He doesn't make an effort to see me, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend of almost 2 years NEVER make an effort to come see me. I always drive over to his place and hang out with him. I would drive a total of 40 miles from my house to his and back, and that would be almost everyday. its a problem because my car requires a premium and its eating up my wallet... The only reason why he would come to my neck of the woods is if there's an errand he needs to do but never really stay to spend time with me. It bothers me because the last time he ever came to actually spend time with me was all the way back in June. Like today, he only came over to my house because he wanted someone to go furniture Shopping with him. And he just dropped me off afterwards. What should I do for him to make efforts to actually come to me and spend time with me...

[pr3ttybr0wn]

You should dump him. guys make effort for what they feel is important. it doesn't even sound like this guy is your boyfriend... like does he consider you his girlfriend? does he publicly claim you? his behavior is pretty selfish and doesn't show that he likes u a whole lot so if I were u I would just leave him alone and find a guy who will meet me halfway.

stop driving over his place and stop returning his calls/txts. this will make him worried because you're not doing what he's used to you doing. then when he asks you why he hasn't seen you, tell him that you are low on gas and don't have time to come out and see him. then act distracted like u need to get off the phone. his reaction and what he does next will tell u everything u need to know

[livelife1018]

I would talk to him that he isn't putting effort into the relationship, and that you would like to see him put more effort. Relationship is about communicating and putting effort into a relationship. If he is not willing to do any of that then I think you need to break up with him, I know someone who's boyfriend didn't want to see her and she got upset and then later found out he was just really nervous to see her. In this situation seems different because it's been 2 years. Talk to him and see what happens.

[Anonymous]

If a guy really likes a girl he will make effort, regardless.

[10dsw]

Mhmm he's barely interested in you/has lost interest in you.

Google search "signs he has lost interest".

I'm sorry about that.

[Asker]

Thank you. And I honestly do feel like he has... And I am upset and I made him known of that.

[10dsw]

I'm definitely not one to go out of my way for a girl... I'll be the first to admit this.

But if a girl is showing me that she is putting effort into learning more about me, I would definitely return the favour

[Anonymous]

He's your boyfriend but you aren't his girlfriend. You are sex that he orders for home delivery. Sort of a fuck-pizza.

[Anonymous]

Why do you keep driving over to his place then?

[Asker]

Well I guess the main reason why I drive over to his place a lot is because he pays for pretty much everything, so I feel kinda obligated... But it's also because he has a full time job and has a career and I don't. I'm still a college student, but I pay for stuff when I can. He gives a lot of material things but sometimes I just want small gestures like coming over to my house to see me and not just give me shoes to make up for it.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, you need love and cuddles.

[Asker]

😂 yeah I do. Thanks

[Opinion Owner]

Why are you laughing?