She said that we should let time decide when I told her about my feelings, what does this mean?

[theegreat017]

She lives really far away, and we have never seen each other in real lives.
We have Skyped, and we chat regularly.
I am in love with her, she's older to me by 6 years and she's single.

I am in college and she works.
We know each other since two years.
But she says that we should 'let time decide' and that we'll see what happens and that 'so many things could change'. What does this mean?

[farscryer0]

In my experience, long distance relationships NEVER work out. Why? Because you never SEE one another, never reinforce that aspect of closeness that is natural and required by all relationships.

"Let time decide" is a good euphemism for, "I'll keep you in my ledger on the off chance I'm in the area and you're still single." That's it, dude. Add the fact that she's older than you by six years and she's basically keeping up a list on a supply of easy-to-please guys willing to invest in should it prove necessary. Let her go and move on, bruh.

[theegreat017]

Haha man that's very negative. Sigh* i hope that's not true.

[farscryer0]

It is what it is. You don't see each other everyday, you don't know her day-to-day beyond what she tells you, and hell, you've never met with her in person and spent a day in the life in her world.

Ultimately, you know only what she's been willing to admit to you and even that's behind a double-barrier of distance + internet. Make of that what you will, bruh.

[Prince_teddy4u]

Girls speaks less and show more and give only hints. She's ready for you.

[Offthelist]

That means if you want to tKe it to the next level she'll willingly let you. If you want to meet her parents etc.. The doors are open for you to control the pace if you so chose to

[theegreat017]

That's quite perplexing, why does she not say that she wants me? I do want to take it to the next level of course.

[Offthelist]

Yup.

[theegreat017]

What yup?

[Offthelist]

I mean yes things could change. And honestly.. i know they will. Just wait. you'll see.🙃

[Offthelist]

I know this because her feelings for you haven't wavered since falling in love with you. Life is just getting in her way, stressful, but shell find a way around it. .. Find her way to you.

[theegreat017]

She said she doesn't know if she'll fall in love with me, but i hope she finds my way to me.

[Offthelist]

By "finding her way" she means giving you her heart. Letting it (find its way to you)

[Offthelist]

When was the last time you spoke? as cliche as it is my intuition says you're the only one she wants, intellectually, intimately, sexually etc. She probably just doesn't know what page you are on

[theegreat017]

We spoke two weeks ago, i have been trying to catch up, we had decided to chat today but she fell asleep, and i am kinda mad at her. I feel that she likes me too, but the first time i told her she said that it was her fault to lead me into thinking something, and she got upset and everyday gave some new reason like 'i am just the friend everytime' and 'you can have someone so much better' and 'i have trust issues' so now she says we should just let time decide, i can understand bc i don't earn yet, i don't have much to offer to her, she lives on the opposite end of the world.

[selmo93]

It means she doesn't want to label things but to see if thing happen over time

[theegreat017]

I See, things like what basically?

[selmo93]

Like meeting up, or if you'll even work