He's engaged but tells me he loves me?

[Anonymous]

so basically this guy that recently started where I work has been interested in me for a few months. I tried to stay away for several reasons not really worth mentioning but recently gave into the way I was feeling. once I accepted how I was feeling I find out that he is engaged. I was upset but such was life. the problem begins at that point because he continued to pursue me but because I was more open with him things started to develop fast. at first I hoped that it was a marriage of convenience as the girl he is going to marry is in another country and I figured he was just trying to bring her into the country. unfortunately I did not confront him about the details until after we got involved. we started sleeping together and that is when the relationship became much more intense. when I finally had enough courage to confront him about it he admitted that he did in fact love her. he would keep telling me that things between him and I would only be temporary so I tried to end it but he insisted that I remain part of his life somehow. I tried to stay away from him but because he kept contacting me I inevitably gave in. he tells me that he loves me and that he considered leaving her to be with me but that he can't do it. I have since ended it again but am afraid I will break and give into him again. it has only been two days but I have not seen him either. Mon we are back at work and I will need to face him everyday again. how do I stay away?

[ty-lady]

People say that we cannot help who we fall in love with but that is bullsh*t! You are participating in your own failure. I am not judging you cause I don't want others to do it to me but you have to know that what you are doing is wrong. Everything that goes around, comes around and you don't want any parts of that. You are giving him all of you for what? He admitted that he is in love with someone else, what are you giving yourself for?

I have found that a lot of women fall into these scenarios only to find themselves alone at the end of the path. How can he say that he loves her and lay with you and look her in the eyes the next day. Is that really the kind of "man" you want for yourself? He is the type that will have slept with all of your bridesmaids at your wedding...Really! Good luck! Ty_lady!

[autumnsky]

he sounds like a total creep. anyway if you want to stay away ... you tell him that you can't keep doing this and you stand your ground. Think about it from an outsiders prospective... he's engaged... and sleeping around behind her back and telling another girl he loves her... that just sounds slimey to me. And if he "loves" his finance and is doing that to her, and he said he loved you, garunteed he will do the same to you. If he hasn't already.

goodluck!

[Anonymous]

Kinda hard when you work together, and if it ends things will be weird or if you get married you end up with the reputatoin as a home wrecker or the other woman.

Sounds like he going to marry her, and is just using you as a fling or fwb, if you are ok with a casual arrangement great otherwise keep looking..

[Benson01]

You can't stay away you work with him so he's probably going to find a way back in your heart again I'm guessing.