more, more people would want to talk to me. So that's on me, not others.
Girls can't help who they are and aren't attracted to. I don't think that woman are purposely only seeing a few people out of the majority. I just think that some of us women know what they like in a guy and go after whom ever they deem fit.
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But that has nothing to do with the question at hand. The question is asking when girls complain about no one wanting them is it legitamite or them just being too damn picky and not recognizing the advances of men they are not attracted to.
Story time: For example I once had a female friend who went to a bar and kept eyeing a few guys. At the end of the night these guys went home with other women, or by themselves. She then complained that no man wants to be with her and she feels lonely. I had to legimately point out the other 15 guys who approached her that night, eyeing her, and or offered to by her drinks that were legitametly interested. This isn't a single case only as I've observed this with my sister and other women in social settings.
I've approached a few girls. Some turned out to be underage so I didn't move forward... But I can honestly say, although I dont have that big of a problem approaching girls, at the moment I am not interested in them. With countless dating that went nowhere, I've given up on girls. If something comes along, so be it. But for your question, you'd be surprised how easy it is to approach them. The best thing about it is knowing that she prob is jumping up and down at the fact that she was approached by a decent looking guy. Where as the below average will be ignored. The below average need to change something to IMPRESS the girl he's approaching, wether it something that girls find cute (like walking your dog) or fixing up your style. You need to IMPRESS somehow
I think there's a disconnect between how people are interpreting approach. Are we talking about the literal definition of approach or explicitly being asked out?
I've wondered about what percentage of guys approaching, hitting on, or chatting up women actually and explicitly ask them out on a date. This is probably what women are talking about. They might be approached a lot but asked out infrequently.
You can even see it in the answers. You mention "being approached" and girls reply with "asked out".
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