Should I get back with my ex?

[Anonymous]

This guy and I were friends last year and obviously liked each other for a while. We were talking for about 3 months and dating for about 5 months. This summer was very hard on me for many reasons. I was very busy, I had a lot of family stuff going on, and I was always upset and overwhelmed. I am also a huge overthinker, so I would panic over every little thing in our relationship. I didn't understand him or how a relationship worked, because I only tried to understand my point of view. I realize now all that I did wrong and that I probably wasn't in the best place to be dating when we were. I ended up breaking up with him, but immediately regretted my decision and begged for him back (pathetic, I know). He said he didn't know if he could take me back and he had good reasoning. I didn't try to understand what didn't make sense to me, I took a lot of stuff out on him (I almost broke up with him a different time due to unrelated events), and I didn't communicate like I should have. I did, however have some good reasons to end things. He's very socially awkward with a very flirty personality. Most of his friends were girls (some that liked him/who he had like) and he was unknowingly flirty, which made me uncomfortable. Sometimes, though, he would make comments to make me jealous and that broke my trust for him. My friends disliked him because he was annoying and liked attention, but that was only his outer layer. He was way different that the side he showed them. He did like to kiss a lot, but I feel like we ended up making out more than talking, which obviously impacted our relationship. Despite all of this, he was good to me, always tried to help, and I really did (and do) love him. So much would have been different if we communicated. I just don't know if I should get back with him, if he should take me back, or how to even go about it as we aren't close anymore.

[Finchie40]

No, he sounds like a selfish pos person. And that’s why you broke up with him to begin with , selfish people do not know how to be in a relationship with someone because all they truly care about is themselves, if your boyfriend respected you and loved you , he wouldn’t be keeping other girls’ in the picture like he was doing to you. Understand you deserve way better than that shit , he just liked the convenience of you , so don’t fall for his shit whatsoever. A guy that truly loves and cares about his girlfriend will distance himself from opposite sex friends out of respect for his partner , when a guy doesn’t do that for his partner , that just shows he just likes the convenience of you and if he doesn’t get his way with you , he will run to one of those other girls’ , you did the right thing by dumping his selfish disrespectful ass. Me personally wouldn’t get into a relationship with a girl that kept close with her guy friends’ , that has red flag written all over it , and I would expect her to stay in a relationship with me if I was doing that to her as well. I’m not saying you have to become enemies with your opposite sex friends’ when you get into a relationship, but your opposite sex friends’ or any friends’ should never be a priority over your partner period. Someone that truly likes you and values you is going to wear
Your shoes the same way they want you to wear theirs out of respect for each other. Also I would never spend time with an opposite sex friend without my partner by my side , out of respect for for our relationship. Only selfish people do not know how to respect their partner because all they care about is themselves and what they feel is best for themselves , So keep him on the curb where he belongs

[lorenzomichael]

Fuck it get back together see where it takes you two. But just remember a relationship needs work from both of you to really work and expect to have problems just don’t overthink the little things and turn them into bigger things. And don’t let anyone in your relationship no friends no family because sometimes they could be the ones fucking it up for you maybe over jealousy or envy or They might not even give a fuck and tell you dumb shit. Just don’t let them in. If you need to talk to somebody talk to somebody that don’t know him personally maybe somebody older that understands somebody that has been there done that, but doesn’t know him directly cause you never know the advice you’re gonna get. Just be careful. And most importantly it all depends how far you want this relationship to go and if it isn’t as far as he wants it to go maybe you should look elsewhere, but good luck to both of you but like I said, just be careful.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic "should I or shouldn't I?" dilemma! I'm here to guide you through the maze of feelings. 😊 If you've already hit the jackpot of introspection and found some clarity, darling, that's a great start. Relationships are like moving targets—constantly changing. If he's willing to give it another go and you've both learned from past hiccups, it might be worth exploring. Just ensure those flirtatious habits and jealous-making comments are addressed. Open communication can make even the messiest puzzles fit together. Best of luck in love's rollercoaster! 🎢💕

[OlderAndWiser]

If you asked him this question, what do you think he would say? What would his friends tell him?