My boyfriend is 32 years old... Im 17?

[Anonymous]

Okkkk i know this is insaane. But i love him. We started dating when i was 16 he works with my dad and he comes over to talk to him a lot. Then sneaks around with me. he's funny, cute, and amazing. Now i would NEVER have sex with him without marriage. And he knows that. But we do kiss and make out. He doesn't look like he's in his 30s. My parents have noo idea and im scared my dad will get him in trouble. I know you guys think im way to young but im mature. We almost got caught this one time because i was in my room and my dad went to the washroom and my boyfriend was over hanging around with my dad and he came into my room and we started to kiss on my bed. I was so scared my dad would walk in.. My dad called out his name and we didn't hear him, we were still kissing on my bed and my dad knockes on my door so i pushed him on the side of my bed and let my dad in... He asked where he was and i said i didn't know. We managed to get through it without getting in trouble. But i didn't want to go through all this so i just went to his house and we would talk and just hang out. he's definatly not using me for sex. he's single and has no kids. And he doesn't force me to do so. Anyways my question is should my dad know about this?

[pooper89]

How long have you been seeing him? And he's never asked you to have sex with him? Eventually he will start suggesting it more and more, and making you feel guilty for not having it with him, probably telling you that you're hurting the relationship by waiting. And that will be a problem.
Additionally, I understand that you're in love and it's got you seeing stars, but this whole keeping it from your dad is going to weigh down heavily on both of you eventually. I can see the shit hitting the fan.
Also, I don't see how this guy can really say he loves you. You're still in high school and he's a full grown man with adult things to take care of. You don't know the first thing about any of that stuff. I don't see how he can possibly relate to you. Or you to him. He's got 15 years on you. So when he was old enough to impregnate a girl, you were being born. Does that not bother you? Granted, age gaps like this CAN work out but that's usually when two people meet at much older ages, such as upper 20s-30s.

[Adaeze97]

I'm 18, My boyfriend is 32 going on 33. I'm waiting till marriage also and have never been pressured to have sex.
I hid is from my parents and they freaked out initially when they found out.
But on a serious note, I met him when I was 16 but he wasn't interested him because I was a CHILD, even though I looked easily pass as older. I only started dating him when I was 18 and I approached him first.
Beyonce started dating JayZ when she was 19 and he was 32. But I think you should wait until your at least 18.
I think you should tell your father.

[Cookies_AndMilk]

I know you really like this guy but he's a pedophile. You need to stay away from him especially if you get married and have children. He's a creep and I know you say you're mature but there's no way this huge age gap is going to work out. Tell your parents dear, they really do know what's best for you.

[Asker]

But he said he loves me

[Cookies_AndMilk]

I know sweetie, and I'm sure you feel really strongly about this man too but I can assure you he does not. It's not okay what's going on between the two of you and you really need to protect yourself. He may have not pressured you to have sex just yet but this man is an opportunist and he is preying on you since you're so young. I can almost guarantee that if your father found out and things blew up, this man would boast and throw it in your father's face to taunt him an hurt him. You're some sexual fantasy he's playing up right now and he thinks you'll believe anything he says. I honestly wouldn't advised anyone dating anymore than 5 years older, and even that may be too much. Stick with around 2-3 years of an age difference. You want someone you can grow up with and experience all of the exciting things about life and love with. This guy has been there and done that, someone your age is going to relate to you a million times better.

[JuicyBrain]

Don't marry that guy ever. You guys could have fun later, but you'll never be able to make a marriage last. Everybody loves beauty and youth, but you need much more to make a marriage work. What you guys have will never go further than a fun experience. Also, the fact that that guy is hiding means he knows he's doing something wrong. It doesn't sound good to me. You shouldn't take things too far with him before you are old enough (and if you are waiting for marriage, then never). Even though I am not against age gaps, I get a bad vibe from your story. The fact that you are underage plays a big part in that.

[PiuBelloAmante]

Never tell your dad, and stop fucking around with that guy
seriously you can cost your dad, a lot of humiliation and his job

no respect for your father smh

[ginnyweasley]

i just threw up in my mouth. he's a pedophile and a creep. there is no way this age gap would work out. you are at two different points in your lives. you're 17, your life is just beginning and should be stressed about college not about him. He is 32 he is life is starting to slow down because 32 year olds are married by now. i know he says he loves you but he is preying on you

[JustAguy91]

I hope you ran, I'm 32 years old and this is something that I couldn't even imagine doing, this grown man is merely molding you to his liking. You may not think of it this way, but trust me when i say he is using his life experience to his advantage to keep you under his thumb. You may be mature for your age but you will realize when you get older that at the age you are now you're still an impressionable young lady just entering womanhood. If you already left the situation then I'm happy you did, but if you didn't I hope you take what I'm commenting serious!

[ShaunaM95]

He's nearly twice your age. If I were you, I'd go find someone my own age. You're both in different stages in life, he's 32 and probably wants marriage and a family soon. Are you prepared for that, at 17? Maybe talk to him first anyway before you tell your dad.

[Hidden_P]

I personally don't think you should be together but I can tell there's not much point saying that.
However, if you're relationship is something you feel you should hide, should you be having it?

[AmandaLynn1930]

you should want your parents to know that you're seeing somebody. im not sure he'll like it, but being honest with your parents in definitely something you should practice :)

[Strider90]

I'll wait for your next question on here with a title such as ''I thought it was real love but now my life is ruined! What do I do now?''

[Bonnie12I27I12]

this makes me wonder why he cant/wont get a woman around his age. that should show a lot lol

[pooper89]

bazinga

[Anonymous]

Oh hey. I'm Maria. 17. And the guy I'm dating with is 32. He is my personal trainer. We were dating for a while, kissing and stuff but yesterday I had sex with him. Should I regret it? (Btw, he is so smart, kind.. unique.. He told me he loves me.. and he wants me by his side. We always talking.. having deep conversations..) ⚠HELP⚠ I think I'm falling for him. What to do?

[luv2cheer]

its illegal that is it. he knows its illegal which is why he sneaks around.

[Anonymous]

Girl this some crazy stuff , I don't even know what to say. I think you might just need to keep this a secret for a little while until you're 18 ...

[KidanisCortes]

This will end up with him in jail dont have sex till 18 and keep it out of the house

[jmmmfi2]

There's something seriously wrong with any 32 year old who sees nothing wrong with messing around with a minor

[Anonymous]

I don't see the problem.

Maybe you should get married with your parents' approval?

[18burakparlak]

It is not insane, it is ridiculous

[Anonymous]

you should leave him.

[Anonymous]

I'm 19 and my husband 30 and we're happy now

[CallOfSerendipity]

Go for it just be careful.

[Monsters]

It's illegal