My boyfriend bought another woman coffee while getting an estimate to fix our car. Should I be concerned?

[ConfusedKate]

He claims he loves me, wants to marry me
talks about our future a lot. But he never wants to have sex with me anymore cause he's always too tired... Found out today he bought a girl a coffee that was writing the estimate to fix our car and I'm jealous cause..
well i guess cause I'm mad he won't have sex with me lol thoughts?

Updates

+1 y

Okay thanks for the opinions everyone. So how bad would it be if I checked his phone in a few days to see if they ended up exchanging numbers... I know snooping is bad buttt lol

[xHoneyxBeex]

It's just coffee, I wouldn't read too much into it. It's not like he actually went out with her for a coffee date. I'm sure it didn't mean much beyond him just being nice. Don't worry about it too much. If you're unhappy with your sex life, I would just recommend talking to him about it. Having that open and honest communication with your partner is very important for successful relationships :)

[alfonsosloan45]

I HIGHLY DISAGREE. Men buying a woman anything tends to have motives behind it.

[alfonsosloan45]

You define it as being nice because women are use to having men buy things for them, so from your perspective this is NORMAL. However, from a man's perspective we still had to spend money. No matter how much. From your perspective it is a little bit but from our perspective it is still money. He definitely over stepped.

[xHoneyxBeex]

@alfonsosloan45 You're making a lot of generalizations there. "Women are used to having men buy things for them" <--- not true for me. I actually don't like when anyone spends money on me and I'm perfectly capable of buying my own coffee.

So of course my opinion is from my perspective just like your opinion is from your own perspective. But I think unless you're her husband, no one can truly speak about his motives which is why I told her to talk to him about it.

[ConfusedKate]

I have talked to him about the sex love and he just goes silent won't say anything

[xHoneyxBeex]

Well to me, that would be more of a problem than him buying coffee for someone. Lack of communication isn't good and if he won't talk to you about the subject then that would be concerning to me.

[moistycakes]

Depends on what kind of guy he is I guess. If he's been douchy and done things in the past to make him not trustworthy its probably not just coffee, but then again it is just coffee. Try having a chat with him about how things are going and get a vibe. Don't go nuts because he might have just been getting her coffee :)

[marylittleton]

Honestly, I'd be PISSED. I think sex is *really* important in relationships, and if it isn't happening (especially if it's because of the guy) then I would definitely see it as trouble waiting to happen.

[marylittleton]

PS: Yes, I would totally check his phone! If he's (potentially cheating) and thinking you don't deserve the respect of knowing about it, then he doesn't deserve YOUR respecting his privacy!

[meatballs21]

It's just one small step from him trying to butter up the garage staff in the hopes of maybe getting a cheaper estimate for your car repairs, to him pounding her hard up the ass in your conjugal bed. Obviously.

[Anonymous]

Yah, first he's buying this new interesting girl coffee then he's going deep inside and just leaving the nuts hanging out.

[Bards]

ARE YOU FUCKING SERIOUS

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[ConfusedKate]

Lol this made me laugh thank you lol

[Bards]

Lmfao np

[alfonsosloan45]

YES, THAT IS A RED FLAG.