Note: I know some of you have seen this before, but I decided to add the messages instead of trying to explain..
The guy who took my senior pictures recently came over to drop them off. I learned that we both got hired at a new, local restaurant and started texting. A friend of mine who knows him told me he's a little creepy, 34, and has multiple DWIs. After I told him I'm 18, he said it's good to know I'm legal, asked if I'd ever do a "sexy" shoot (which I declined to), and asked if I want to hang with him some day. We talked about photography and he asked what bra and waist size I have (to use for quick draw) and so that he could order clothes and lingerie for shoots and know it'd fit me - after I said I wasn't interested in another shoot, said that he's always admired my body, and then asked for a date.
I explained that I'm extremely busy with school and didn't know if I'd be able to find time and he got REALLY irritated, said he felt stupid for asking since he hasn't asked a girl out in 3yrs, whatever, and would never ask again. I didn't want him to be upset so I told him if I found time I would & like him as a friend. He said he was glad he got me to admit that I "like and want him" after months of him trying to get me to. He continued to mssg me all night and I woke up to a bunch of txts.
He texted me a question about my work schedule, and since he wasn't acting flirtatious anymore, I answered him. He then asked if he could ask me something personal - if I was a virgin - and when I said yes, he said he could tell. When I asked him why, he said "Don't you worry about that." and then told me what he thinks about and wants. I told him that I'm not ready for that, and he said nothing would change with us. I decided to post the rest of the messages to provide some proof, because I know this sounds far-fetched, and to show the rest of what he said instead of typing it all. I'm just very uncomfortable and really don't know where to go from here.
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I don't want to lead him on, and am trying to go about this so as to not make him mad again. I told him I wasn't ready and didn't answer his last messages, because I don't know how to respond to that. I thought that telling him no and that I'm not ready for that would be enough, and now I'm just very confused.
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He also said that he was married before, but not for long, since his wife was abusive and cheated all the time, so he bailed. I just don't know how a 34 year old can just give out that information so readily, and keep bringing up sex with an 18 year old.
This guy won't leave me alone and I don't know what to do?
If he creeps you out why are you still constantly responding? You are totally egging him on in all of those texts. If you were serious about getting him to leave you alone you would flat out say "do not contact me" and delete/block his number.
But from what I read, doesn't appear you want him to go away.
Run blocked his number and avoid him. Quit your job if you have too. Same thing has happened to me a dozen times. A good heart makes you gullible and vunerable. That's how I got trapped into having sex with guys I never wanted too.
Blocking him won't work because I still have to work with him. I don't think I should have to leave my job because of him either, so that isn't going to happen.
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