I would want us both to be breadwinners. Nowadays it's almost necessary, because the job market can be unstable, cost of living is higher, etc. so having only one person earning for the family doesn't sound like a good idea to me.
If we have kids though, then I can understand one of us staying at home for a few years when they're younger, and it would be fine if that's him. I think we would just decide based on who has the better-paying, more stable job at the time.
Also, I'd prefer a partnership in which we make joint decisions, rather than having one person call all the shots. Even if I'm the temporary breadwinner for a while, that doesn't mean he has less of a say in how we run our lives.
It wouldn't depend on me it would be on how he feels about it. I never had a problem with it but I have dated a man who felt insecure about it and I didn't make him feel that way that was his own doing. Another guy I was with thrived off of me being the breadwinner as far as taking charge he wanted to control me and my money he felt that I should pay for everything instead of both of us splitting. I just want a man that respects my hustle and does not feel inferior to me and feels the need to take me down a notch to make himself feel better. It's just money it doesn't make anyone better than the other when people overthink who makes the most they lose sight of what's important in a relationship.
I'm currently the breadwinner in my relationship, and no, I actually don't mind it. If anything, I'm glad that I'm able to be efficient enough to provide for both of us.
However, I don't agree with the "letting him take charge" nonsense. As many others have said, relationships are partnerships, and so is the control at home. No one person gets to take charge of the other.
You should give all your money to him and serve your lord well...
@GirlsLie He is saying this ironically because this is what many men have to do with their partners who don't work and constantly complain and contemplate divorcing out of boredom
Nevermind, he's just sarcastically making fun of the guy. He's obviously not being serious. Last comment was wrong though, I skimmed and misread a few of the posts after thinking about it.
You stupid fucks. I'm being fucking serious. Have you heard of a PRE-FEMINIST world?
A woman's only purpose in life is to obey her lord&master and does everything she's told. Wife beating has always been considered good and often sanctioned by law to correct the behavior of women...
Woman is a slave race, and it must be kept in check!
Statisticly speaking relationships where the woman is the breadwinner are far more likely to end in a breakup/divorce. Both parties are more likely to cheat and the woman are more likely to report marital dissatisfaction. The fact is gender roles, whether we wish to admit it or not, are biologicly driven. Biology may not determine the nuances and specifics but they are responsible for the primary drives ie male provider. Obviously there are exceptions but statisticly its more likely to end poorly then not. www.telegraph.co.uk/.../...-poison-a-marriage.html
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There is no way I would let a female be over me in a relationship/marriage. Absolutely no way. I don't want some masculine woman. WTF? Just reading the comments from the ladies on this is topic is disheartening at the least. If she makes more money, great. But she isn't wearing the pants and bitching around our house. No freakn' way.
This pride/equality thing with women has got to go. No wonder you see so many single woman divorced with kids. It's exactly because of this. Men need to fucking learn their roles and quit letting women dominate them. Shouldn't even call them men, but boys.
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This isn't 1950, if a woman cares if you make less money than her than whatever that her choice but to me it doesn't matter at all. As long as he is doing what he loves or has goals he striving for who cares, and men shouldn't care they aren't making as much money as their girl. But of He wants to be a house dad, I'm cool with that , I guess as long as he is doing it right. Plus house work is a full time job , either way we both put work into our home and family, I don't believe in that crap the breadwinner gets the final say. We are both putting a hundred percent into our home in different ways and they are equal but in different ways.
Well my guy makes less than ME but he is rich in character VERY sexy and VERY handsome AND he cooks cleans and is a construction guy and a carpenter so he can fix everything in MY condo and he is VERY fun and makes me laugh and is VERY attentive to me and has been for the past 6 years we've been together - we will get married at some point he has a hard time that I OWN my condo but he prefers to pay for dates when we are out if he has the $$. To me we balance each other out I am the college girl with a career and condo owner and by my choice happily child FREE-he has 3 adult kids, and is not degreed - we have ver different backgrounds.
I would definitely date a guy who makes less than me as long as he does not find it emasculating. There is nothing emasculating about it but unfortunately some guys find it to be and cheat to make themselves feel better.
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I don't want him to 'take charge', if we are a couple than nobody takes charge. We decide things together.
Except that guys can't have babies... so the gal will have to take time off from work to do that.
And I don't think men, as a very general rule, are as good as women at being mothers. Evolution kind of programmed things the other way around.
And, speaking as a father, I would much rather my daughter introduce me to a prospective son-and-law who has his shit in one sock, who's physically able to keep her safe, and is a proven PROVIDER.
I would cringe if she brought home some guy who was still working at SAFEWAY while trying to make it as an "artist".
And I think it's a bad environment for males to be in - homekeepers. Means he'll be shopping in grocery stores, going to elementary school to drop off the kids... basically everywhere he goes he's going to be surrounded by women who are lonely homemakers at home themselves, bored, with nothing to do...
Except HIM!
LOL
Sure, I wouldn't care if I was the breadwinner as long as my income can comfortably support our family and he was doing the housework. But I don't think that being the man means he's inherently in charge, so he can be the man in the house, but he's not in charge of things.
No, because there isn't just one of us who can be in charge. It's a partnership, if we have to say that someone is in charge, then we're doing something wrong.
@fauchelevent PLEASE CHOOSE ME OMG.
@LordZoro Alas, my heart belongs to another but I'll keep you in mind :P
@LordZero Too much One Piece on my mind there apparently, I called you Zorro :P
Haha. Wow the women on this site are full of shit. This is why you never ask a woman for relationship.
No matter what a woman says, the proof is in how they act. Women are attractive to masculine guys who take charge. That's why they hate it when you ask them "what do you want to do". Ever since I learned to take charge, virtually every woman I go out with brings up how sexy it is when I take charge and tell her what to do.
It's simple biology. Estrogen makes women passive and attracted to guys who are in control. Not in control like a tyrant of course, but in control like a masculine man should be because of his testosterone. A woman being attracted to a guy who makes less money isn't impossible, but the guy is going to have a very difficult time getting her to fall in love if he does make less.
I'd date/marry a guy who earns less than me, yes. Assuming we work similar hours, I'd expect we would contribute equally to household labour, regardless of who brings in the larger paycheque. Household labour can, of course, be divided according to our skills and interests, but should balance out equally.
I would not date/marry someone who was a financial drain on me, though. If my partner cannot contribute meaningfully to the quality of life / lifestyle that I envision for my life, I can't imagine it would work out.
The phrasing in this question is beyond archaic.
It's about partnership, not about who "takes charge" or is "the breadwinner."
In order for a partnership to be successful, there needs to be equal responsibility. It's about having each other's backs.
I'm going to go ahead and say that I would rather be in a relationship where both parties share equal responsibility. As stated above.
@__jessicats I AM YOURS.
@LordZero pardon?
@__jessicats I want to be your boyfriend. <3
@LordZero no.
@__jessicats :( *sniffle*
Hahahaha! Lmfao!
Of course why not. I have always believed that a woman can do anything a man can and viceversa but my husband is my partner in life and I would always be subjected to him in some instances.
np :)
@luvstoned4him PLEASE CHOOSE ME OMG.
@LordZero wow... thats all I need to say.
@LordZero I would but I already got my boyfriend
@luvstoned4him Well, I'm glad you would have chosen me. <3 Hope you have a great time with your boyfriend.
@LordZero thanks I am :)
According to NYC dating stats, many young women were upset by the fact that in today's world, women graduate College at a higher level than men and make more $$$ (as more of them are professionals with higher-than-normal salaries), so the dating pool of men who make more than them has shrunk. Do NOT believe that women will marry a guy (like in the Opera La Boheme) when he is a home-bound pauper. Perhaps a Brad Pitt could carry that off, but almost nobody else can. So it's not a matter of the woman letting him take charge, she is not allowing him in her life!!! Another brutal stat from the same story (I believe it was in Cosmo) said that 69% of them would dump their boyfriend if he became unemployed!!! Men, on the other hand, would "rescue" her from that situation. Men are by far more altruistic and romantic, at least IN THIS COUNTRY. Which is why I date people not born here, but from Japan, South America, Europe etc. Most of those women still have a heart.
Haha no, because it's both of our houses, and we'll work as a team to have a functional home. Like hell he'll be the "man" of any house as long as we're together and living together. If I'm providing for both of us, that means I'm calling some of the shots too. He can be the man of the door, if he has a problem with both of us being heads of the household.
I would rather be the one with the kids, honestly. I'm the one who is going to be recovering from birth and breastfeeding and I'll need to be with them more, so I would like if my husband had a regular job. He doesn't have to be a millionaire, but if I'm the "breadwinner" I would want us to be stable while I'm recovering and nursing.
I wouldn't want a relationship where my boyfriend is dominant in one area and I would be dominant in another area. I think I would just allow whatever to happen and if it works it works, if it doesn't work well there is room for improvement.
If I need to speak up about something and he does to well cool, that's where we'll start then.
Definitely- I would not mind. My dream career is a neurosurgeon or an anesthetist which are typically high-earning jobs. If the guy has a lower paying job then myself but he is smart, good-looking and has a great sense of humour, then I would happily go out with him.
But there would be complications with him being in charge and the figure of dominance between us.
I don't care if she's the breadwinner. Who cares who earns more money? We're together, and if we're married, what's mine is yours and vice versa.
As long as we're both working the jobs we want and we're happy, who cares who's the breadwinner? And even if she's the breadwinner, it's not gonna stop me from spoiling her.
I honestly don't give a shit who the bread winner is. As long as we can survive and make it through lifes cycle, whether it be through combined incomes or solely hers or mine then thats all that matters. Being a firefighter/EMT, the pay is not that great but it is what I love. Currently, the woman I am seeing is the bread winner and when it comes to making decisions, they are done equally.
I earn quite a bit more than my partner, but allow him to take charge of the house? Do you mean clean and cook and do the laundry? Sure - if he wants to Take Charge of the House he can do all the domestic chores he likes, I'd happily sit back and do nothing when I get home from work.
I would prefer if the woman was a breadwinner. I want a dominant woman to control my life. But I want to be the boss in bed, or we could take turns, LOL. I think I'm better with kids than most women. I think the concept of breadwinner will not last for much longer, though. With Agenda 2030 going into full swing, there will be no poverty or famine in 15 years. It's a stepping stone into a more cooler future portrayed by the Venus Project and the Free World Charter.
@alibaba42
You're getting really lucky with the answers from the girls. I think girls want to be your breadwinner. Lucky man. I'm going to become a wanderer again, soon. I think it's time to unlock my potential on this planet.
I know how to take care of a house and keep it clean and in good repair as well as stocked with food and essentials. So yeah, I'd be a househusband if the situation dictated.
"Taking charge" would never work in my relationship, by either of us. I want mutual respect, no matter who the "breadwinner" is.
I would be fine making the majority of the money though, it wouldn't change anything in my mind.
I wouldn't personally like it. Call me a chauvinist, but if a dude cannot support the bare minimum of a household, then he does not have his shit together and shouldn't be dating/marrying.
Maybe that's the German in me, lol.
I am the breadwinner and my ex who said he was fine with it turned out he wasn't ok with it afterall and turned into a jerk... all he had to do was just let follow my aspirations, love me, support me. And yes I still want my man to be a man - not take charge and boss me around to make himself feel bigger but just be a safe place to come home to.
I have tried this. As long as he doesn't use me and be lazy (like literally sleeping in until 3PM, wakes up to play video games all day, never cleans up, etc.) I would be ok with that. I work from home, so I will know what he's up to. But "man of the house and take charge"? No, it's a partnership, we both should consult one another and take responsibility.
women can't take stress well and sooner or later you're gonna have to ball the fuck up and be the man of the house and take charge? how da hell you expect her to respect you when you ain't paying the bills? huh
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This is the dumbest thing I've read all day
I see things on an individual basis not based on gender roles, he should do whatever he is best at and if that is household stuff then of course he should be able to do what he wants! If my income was enough to support us both then sure.
I make double what my boyfriend makes so if we were to get married, I would be the primary breadwinner. But even now I let him take charge in our relationship. He's still the 'man' and I listen to his opinions and respect him, just as I would someone who made 100 times his income
I'm the breadwinner in the house, and I love it.
I'm also the one who takes charge, and what you would call "being the man of the house". Nothing wrong with that, in my opinion. :)
I wouldn't care which of us made more money
Being the 'man in the house and tak[ing] charge' I wouldn't be comfortable with even if he made more money; we'd make decisions together
I would feel kind of off because of it. Not because there's anything inherently wrong with women being breadwinners, there isn't, but just that it's quite unusual.
I'd feel really awkward. I wouldn't like to have someone who's paying everything for me so I'd get a job and both of us can be the breadwinners!
In that case I wouldn't mind as long as I can pull my own weight.
totally fine with me but I do not like the idea of anyone "taking charge" not sure how you mean it but it has a very negative connotation in my mind.
I wouldn't mind as long as I was making enough to comfortably support both of us. I feel like the guy would have more problems with it.
What do you mean by breadwinner?
In the future I wouldn't mind making more money, but when we have babies I want to be the primary caretaker
I wouldn't like it for the reason of me being the money-less housekeeper. I want to make money too ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
That question is based on some sort of the traditional past but the other way around D:
If i happens to have a high paid job, then by all means. I'd be more than Glad to not had to take care of the house lol
This question, again?
Why can't both parts be their own "breadwinner" in the relationship.
It doesn't matter who the breadwinner is. It could be the both of you too
Normally, no, but here's the thing: women get mean when they get the argue and being the breadwinner might be something they'll use against you.
Have you ever had an argument with your woman?
There is no feminism or equality when that happens!!
"Well, I dont argue with women."
You're missing out on the joys of manhood.
It can be but women usually bitch when they dominate.
girls say that they would, but in practice, they think its pathetic and they would never date a guy that makes less than them
I'd love it.
Also screw "taking charge" or "being the man of the house", those are sexist concepts anyway.
Women now don't seem to mind doing it, mostly. 40 years ago if you suggested that, you would be laughed at right in your face. By both sexes.
If I made enough money, I would be the breadwinner. But I prefer for us to share decision making, either way.
I'm so happy about the female responses to this question :D
What's @MissNowhere is mineeeee she can bring home the bread.
I don't wanna. 😛
My wife is the breadwinner and it is working out great.
Most women won't date men who make less than them.
Women who are with men who make less typically are there due to the relationship being established BEFORE she started making more than him.
I wouldn't mind being the breadwinner but he isn't in charge of me or the house. Marriage is a partnership not a fight for dominance.
how about you both work
I don't want a breadwinner at all. I want 50/50.
No I would not be happy with that.
I'd be fine if she earned more than me.
many women do.
@LordZero I'm not one of them.
@LordZero and if you're going to troll, don't do it on my opinion.
@VampireEmpress @alibaba42 I'm not trolling you guys. :(
wait, free money? ecause thats all i heard
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