Ex girlfriend had sex with another guy 6 days after we broke up. Should I get back together with her?

[Anonymous]

We were together for 4 years and we decided to take a break a few weeks ago because everything was getting to be too much for us. We were going to get back together but yesterday I found out that she slept with another guy while we were broken up. Even worse, it was literally just 6 days (!!) after we ended things. I love her but I don't think I can be with someone who could do that. Do you think I should get back together with her or just forget about her and move on?

Don't get back together with her; move on

Get back together with her

Don't know

[FashionQueen86]

First of all, I never really understood the "Take a break" in relationships, because relationships are supposed to be ongoing. There's no Break, Lunch Hour, Or Recess in a relationship, becuase once you two unite, the problems are still there that still need to be discussed (that should have been resolved earlier). The only thing space does is create uncertainty, assumptions, and trust issues.

Secondly, if she was truly serious about you and the relationship, she would have worked hard with you in how to get you both back together and trust each other again with better communication. Instead, she wasted no time moving on, which tells me you were not much of a priority, nor did she miss you. Just makes me wonder if she was fooling around behind her back more than you think.

You've lost nothing special. Dust yourself off and prepare yourself for a much better woman.

[MargaritaPeach]

If your profile has put you in the correct age range, then you and her are likely both still very young. And if you've been faithful to each other for four years, it's possible that you're the only guy she's ever been with. Maybe she was curious. Maybe she wanted to spread her wings a little, so to speak. Only she knows her motives. She may also have been feeling heartbroken and was seeking some solace and consolation. You've already broken up; I'd say give yourselves at least six weeks after the initial break up happened so that you will both have a clear mind about things.

[Imbisexual19]

If she can honestly do that, why would you want to be with her? I've only known my husband for about 1.75 years and I've been married to him for almost a year. But if we were to divorce today, I wouldn't want to be with another man for a LONG LONG time. I'd be so heartbroken and so depressed I couldn't even think about even talking to another man. And if he had sex with a girl even within the first month, I wouldn't be happy at all. If she loved you so much, and you were the best man to her for 4 years, she wouldn't be able to just screw another man like that.

[Sara413]

Ugh... WHY do people do that stupid fucking "taking a break" thing anyways? What exactly do you think that's gonna accomplish?

Either you stick it out and work through your problems together, or break up.

[Asker]

Technically we did break up...

[Sara413]

You said you were taking a break and planning to get back together.

That's dumb.

Either break up or don't. When you "take a break" all it does is create confusion and bitterness...

[mwin2030]

If she is willing to jump into sex that quickly after breaking up with you, then obviously your relationship together wasn’t that important to her and your or her feelings for each other wasn’t all that deep, because she was able to set them aside so easily as well as so quickly. You deserve someone who’s going to think better of you than that. Granted she may have or may not have been hurt by the breakup but that’s no excuse to just turn around in that short period of time and start spreading your legs for someone else. There is a reasonable amount of ‘mourning’ I suppose you could say; an unwritten rule that you just don’t do that to each other, unless you’re doing it out of spite and if that’s the case, that’s one more reason not to go back to her. That’s my bottom line.

[truthbeknown]

If you really meant something to her and she had true feelings for you, even though you had fights and took a break, she shouldn't be willing to fuck another guy so soon. She basically cast you aside and fuck someone else the first chance she got. Most people are upset from a break up for a while, then meet someone and start over with them. I would say sex would be about 2 months later. Another thing when they have sex so soon like that is because they want to "purge" themselves of you and get with someone different asap to further erase you from their memory, which is of course, further insulting to you and more reason to forget her ass and move on!

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Bro, I know a lot of people are going to throw shade and hit you with a lot of BS about how she's a slut or whatever, But hear me out for a few minutes before you make a decision.

I've been in your shoes bro, seriously. I was with a girl for almost 4 years, She was the love of my life. She made a mistake similar to your girlfriend, and yes it broke me in half. I went to a therapist and I eventually got over it, proposed to her and everything. I truly got over it and we were happy again ( Or so I thought). long story short, things didn't work out so well and I lost her.

Bro, I've been on a downward spiral ever since, drugs, women, getting into fights, arrested, etc. All kind of bullshit but I would gladly do anything to be in the situation you're in again, another chance to make it right. If she's a girl you could easily see a future with, at least give her the benefit of the doubt before you make a decision. Good luck bro!!

[Getwhatyougive]

I really dont believe in taking breaks in a relationship, either things are going well or they aren't. Sleeping with someone else 6 days after is clearly a sign things weren't going that well. Sorry if this hurts you but this is just really what i think ! Good luck

[hellionthesage]

Well if she was fully aware that this was temporary then yes you should stay apart because clearly she was using this as an excuse to have sex with some one else. If it took less then a week for her to get over you and have sex with some one else then that doesn't say much about your relationship or her desire to have it again. That's why you don't have "breaks" they don't solve problems they just create more. Who initiated the "break"?

[TheSikuu]

Short answer: Nah
Long answer: If you get back together that jealousy is just gonna ruin things, and you'll end up breaking up again due to you not trusting her, or comparing yourself to that guy. She will feel guilty and at the same time resent you for not trusting her. It's a waste of time. You already lost 4 years, why add more?

PS: If you had fucked someone, would you expect her to take you back?

[Anonymous]

As soon as you "took a break" from each other, it was time to move on. Her decision to sleep with another guy within a week should tell you everything you need to know about how much this girl loves and respects you.

[IceCubedude]

dude if she recovered that fast then she doesn't love you or respect you.
if he was simply a rebound then she's easy.

either way its a lose lose situation why associate yourself with a girlfriend like that? you can find better.

[capturemyheartnow]

i don't know. When you set her free , she is free to even have sex. That is common sense. You thought everything was getting to much. So now all of a sudden, how can expect everything get better again? Forget this girl.

[Anonymous]

Betas gonna beta. While Alphas fuck.

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[Auron123]

I've been in a similar situation and Honestly if you do give her a chance again be very careful it may be beyond worth it or she could leave for sex or play you with mind games but if you know in your heart this is what you want try it there is nothing worse than life's what ifs

[Red_Arrow]

You need to define "taking a break" to each other before doing it so there are no misunderstandings. But it still sounds like this is more than you can accept. So probably make the break permanent.

[Gommers]

She was cheating on you prior to her breakup if she slept with a guy less than a week after you ended it.

Don't give cheaters a second chance, let them use themselves up and kill themselves when their body has lost all value.

[Touchmehxx]

Lol what

[Gommers]

@Touchmehxx 100% sure

[Touchmehxx]

What

[MargaritaPeach]

Kill themselves? Seriously? I have some bad news for you--sexual purity is not the end-all, be-all of life in the grand universal scheme of things. Certainly not worth ending a life over. That's not even something you should be joking about.

[Gommers]

@MargaritaPeach You're the one here who thinks I'm joking.

It's not about sexual purity, it's about honesty and trust.

[MargaritaPeach]

So are you implying that a person who is guilty of betrayal should commit suicide?

[Gommers]

@MargaritaPeach I'm not implying, I'm explicitly stating. Know the fucking words before you decide to use them next time. That'll probably help you out a little.

[MargaritaPeach]

I know the correct definition, thanks. I just can't believe anyone could be that shallow, and I didn't want to put words in your mouth if that wasn't what you meant. But thanks for clarifying. Sorry to hear that you value human life so very little.

[posted]

Taking a break is generally a breakup anyway, if you can't work shit out, goodluck.
Yeah I dunno move on, she did pretty quick.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

Forget that ho. If she's got a sister or a hot friend, fuck them and enjoy it. Make sure she knows about it, too.

[Sweetie3423]

Its a tough call because you guy were not together. Did you ask her why she did it? She might have been an emotional state when she did it.

[Anonymous]

No. You broke up. She moved on. You need to move on also.

[Jeeevan]

No, if you meant a lot to her then she wouldn't of had sex after 6 days, your better off just moving on, she's not worth it.

[nog6422]

You broke up, you shouldn't expect her to not have sex.

[Anonymous]

You were separated she as the right to sleep with who she want... Plus 6 days is long... Generally people have sex the days after or the days of the break up...

[Jeeevan]

God bless your future partner

[Jeeevan]

I hope he runs away from you.

[Opinion Owner]

@Jeeevan If a couple break up it's because they doesn't like each other anymore then he shouldn't matter what the girl do.
Here in this case she just hurt his proud that's all if he loved her then why would he dump her? That's so dumb.
And maybe she just do that to make him jealous for know if he still has feelings for her...

[Jeeevan]

Your dumb, if you ever loved someone at all you wouldn't fuck someone after 6 days that's just disrespectful

[Opinion Owner]

@Jeeevan They broke up in what it's disrecpectful? Like a law exist where we should cry 3 month then can only have sex 2 years after the break up?
They broke up, they doesn't love eachother anymore, do you know how hurtful it's?

[Anonymous]

Ex's are Ex's for a reason. Just find the woman who is waiting for you and leave this in in the past.

[Anonymous]

Nope. And I don't think that guy she hooked up with will be much happier in the end either as he's a rebound.