My boyfriend said he refuses to stop liking girls pictures on Instagram?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I both have Instagram. When we first began dating I've noticed all his likes are of half naked chicks. Models completely with little to no clothes on etc. I asked him nicely that I found those pictures disrespectful and to please stop because it makes me uncomfortable to see that. He still continues to do it and I asked him again. This is where I'm getting pissed off. Figuring I didn't want to be irrational I let it go again. Now this is the 3rd time he's doing it and I'm fed up I spent the day cooling down ignoring his call and he asks me about it. I told him yes I'm mad about it because I asked of you a small gesture because it hurts me. We're having a child now and a mother to-be doesn't want to see the person she's having a child with have wandering eyes. His reasoning follows that "now he can't even like a friends picture" okay please I'm not asking him to unfollow every girl he follows or he can't like any other girls picture. But this is a picture of a girl her back is faced BAREASS. He tells me he's not gonna hesitate and keep doing it despite. That his love for me isn't gonna change. Am I overreacting over the fact that now it's the excuse of "I can't even like a friends picture" Really? A friends picture. Idc you can like any another picture other than the ones that are HALF NAKED. Is it really hard to stop the temptation of liking a "friends" picture that's half clothed?

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+1 y

"boys will be boys" is honestly not tolerated and not an excuse to someone's behavior. Does it give a right for rapists to commit rape because "boys will be boys" ?

[MissMinaaaa]

This is hard... I have some insecurity issues so it would kind of hurt me. But if I can truly see that the guy loves me, and never caught him with wandering eyes in in the real world, then I may just not think to much of it. Some people might say it could be a gateway for cheating, but if that's true, then what happens just happens. I may get hurt, but it's better to "let the leash go" and find out by chance at an earlier stage rather than "holding a tight leash" where if loosen it once later in life, it would hurt a lot more.

And the same time, some guys just admire a certain body type but may be with a girl because he likes who she is towards every other aspect. And to be honest, if a guy I was with is liking all these posts of "more fit" girls, I may be willing to go the extra mile to work hard for to be more fit. It may make me feel more confident and happy to. This is not because I was willing to do anything for a guy, but I would like to please/make the guy I was with happy by improving myself a bit-- and I kinda expect it the other way around (Examples: Couples who lose weight/work out together). But don't confuse this with a guy liking big boobs, and me being willing to make myself bigger for him, since that is different and has no way of improving my life other than JUST for him.

[MargaritaPeach]

If it bothers you, and it has become a point of contention among you, just unfollow him on Instagram. Then you won't be annoyed by it. It is a little disrespectful? Yes. It is. He could have stepped up when you asked him to, but he didn't. But I hardly think that is worth upsetting yourself or ending things over. The next time he asks YOU for something, just tell him you see his point, but just like he wouldn't budge on the Instagram thing, you aren't going to budge on whatever he asked of you. He just handed you a 'get out of jail free' card. Don't be afraid to use it.

[Asker]

I take mention to what I do so that I won't hurt him. An argument he had with me previously is that he doesn't like when my close friend comes up in a conversation bc he thinks I'll leave him for a girl (his past relationship mishap) something like that I can't avoid bc that would mean breaking a friendship. But resisting to hit the like button that he knows hurt me is something he could easily do.

[MargaritaPeach]

Perhaps it makes him nervous because it seems that you are trying to control him? Everyone knows that being pregnant is frightening for the mother, but it can be a stressful and frightening for the father, too. Everything is changing, and so many things are out of their control. Instead of telling him what he can't do, maybe try telling him what he CAN do to help you. Things that will help him feel like he is taking more control of the situation. More of a 'boyfriend him up' kind of thing than a 'tear him down'. Those can be the things that drive couples apart.

[Asker]

Oh this was before I was pregnant and after

[MargaritaPeach]

Oh, okay. In that case, he might just be really stubborn about the Instagram issue. It is kind of disrespectful. I guess it's up to you to decide whether or not it's a deal-breaker.

[Anonymous]

I wish you had broken up with him in the beginning, when he went on liking those pics even after you said how it makes you feel. Now with a child aboard is harder..
He seems like a douche. Yes guys like to see beautiful girls, but does he have to press that like button so badly? After you told him this hurts you it just shows him being selfish, with total no consideration or respect to your feelings.

[Asker]

This is what I mean. How is it hard to resist hitting that like button? I've explained this is any way I could possible but he still doesn't understand

[Opinion Owner]

Yea he must be extremely hard headed or a huge douche. I dont envy you, and I dont see anything wrong on your side here. What will you do?

[SteppingOnRoses]

I think it is a lack of respect on his part. It would hurt me too, to be honest. I don't think I would like to be with a guy that wouldn't even consider my feelings. I mean, he can look at the pictures, but doesn't have to rub it in your face by liking them.

[SteppingOnRoses]

Glad my guy has half a brain and can understand compassion and respect.

[ㅇㅗㅇOTL]

I'm only conflicted because a friend of mine is an import model, she is attractive but I would like her photos out of support. If I was to start dating someone I wouldn't want to change my support by just liking only because the only other way to be supportive is to buy merchandise or go said events pay for the picture. I'm not saying what he's doing is correct, if my significant other was insecure due to that, at most I'd explain to said friend I may disappear for a bit to reestablish my foundation for my S. O. She'd respect that (to my knowledge) and when the time comes may be I could introduce the two.

[thatguywithakeyboard]

Interesting. What does "Boys will be Boys" have to do with Rape? You trying to say all Boys are rapists? Pretty fucked up logic there. In the end you dated and had a child with someone who had tendency to like naked girls picture on Instagram. So if I was your boyfriend would that mean I would have to delete my 1TB collection of Porn because it's full of naked woman? Again pretty fucked up reasoning and granted you known about his habits you could have ended the relationship. For fucks sake, pulling the Rape this, Rape that string.

[Asker]

Read before posting. I only mentioned that comment because that's what a lot of guys were already gonna say. "Boys will be boys, they can't help but do it" shit. That was actually the first male comment on this question. Having a dick doesn't mean you have any right to be one.

[thatguywithakeyboard]

What are you a mind reader? Presuming shit out of your ass aye? Your thrown that comment with upmost of ignorance and now we are all bad for pointing this out. Ha, bloody hell.

[Asker]

If you weren't the one mentioning that comment then why you backing them up? I placed that comment for those that were only gonna say it. If it doesn't occur to you, don't bother mentioning it. You're only responding because it concerns you. Just like this post. So be on your way and keep scrolling.

[thatguywithakeyboard]

Hmm you are arrogant type aren't ya.

[DareAttracted]

I would have left him already. What a little pussy.

[Sonjita]

Oh come on girl... chill
who gives a fuck
we all like to appreciate beauty
don't you like some hot dudes' pics there? :) :) :)

[knight_55]

When you are committed it's unacceptable to display this kind of behaviour (for your bf). Doesn't seem good.

[SteppingOnRoses]

yes... seems like he doesn't care if he hurts her, right?

[knight_55]

Very true!

[Krasi]

The problem is boys are boys so even if ya kill them it's their nature to like such pics tho it's better liking pics than cheating on ya

[SteppingOnRoses]

ok so boys are boys implies they are excused because they have a dick instead of a brain. Oh wait... no they have both... so they should be able to use the brain sometimes too...

That excuse isn't exactly valid unless you are saying guys can't think...

[SteppingOnRoses]

he can look at the pics but he doesn't have to like them and rub her face in it. he could look at them quietly.

[SteppingOnRoses]

but he chooses to keep on hurting her for some strange reason. Thinking he's maintaining his freedom maybe or whatever. thing is what he's doing is misguided and it is hurting the person he supposedly should love.

[JayCasper777]

its just Instagram. either he can like a photo of an ass. or he can go out an actually start grabbing asses.
this is good lol

[Asker]

So what you're saying is that I should be grateful she's only liking pictures instead of cheating on me?

[Tdieseler]

What does rape have to do with instagram?
don't make me go off on you... how about you go half naked or bareass and take his mind off of those instagram hoes...
you are pregnant? lol

[strangytie]

She means that as long as we excuse guys to look at other women (presumably he's not liking pictures of pregnant models), then we're letting them get away with much worse things as he "can't control how he feels" basically. Why would she have to present herself naked to ask her boyfriend to stop making her uncomfortable? Insecurity is a real thing dude

[Tdieseler]

@strangytie you are preaching to the choir darling... ask about ME...
insecurity is REAL... and what do you mean... wait... excuse who?
umm... we are guys... we will do whatever the Hell we want... all i did was tell this girl the weakness...
"give him a reason to come BACK to YOU"... and every woman can do that... but most of the time... they refuse...
then get hurt... set yourself up.

[Asker]

@strangytie that is exactly what I meant. Thank you. @Tdieseler I hope a woman comes around and puts you in your place someday.

[Tdieseler]

i can't wait... :)
because i know my place... and that is next to her. she is not beneath NOR above me. and any stupid behavior will not be tolerated.

[SteppingOnRoses]

@Tdieseler , it is not stupid behaviour if he is hurting her by doing it. You have clearly never loved someone before...

And all she is asking is that he doesn't like the pictures so she doesn't have to see what he's doing. He can keep looking without rubbing it in her face. That is just insensitive... and i think it is ok to ask for common human decency. You know? Respect for someone else's feelings other than your own...

[Tdieseler]

@SteppingOnRoses whoa.. respect for other people's feelings other than your own... tell that to the numerous guys who have been served divorce papers by the same cunts who COERCED them into marriage... dont talk to me about respecting other people's feelings... especially a female's...
call me a sexist cunt as much as you want... but it seems like every time its a woman whose feelings are "getting hurt"... its fucking front page news... but when its a man who is getting battered... no one gives a shit... well.. i fucking give a shit.
I flipped the situation around and saw it from a different angle before i answered this girl... and i told her a simple solution to rectify that. and if it doesn't work... there are 2 more... she can start liking hot guys on IG as well... OR fucking leave him. its not that hard.
Fucking women... care more about talking about a problem instead of DOING something about it.

[SteppingOnRoses]

the problem is revenge isn't the answer.

And I am not saying guys feelings dont matter, so I don't know why you are trying to turn the tables on me...

If it was a girl being a bitch to a guy I would also call her to reason. believe it or not i respect both mean and women equally.

The only solution I see is either she is able to make him see what he's doing wrong (which i doubt she can), to leave him, or to just put up with his crap (which i dont think is a good solution for anyone).

[SteppingOnRoses]

men* ... typo

[Tdieseler]

@SteppingOnRoses Are you sure you would call her to reason? cuz i can point out a few. and those 3 options are what im talking about too...
except we are going with plan number one... and showing him. the same thing you say can't be done.. im showing her HOW to do it.

[SteppingOnRoses]

well maybe you're right and all he responds to is if he gets hit by the same shit he does to her. However i dont think that is a healthy relationship.

[Tdieseler]

@SteppingOnRoses healthy enough. not many things more powerful than a taste of your own medicine... i used to be a player.. and cheated too. but i had my karmic slap a long time ago where some chick just ghosted my ass... not just some chick.. but one i PROMISED i would not cheat or play... and coincidentally... this was the only chick to put me in that position... and yes... it fucking hurt... but guess what... i haven't cheated or played anyone since.

[SteppingOnRoses]

That's good then

[Tdieseler]

@SteppingOnRoses Yea... but i still count the number of moronic females i'd like to give a hurting to that deserve it. and that is a big number...

[Asker]

Talk all this shit about women only talking about their problems whether than doing something about it. Why bother to waste your time answering this question then? Should've scrolled past my post from the beginning

[Tdieseler]

you know one thing i always do before i answer any question? especially those by female users?
I flip the script. and see what the outcome will be IF it was the other way around.
You think if a girl was liking hot bodied shirtless guys on instagram and her boyfriend complained about it, how many girls do you think will give a fuck?
A good percentage of them will not only not stop, but they'll attack him and his ego and make excuses like "i don't know them" or "its just harmless" or "stop being so insecure".
so you know what... how about you stop being so fucking insecure, its harmless, and he doesn't know them.
Jesus... stop being so hormonal. You women like to throw shit at men and men are supposed to just "deal with it"... but when its your turn its front page news.
ITS on fucking SOCIAL MEDIA. I've dumped any girl that judges our relationship by social media.. what happened to the days when shit had to be physical. now there's fights over a button?

[Asker]

That explains the type of women you've been around with. Apparently you haven't been with a good one before. Talk your shit and release your energy on fist fight instead of screaming your head off online. Look for a fight elsewhere but not here

[SteppingOnRoses]

If a girl was doing that I wouldn't say the guy was being unreasonable. Guys have feelings too, even if some people like to believe they don't. So, if a guy said it bothered him, I'd give the girl that was doing it the same advice. What I don't like to be done to me I try not to do to others as well... simple.

[Anonymous]

I agree with you. A lot of guys have issues understand thing this lmfao