My boyfriend and I have been together for several years now. Unfortunately, he had cheated (not physically) on me numerous times.
On the day I had enough and was going to leave him, he brought a cheap ring (as that's all he could afford at the time), and he 'proposed'.
The ring was never the problem because he promised he would buy a more expensive one later. He told everyone we were 'engaged' but has never officially announced it or set an actual date.
I class it more as a promise ring, and to my knowledge, he hasn't cheated on me since. And yes, know what you're thinking. He cheated on you multiple times, but yet you're still with him? Yes, because I love him, and it's been more complicated than I can explain.
Since then, its been nearly 4 years. No plans, nothing. I keep on telling myself that he will actually propose later on. But then I wonder why he is still telling people we are engaged?
I talked to him about the wedding and he says "we are to young to get married right now" or "you want a bug wedding so we have to wait till you're better because you dont wanna be covered in makeup" I guess he's right because I have earing disorder, low self esteem an mental health issues.
But when I asked if we could get engaged and married, the one that was a red flag was "we literally live like a married couple right now, so what the point of getting married?""
Now, yes, I know what this sounds like. We are in debt and haven't even got our own place. But he knows I want a nice wedding and a family one day. I'm not sure what to do because I am torn because I love him, but another side tells me he is abusive towards me đ
On the day I had enough and was going to leave him, he brought a cheap ring (as that's all he could afford at the time), and he 'proposed'.
The ring was never the problem because he promised he would buy a more expensive one later. He told everyone we were 'engaged' but has never officially announced it or set an actual date.
I class it more as a promise ring, and to my knowledge, he hasn't cheated on me since. And yes, know what you're thinking. He cheated on you multiple times, but yet you're still with him? Yes, because I love him, and it's been more complicated than I can explain.
Since then, its been nearly 4 years. No plans, nothing. I keep on telling myself that he will actually propose later on. But then I wonder why he is still telling people we are engaged?
I talked to him about the wedding and he says "we are to young to get married right now" or "you want a bug wedding so we have to wait till you're better because you dont wanna be covered in makeup" I guess he's right because I have earing disorder, low self esteem an mental health issues.
But when I asked if we could get engaged and married, the one that was a red flag was "we literally live like a married couple right now, so what the point of getting married?""
Now, yes, I know what this sounds like. We are in debt and haven't even got our own place. But he knows I want a nice wedding and a family one day. I'm not sure what to do because I am torn because I love him, but another side tells me he is abusive towards me đ
