How to make a guy jealous and miss you?

[Elisa13]

if you dont often see the guy that is, any online techniques? He was the sweetest guy ever and then basically ghosted me so now I need advise

-PLEASE only helpful comments and no comments of hate saying "you shouldn't want to make him jealous"

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please more advise

[ak666]

Triggering jealousy is a good way to start doing serious damage to the relationship which could continue to spiral downwards and eventually ending it.

Making him miss you is not a bad idea but I'd put a tweak to the wording.

Tricky thing is that if he started ghosting a bit, he's probably losing interest. So he's generally not going to start missing you all of a sudden if you start to show signs yourself of losing interest.

I would say to look at this instead of "missing you" in a situation where you're already kind of being cut off as "wanting you again".

To make him "want you again" with only online means, that's tricky. Maybe showing incredibly sexy pictures of yourself might do the trick, especially if you two had a sexual history. If you don't have a sexual history that might still help in that it might make him wonder how you'd be like in the bedroom.

Another is maybe show him no sign of interest simultaneously. If whatever you were doing last caused him to lose interest, it helps to see if you've kind of moved on and maybe changed in some way. For example, if you were showering him with love before, it might just help to show off your independence and how much your life no longer needs him.

It's all a game of attraction. Attracting him again will do it.

[ak666]

I realize I somewhat seemed to contradict myself in these two sentences:

>> [...] he's generally not going to start missing you all of a sudden if you start to show signs yourself of losing interest.

>> Another is maybe show him no sign of interest simultaneously.

The difference is motive and context. If your reasoning for it is to make him want you again because maybe he felt smothered by you, that's the right kind of idea. If your reasoning is to stop showing interest in a guy who' s losing interest in you thinking that will make him miss you all of a sudden, wrong idea.

[ak666]

Put simply, the goal is to be *attractive* and *desirable* to him again.

Trying to make him "miss you" would kind of be in the mindset of trying to trigger some feeling from the past that he overlooked. Chances are, from his perspective, he overlooked nothing. He did not develop amnesia.

Be attractive to him. Be easy-going, fun, approachable, sexy, free-spirited, etc. Focus on making him "want" you more than "miss you". Think of it like the relationship was reset to some degree.

[mattty]

If you try to make him jelous it might amplify "ghosting you" and he might even do the same thing to you and flirt with other girls. Is that what you want? But if you're trying to do that online then take pictures with friends while having fun. Take some pictures with both guys and girls while having fun without him.

[far2gud4u]

OK this is helpful but I will still tell you not to make him jealous... This will cause damage and insecurity so you will never have the real him if you do this.

I'm getting on now and at your age I would have totally taken the same route but it never worked. You cannot trick someone into thinking they want you, they only realise eventually they dont when you have both put a lot into the relationship and it just hurts more.

If he wants you he will come to you, the best thing is to let him miss you. You go incognito and let him wonder but dont make him think you are talking to other guys.

[Elisa13]

I know but I want him to know his not my one and only (seeing I basically told him is perfect) bc now he has a big head and doesn't ever have time for me.. i totally get where ur coming from and ur advise is actually quite true, thanks <3

[far2gud4u]

Well just back off, enjoy time without him. That bugs them more!

[PurpleTeardrops2]

Ignore him. If he cares, he'll come back. If not, forget his tiny dick!