I have a crush on a depressed girl?

[Somewhat_Normal]

So there's a girl I'm friends with, and recently she's become extremely depressed and suicidal at times. She's attempted self-harm several times and I'm there for her every day, supporting her as she goes through this.
She tends to have these depressive states in bouts so they come and go very suddenly, but when she's fine, she's wonderful. We have so much in common, we're both open about everything and we even sorta flirt a bit. But when it comes back to her feeling really low about herself, I feel as if there's nothing I can do anymore considering I already do as much as possible.
It also makes me feel helpless as I can't start any sort of relationship with her but we're still so close, what am I supposed to do? I feel like shit for not letting her how I feel but I don't wanna burden her with anymore emotional attachments than she already has stressing her out.

[dancingqueen87]

Coming from a depressed person, do not make any moves she would misinterpret. When i am depressed the slightest actions can cause a panic attack on top of the depression. I dont know how she is though. Your main role when she is like that is to be there for her. I like it when someone tries to flirt a little bit to lighten the mood. Mainly because it makes me feel loved and less alone. It comes and goes because its a chemical imbalance so you will need to take it day by day. She really should see a doctor though thats going to be very important. The best thing i can think for you to do is just talk to her, make sure she's doing okay. Make her laugh, make her smile, let her know she can tell you anything and you won't pass judgement. Make her feel not so alone in the world. remember through text to choose your words carefully so nothing comes off wrong. I remember when i had to talk my best friend out of suicide, i gave her every reason to live. you need to be her safe space. Now i dont know this girl or the situation, im just speaking from what works for me when I am like this.

[Luminifera]

has she gone to a doctor? I've been that girl, reading this I feel a bit of empathy for the boys who knew me hahaha

[Somewhat_Normal]

Doctors, therapists, psychologists, she's seen ALL of them. They've all come to the conclusion that she's depressed and it's triggering some sort of bi-polar event where she's fine some times but gets these random suicidal and crushing thoughts that pull her down.

[Luminifera]

does she get medication?

[Somewhat_Normal]

She was prescribed some anti-depressants but I'm not sure if she still takes them, this was a little over a year ago

[Luminifera]

as far as I know, you should only stop taking medication when your doctor says you're ready... and if she's still having crises, I guess she wasn't. :( ask her if she can talk to her therapist about it? medication is what helped me.

[Somewhat_Normal]

Hmm I'll look into it with her. Thanks for the advice, I don't want her wasting away her life in these depressed states, hopefully she can get better with time

[Luminifera]

yup. best wishes for her <3

[Somewhat_Normal]

Thank you 😊

[DisastrousQu33n]

I have been in this situation before, and it never ends well.

[April10]

She's not ready for anything. Just be her friend

[Somewhat_Normal]

That's what I thought, she's dealing with too much already and I don't want to add to that.