"How She Treats Her Dad is How She'll Treat Her Husband. How He Treats His Mother is How He'll Treat His Wife". Are These Sayings True to You?

[Realfire22]

In my opinion I honestly don't think this is true all the time. I treat my older brothers a certain way, my younger bros, my uncles, male cousins, stepdad, exstepdad, biological daddy differently.
Maybe it's just talking about in general?
A little help on this one? Lol

[pnl86]

So, doesn't have sex with him and constantly asks him for money...

In all seriousness, though, these are probably not true. A lot of guys behind bars were caught by the FBI or local police departments because the authorities knew they were "mama's boys" and "would be with their mother." These guys had excellent relationship with their mothers, but were the same guys being hunted down for sexual assault, assault with a deadly weapon, murder, or kidnapping... of their female partner.

The relationship a person has their their "parents" is not indicative of the relationship they will have with their "sexual partners."

It's not as simple as, "Oh, his mother is female, I'm a female, so if he treats his mother one way, that means that's how he treats females, which means that how he will treat me." No. It doesn't work that way.

"The reason" for behavior goes beyond simply what biological sex a person is. That's "just one small factor" in the face of thousands of other factors throughout a child's development.

A hard-and-fast rule simply based on gender is as useful a predictor of behavior towards sexual partners as is the correlation of rainfall in China with percentage changes in the U. S. Stock Market. Sure, you can take the data, run a regression, and come up with a correlation. But that doesn't mean that there's necessarily any kind of causal relationship between the two.

[Anonymous]

TLDR version: I agree that it is true all the time, but I think it does work in a lot of instances.

I agree that it is NOT always true, because mum/wife or dad/hubby are two different people and the interactions will be different. Having said that, I think it is a good guide as to how the 'partner' will treat you in the future. I've heard enough times where people said a person is attracted to another who is like his mother/her father. If this is the case, chances are the person will treat the partner as his mother/her father.

Personally, I don't think my wife is anything like my mum. Two very very different people. At the same time, I've brought up in a certain way, i. e. utmost respect for mum, as she was the only female in the house. Given the 'training' I've received, I tend to treat my wife in the same way as I would treat my mum.

[justbanANNAz]

i dont agree. as for me, my dad and i aren't as close as id like us to be. this is mainly because my dad is a man of very few words... I'm one a person of a little more than a few words:P so sometimes i just feel he isn't into the conversation. he does however show his affection through his actions so it isn't all bad.

i just hope my man is a little more... communicative.

[crystalt70]

I think you are taking this too literal. I do believe in this saying and have seen it firsthand. If a man or woman is disrespectful, rude, hateful, etc to their parent, they will eventually be that way with you.

[Realfire22]

The only way I know how to take this is literal because my parents and the older church people who raised me took/take it very literal. Every time a person is dating, they ALWAYS say to me,"Look at how s/he treats their parents. That's how you know how s/he will treat their S/O."

[crystalt70]

What I mean by you are taking it too literal is that you are making more of it than you should. Don't think about how you treat different people. This term basically means that if he/she is disrespectful/abusive to his/her parent, they will more than likely treat a significant other the same way.

[crystalt70]

For instance, my ex was verbally abusive to his mom and inconsiderate/disrespectful towards her. He treated me differently, but I never agreed with his behavior towards her. I tried to remain unobjective because I didn't know their history. I kept my thoughts to myself. It really wasn't my business anyway. Over the years, he started to treat me the same way. I should have taken my cue in the beginning and walked away.

[Realfire22]

Exactly what I'm talking about.

[Anonymous]

I don't see it that way. Many people have problematic family backgrounds. They may be indifferent towards their relatives, due to the possibility that their relatives are shitty people.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

These sayings could be true cause i always treated my mom good , now my sister on the other hand was not so nice to my mom ,

[Tromba]

No, I didn't get on with my mother very well, my wife and I are great.