Boyfriend won't stop following cam girls on instagram?

[SadUnicorn23]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now and recently we have been fighting about his instagram habits a lot. He didn't have a phone so he had been using mine and made a new instagram account and when he did he started following all these naked women but didn't follow me. His account said he was happily taken and that he didn't want to talk to any women. Than I bought him a new phone and he made a new account this account basically shows he's single and he's ONLY following naked women not me. I have told him it upsets me and it makes me feel like I'm not enough but he has pulled the whole "that's just what men do" card and it just makes me feel worse. He has saved some of their photos and even added one of them on his snap which than sent him a naked video. It is breaking my heart and it doesn't seem to bother him that it bothers me. We have been fighting for over a week about it and everytime I try to talk to him he gets defensive and mad. I have told him when you are dating someone and in a committed relationship where you love them that kind of behavior is unacceptable but he won't listen. Our 10 month anniversary was a few days ago and that's when he sent one of then the snapchat invite. He also has several old accounts where he flaunted his exes and showed them off but said he isn't doing that for me. Am I being crazy/petty or are my feelings valid? What should I do?

[Emogirl999]

These are massive red flags, things aren't going to get better, they might even get worse. You're better off removing him from your life because if he doesn't respect you or your feelings on this, then what else isn't he going to respect?

You bought him the phone but he still refuses to stop his habit, it sounds like he doesn't actually care about you and just sees you as a convenience.

I was in a toxic and abusive relationship for years and despite how bad it got I didn't want to leave because I "loved" him and he "loved" me and I was hoping one day he would change and get better and stop doing things that hurt me. But he didn't change, he got worse because he saw that I let him walk over me and have his way. I didn't demand respect so he didn't give me any. It took me years to finally wake up and leave him.

Don't make the same mistakes I did, if he doesn't respect you, then have enough respect for yourself to move on and find someone who actaully cares about you and gives you the respect you deserve. I know it's easier said than done, but no one has the right to mistreat you and take advantage of you.

[TonyV]

You both seem like you have issues to me. Starting with you, you are taking this way too serious for it being just 10 months. Also how and why did you find this guy to be your boyfriend when he didn't even have a phone? Was the fact a grown man didn't have a cellphone not a redflag to you on its own?
When he says "it's a guy thing" he's not intirerly wrong, of course there's no reason he should do it around you.
Oh and you feeling like you aren't enough is a you problem cause that is insecurity, sure it's rude for him to look at other women in front of you but for you to feel threatened by other women is a problem

Not sure what to tell you, you picked a guy who clearly didn't have his shit together cause he didn't even have a phone and are now getting clingy at only 10 months. 10 months is not a Ling time, if you have this much issue with the guy just dump him and move on, why try to change him? Really why? Y'all aren't married, you aren't stuck together, it's only been 10 months, you make it sound like you need to hold a marriage together for the kids but you 2 have barley know each other long enough to have a baby even if y'all started trying on the first date, season 2 of whatever show you 2 watched isn't out yet, you've renewed your license plates at most 1 time sense you've started dating him, you 2 have just now seen each weather season together now, I'm running out of ways to point out how short 10 months is.

[CoolCatMar1]

10 months is okay lol. 2 years is also considered a short period of time

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I don't know, I don't like guys like that. I always just kinda felt like there's a billion videos on the internet that you can watch essentially without anyone knowing. Why do you need to spend hours out of your day staring at models and then going the extra mile of following them.

But a guy who does that and doesn't flaunt his actual girl at all AND he didn't have a phone till you bought him one.

Maybe he's addicted to it or something. That just sounds like a damaged person to me.

[Confusedashell123]

Dump his sorry ass and find someone who wants to look at you. I know it’s easier said than done but in my opinion once you start writing stuff like this on this forum your relationship is as good as doomed

[Guy13]

It seems that great Issues are present and your future will be littered with multiple related issues.-From brain rewiring, ability to form LTR, headlong into Body hopping/counting, and a loss of heart for others' feelings are in process of being recognized.

If you care to have a layman's understanding of the last statement then Search the book "Hooked". It was neurological medical journal publication further developed into a layman book form. It is not thick and on Amazon.

[SadUnicorn23]

I don't know what any of that means 😅

[Guy13]

You and his future is shitty and where there is smoke there is fire and try not to stay around until the dwelling falls in on you too. Search and read the book HOOKED...

[ZackBan]

I came in here fully willing to defend him because women always read too much into it when it comes to that specific topic.

But if he's actually adding them on snap and getting nudes (which sounds impossible by the way since most of them don't actually interact with followers) it means he's paying for the nudes and if he's too broke to buy his own phone and you had to buy him one I do think there are major issues here.
Your boyfriend has clearly some form of submissive fetishes. I wouldn't be surprised if he would be happy watching you hookup with another man in front of him.

It is worth mentioning that instagram spams guys with naked girl's pictures even if you don't follow any of them it's how the algorithm thinks it can keep the audience entertained, meaning there's a chance you're overreacting

[boggboss]

What he is doing would be considered cheating by most because u decided to stay once he started let him know its somthing u will be upset about but will accept

[boggboss]

Like from what u described he clearly is not going to change or stop so decide to get use to it or end things

[suzzieQ]

Well he's is cheating on you so I would dump him if I were you.

[CoolCatMar1]

E-X-A-C-T-L-Y

[User3191989]

Really makes you wonder why "camming", is a thing, then, doesn't it

As in, why should you make money, based on how you look

[In_Trance]

Toxic femininity
Gtfo instagram
What he looks at is none of your business

[Anonymous]

"that's just what men do"

No, it isn't. 100% dump this loser, he has no respect for you.

[Cheerfull009]

He is not sincere with you, looking for new friends, and new taste, better leave him

[Avicenna]

You have legit concerns here

[SadUnicorn23]

What should I do? I have already told him how I felt I have basically cried and begged pleaded and demanded. He just continues to act like it's no big deal. He used to be amazing and now I feel like he doesn't care anymore.

[Avicenna]

You have to decide it’d it’s something you’d break up with him over

[SadUnicorn23]

I don't want it to be. I love him more than I've ever loved anyone and my son loves him. My son has never bonded with anyone like he did with my boyfriend not even his own dad.

[Avicenna]

I understand. It doesn’t sound like he’s going to change. But if he’s doing this stuff with your phone, you can simply tell him he can’t use your phone if he does.

[SadUnicorn23]

I bought him his own phone and when I told him exactly that because I paid for it and it's in my damn he some super jumpy when I tried to grab it

[SadUnicorn23]

Name not damn

[Avicenna]

You have to give him an ultimatum and be willing to backlit up or he’ll keep trying to do that

[LazerBean]

Easy dump.