I’ve been dating this guy for a little over a month. He and I have been sexually active and this is the first time I’m having sex with someone who isn’t my boyfriend, so I have anxiety after sex sometimes. I mainly have anxiety because I don’t know if he is boyfriend material. He’s nice to me but he doesn’t communicate with me, like when he is going out of town and other things. His dad is famous so he travels a lot with him. When I ask him to communicate more he tells me he doesn’t like being told what to do. He seems to have a problem with being told what to do, even if it’s small. He isn’t open with me or vulnerable at all. I know it’s a short time. The other night we had sex and I felt severe anxiety after. I texted him that I’m looking for something with more meaning and I don’t want friends with benefits. He didn’t respond until later saying “he just woke up”, nothing else. I was kinda upset so I said “okay bro, I have your hat do you want it back while I’m in the area”. He got upset that I called him bro and told me to throw the hat away. I told him if he’s upset about something he could always just tell me what’s bothering him. He has been ignoring me ever since. Should I apologize for calling him bro, or reach out to him, or should I just move on?
Oh wow. You messed up so badly. You were his whore whenever he was in town, nothing more. What's worse is this will probably resonate with future relationships going forward. I'm going to say this right out the gate, get therapy before your next relationship and seek professional counsel on how to pick better men.
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You played yourself. You had sex with someone before getting a commitment.. you had sex with someone who wasn't available to communicate regularly... now you want something serious after he had sex with you... yea you played yourself.
He showed you who he was in the beginning and you still pursued it... what you should do is leave it alone and move on. Lesson learned. He doesn't like you or want you
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Why are you putting yourself in this position? The dude is obviously using you. Wake up.
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