My boyfriend can't keep his hands off me?

[Anonymous]

We are long distance and everytime we meet he just can't stop kissing me and touching me and it's sweet but it can get kinda embarrassing in public. I've asked him to stop, but he says I'm irresistable and that he can't. What do I do?

[oldlady]

"I can't" is his lame excuse for not respecting you enough to exercise self control. Maybe you should start all of your visits with some extended alone time so he can get it a little bit out of his system, but you need to tell him that he's genuinely making you uncomfortable, and he needs to respect your boundaries.
I'm in a long distance relationship, too. I wish he'd make out with me and let me get all handsy right there in the train station when I first arrive. I'm totally, obnoxiously oblivious to the other people around and whether I'm making them uncomfortable. But my boyfriend doesn't like PDA, and I am NOT disinterested in what makes HIM happy. So I get a peck on the cheek and maybe holding hands and I have to wait to finally let loose when we get back to his apartment. That's what it means to me that I love him: I value what is important to him simply because it is important to him.

[Stacyzee]

Any person who misses their boyfriend/girlfriend would react the way he does.

But since it makes you uncomfortable, I guess you have to be more stern when you tell him to stop.

This will definitely hurt his feelings.
He just wants to show you how much he has missed you.
When I am separated from a loved one... even for just a few days, I long for their touch.
I can only imagine weeks-months at a time.
This will be very devastating to him.
But then again, your feelings should be considered too.

You shouldn't feel embarrassed about something that is natural.
I guess the fact that you aren't used to public affection plays a role in that as well.
You need time to adjust to it.
Some people are more publicly affectionate than others.

[Taell]

Considering your age I presume that he thinks that's how you treat girls :) If it bothers you that much then tell him straight that you don't like it, if he carries on then you know it's not meant to be. There's nothing else you can really do.

[Bowshots86]

Tell him straight up when it gets to an uncomfortable extent. You have just as much if not more say in this than he does.