I hate when my boyfriend smokes weed?

[Anonymous]

Not that I have anything against weed or people who smoke it, I even do it myself occasionally. (But rarely) Anyways my boyfriend smokes like everyday and I never could understand why it bothered me so bad. Finally I realized that I wasn't actually getting upset about him smoking weed... what makes me upset is not knowing who he's smoking with and the time I lose with him because of it... My boyfriend and I talk on the phone ALL DAY EVERYDAY like we fall asleep otp and wake up otp etc. I even talk to him otp at school. That's another thing we can't talk as much because school started back... to get to the point I'm used to talking to him pretty much 24/7 even when he's in the car with his mom etc. But the one time were not on the phone is when he goes to smoke... which he does this like EVERYDAY !!! His cousin and his girlfriend pick him up like everyday and they all go smoke. It's always later at night and there always gone for hours. This is starting to get really annoying because it's usually around the time when I'm just about to lay down for school but I like talking to my boyfriend during this time... this gets in the way of that. When he gets back home I'm usually sleep so we don't even get to fall asleep otp. It's so annoying how he won't even tell me he's about to go smoke until the last minute. We will just be having a good conversation then suddenly someone will call him or whatever and he will say he's about to go smoke etc. I hate that this bothers me so much. It really started bothering me after he smoked with this girl I didn't care for multiple times after I told him not to and he also smoked with two random girls with his cousin. I guess what bothers me the most is the fear of him being around or meeting new girls while he smokes. I have a lot of trust in my boyfriend but I have trust issues so there's always a part of me that worries and thinks of the worst. How can I get over this? Am I over exasperating?

[Brooksbaby93]

That's a little to much I would say he's with his cousin and his cousins girlfriend and you guys really shouldn't be otp 24/7 like that it really isn't he lay at all. It may be why he's smoking everyday. Have you talked to him about it. I don't know that just me I love my boyfriend to death and we live togther but I like my alone time so does he. Plus he's not a piece of meat that you own no offense meant at all he's human. Ya know. I would really just ask him why he smokes when you're supposed to tall or maybe change the times of tlaking. Or something compromise.

[sailorjupiter]

weed is never cool. i had a friend who have a boyfriend that smoking weed every single day, skip classes, lazy ass... I don't want to be those nerd who said "weed is not cool", it's okay but not like this. and to be honest, he's still struggling to find job this day, we're already 28, should have a real job by the way. it's not the weed, it's his attitude.

It's ok to enjoy life, but don't overdoing it. that's not cool at all, find a real man.

[Dred1614returns]

Leave him

[Asker]

But I love him...

[Dred1614returns]

You're not even 18. You don't love him.

[Asker]

That doesn't mean anything... and he's 18
He's a great guy and he does everything right this is the only thing and he doesn't even know I feel this way

[Dred1614returns]

Being a druggis is kind of a big deal. If you don't like that, odds are, your relationship is doomed. Regardless of how much you "love him".

[Dred1614returns]

*druggie

[Asker]

He's going to eventually have to stop

[Dred1614returns]

People like that usually don't stop.

[Asker]

Yea I don't know he says it helps with his depression...

[Dred1614returns]

He should see a doctor.

[Asker]

I don't know he doesn't like speaking to therapist etc.

[Dred1614returns]

Then he's a fool. You can do much better.

[Anonymous]

well boys will be boys. The key is to find a real man.

[Asker]

He's a great guy and everything like he does everything right, this is the only thing and he doesn't even know that I feel this way.

[Opinion Owner]

Well he sounds very young. Older guys tend to know these things lol.. Is he like 15 or?

[Asker]

He's 18... he knew that I didn't like him smoking and said he would stop multiple times and even tried to at a point but I told him he didn't have to so now i pretend like I'm okay with it

[Opinion Owner]

And he believes you because boys that young are very impressionable. So sweet.

[Asker]

Well I don't show that I have a problem with it at all. I just actually sat and thought about it today and realized what was really bothering me

[Opinion Owner]

Interestingggg...

[Anonymous]

Future welfare recipient there