What secrets do you keep from your SO? Why?

Question

Let's face it... Most people keep some secrets, no matter how small. What do you choose to keep secret from your SO? Why do you keep it a secret?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This is a true story... and this is something that only my best friend knows and nobody else.

All of my life, I had trouble meeting women and getting a girlfriend. Never had one in my life. I also never had sex until last year (when I was 25), because I wanted to have sex with a girl I was interested in.

However, I have a high sex drive, and it started to get to me. So, I started to go out to clubs/bars/strip clubs and would meet women and fuck them. I had sex 6 times last year, always wore a condom and always got STD testing.

In November, a few days after my 26 birthday, I took another STD test, and I came back positive for genital herpes. I was so mad. I have friends who get sexed constantly and they don't get stds. I have friends who don't wear condoms and they don't get stds. I have sex a few times, wear a condom and I get herpes.

Ever since getting herpes, I haven't been on medications and have been clearing it naturally. I've also been getting oxygen and ultraviolet pumped Into my blood every 2 weeks, as the doctor said that it has the potential to kill the virus. Every time I do this treatment, my herpes has become less and less and I barely notice it anymore.

Adding insult to injury, I met a girl in January, and now we are dating. Every time we go back to her place, she wants to have sex or do sexual things with me. However, I tell her we should a bit and not have sex yet because we should build our relationship first. She doesn't know I have herpes, and I'm making her wait because I don't want to infect her.

My hope is that my treatment will kill off my herpes in the next few months so this way I can have sex with her without infecting her.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

When I was in service, I was a good shot with a 30.06 and briefly served as a sniper in a place we are not officially stationed. I have never lost a minute of sleep. They got less than they deserved and I made the world a better place.
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She has no clue.

MissGeorgia · Accepted Answer

He doesn't know that I was raped by my ex partner. It was four years ago and I don't feel like it affects my day to day life anymore. I don't think about it very often.

It's part of my past and it's not something he needs to know. I always felt like any guy who knew that would see me differently, or be turned off me sexually because of it. It'd be an unnecessary elephant in the room.

Like you say, everyone has secrets of some level, and they rarely need to be talked about. Some things belong in the past, especially when you're not the person you were then.

vishna · Accepted Answer

He's very overbearing at times, especially if other men are involved. He too often thinks men will try to be with me, even 1 woman can't be every man's cup of tea. I know it's based off his love and attraction to me (among other things...) And so, though I know I have no intentions of being with this person, I will hide or omit a conversation I had in the day with a man because he will jump to conclusions.
I also made a small cake and didn't save any from him >: D

Neverrrmore · Accepted Answer

I keep it a secret that I skip ahead of him in our tv show and then act like I haven't seen it.🙊

I keep it a secret that I hide dark chocolate in my purse🍫because him and my kids will demolish it.

I keep it a secret that sometimes I don't wash his clothes because I get tired of him leaving them in a pile in our bathroom 😂

Anonymous · Answer

Well I don't have a SO, but I've never told the girl I'm currently seeing that I've never been in a relationship or had a real girlfriend. I'm not a virgin and I've dated plenty but have not found the right one. I'm not just gonna be in a relationship for the sake of being in one.

I mean I don't know if it's a secret but she hasn't asked me about past relationships nor have I felt the need to tell her. Besides I don't like hearing about exes nor would I talk about past flings for that matter.

MarkRet · Answer

I opened an account on Literotica and published a story on it. I really just wanted to see if I could do it. The story actually got a pretty good score. I didn't tell my wife because I wasn't sure if she would think that's pretty cool, or pretty weird. Also, she gets really paranoid about viruses and internet hackers, so she's pretty leery about using our laptop to go into websites she isn't sure about.

AperolSpritz · Answer

The fact that I'm in love with someone else.
Not in a cheating, "wish I was with that person instead" way. I am happy - we've been together five years, we have two girls, I love him too...
... but there is a "one that got away" and I don't think I could love anyone, romantically, the way I loved him. I've never known anyone like him and I don't think I will again. It's a regret that I can't get rid of, no matter what else I have.

Bluemax · Answer

I had a secret that I was meaning to tell her. It was dark and disquieting... It's that... I... just saved a bunch of money by switching to Geico.

Anonymous · Answer

I went to a festival once and I was supposed to go with my boyfriend but he canceled last minute, so I went with a friend. The festival was in a foreign country and my relationship with my boyfriend wasn't going great. We had problems before I left and ignored most of my messages during the festival. So there was this guy I met there and he was our neighbor tent. We had a lot in common and one time we were talking while sitting in a tent and he suddenly kissed me (a peck on the mouth) and admitted having feeling for me. I pushed him away, because I'm not a cheater, but I was very confused because I also had some feelings for him. I never acted on them and never gave him the wrong impressions (he knew I had a boyfriend) so I didn't think I cheated, but if I would tell my boyfriend about it he would still be devastated. He is already insecure and a little jealous and our relationship was already at a downpoint and it's too late to mention it now.

RegularTK421 · Answer

My ex wife used to be a bit of a diva. Her clothes took up every closet in the house, and she kept buying more. Now I had asked her to go through her clothes, and get rid of the old or torn ones she didn't want anymore, especially before she buys any more new clothes. She ignored it, so I took matters into my own hands, and I secretly threw out shit she didn't wear, or what was obviously damaged and no good. She only couldn't find something once, and I told her it was probably around the house somewhere but I knew it was something I threw away. I know this sounds like an extreme measure, but it was getting out of hand.

ambertaylor · Answer

Me and my partner have been together for 5 years and have never discussed our sexual pasts with other people because there's just no need and no good can come of it. I think that's all I keep from him though and maybe some embarassing teenage moments but I think it's important to be open with most things.

DaydreamingAngel · Answer

I keep from my SO the fact that I talk to my best friend from time to time (who is a male) even though my SO told me he didn't really want me to. He is a bit on the jealous side and I just I still talk to my friend because I don't want to lose a friendship simply because my SO is a bit on the insecure side at times.

Sara413 · Answer

The only secret I can think of that I haven't shared with him is that I used to have unrequited feelings for my best guy friend. That's way in the past tho and I see him as a brother at this point so I don't think it matters and I don't think it would be a big deal if he knew anyways, but it's one of those things where I think if I just randomly brought it up that wold give the impression that I still have those feelings. If he ever asked I'd be honest about it.

Cloudy25 · Answer

If I don't like his family he'll probably never know, I also don't talk about other people's secrets and I still stick by "girls don't poop" lol other than that, not really much, of course I don't share every thought and emotion, but they are not secrets either.
Also, I don't think it's a great move to share thoughts about his size compared to previous boyfriends. That could get messy.

TripleAce · Answer

I watch her sleep creepily at night and pretend to sleep when she wakes up

Is that creepy though? Lol. Like if you caught your boyfriend doing that night after night but never harmed you what would you think?

Anonymous · Answer

That I was a stripper for 8 years. I tricked 5x. I was picked in elementary school and high school and that when I became a born again Christian I used to go evangelize on the streets.

Now I'm a fitness manager at a gym in NYC. I would never recommend anyone being a stripper for more than 2 years. I'm still a Christian but I don't force it on anyone. If someone is open to it I just talk about it lightly. As far as my experience with school, it would really take a guy who's willing to drop his pride for me to open up about that because I'm ashamed that I ever allowed that to happen to me. I am now a proud fighter and take no shit and that's how I would like to be viewed.

Kreneman · Answer

One time, my female attractive friend kiss me on the lips by surprise (It was very quick and off guard) and I had a girlfriend at the time. I never told my girlfriend because my friend did not know I was taking and It was by surprise meaning to me a mistake.

levi81 · Answer

None. I don't think keeping secrets from your SO is a good idea, if found out it will only cause more problems.

Bananaman177 · Answer

I probably wouldn't want to tell her she's the first and only woman on Earth to ever give me a chance.

kaylaS91 · Answer

Nope, he knows everything about me- from my thoughts, no matter how dirty/inappropriate/twisted they may get far too often. To what I like/don't like or would like to try in the bedroom. To more serious things like my experiences with having been sexually assaulted more than once, a relatively eventful medical history within the past decade or so, etc..

Prof_Don · Answer

This website is the personal safe space for this special snowflake known as Prof_Don... his girlfriend doesn't know about this site. :-P

DukeKolslaw · Answer

secrets I would keep old that I love non intelligent life more than anyone else. oh or that I watch a lot of porno but meh those are minor compared to a few other secrets. but I wouldn't hide much if we got into a relationship is be an open book I'm not good at hiding feelings and the like. if she asked me a question I might just defer to be answered at another time.

rgb008 · Answer

I've been keeping a big secret from him… I've been selling my sperm on the black market…. I don't know how he would take this information.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I dont tell him if someone hits on me because I think its pointless information and would find it pathetic if he told me if a girl hits on him. Also I'm supposed to no eat candy big sometimes I do coz true love babe ;)

sp33d · Answer

My ex doesn't know most things about my past. Yet it wasn't important, either, we had a wonderful time together. Conclude that, just because she doesn't know about it, doesn't make it a secret I am "keeping from her".

I might keep it a secret, I actually had two cheeseburgers, instead of one.

Anonymous · Answer

He doesn't know that sometimes I troll online and that my mother has mixed opinions about him (some days she will compliment him and like him and other days she will criticize him... she keeps changing her mind a lot).

Anonymous · Answer

if I thought a guy was cute I would not tell him, what's the use of telling him? I'll get over it and never see the guy ever again anyways. It's not cheating to think other people are cute... just saying.

Kaylyne · Answer

There's absolutely no secrets whatsoever in my marriage.

falafelany1 · Answer

Some really weird things I did as a kid, some of the weirdest sexual things I think about

Blonde401 · Answer

I'm single :/ but I tend to not have secrets. I'm an open book

jscmp · Answer

Some really obscure things that would seem weird. For example, I walk around downstairs before going to bed because it helps me sleep

wankiam · Answer

i have hidden porn from a lot of partners in the past but not anymore

Anonymous · Answer

Omg I used to Jerk furiously to the women on Buffy and Angel. Sarah Michelle Geller, Charisma Carpenter, Allison Hannigan, Amy Acker, Michelle Trachtenberg, Amber Benson , Eliza Dusku, Emma Caulfield, Mercedes McNabb, Alexa Davalos. I will say that Josh Wendon can pick his hotties. My first wet dream involved Sarah Michelle Geller, Allison Hannigan and Charisma Carpenter.

Phoenix98 · Answer

The secrets I keep from most people the ones that nobody but myself has any right to and our no one else's business.

Anonymous · Answer

I have a secret email and username. My SO doesn't know I use this site. I ask questions about my relationship on here from time to time. If she knew about it she'd look on here every single day and questioning my questions.

She's the reason I dropped Facebook. I caught her logging into my profile and looking for problems that weren't there.

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Anonymous · Answer

My wife doesn't know that I have social anxiety. It's not majour or anything, just minor when it large crowds. She doesn't know cuz I'm worried it'll creep her away from me when and if I'd tell her

QueenBeeJay · Answer

That I secretly through out his old tshirts... one by one. He never notices because he doesn't wear them, yet insists on keeping them.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

Nothing really. I guess being on this website is one lol

FaithfulGuardian · Answer

Just because someone is your bf/gf, doesn't mean they have the obligation to tell you everything. It is called privacy, look it up.

Ephemera1 · Answer

None. 🤔  Am I supposed to keep secrets from her?

Anonymous · Answer

I secretly wish my boyfriend was circumcised.

George92 · Answer

I mainly keep a secret when I know the other person could over react, or basically mock on me.

Dominick04 · Answer

I'm a very reserved person so there's a lot of little things I'll keeps solely for that reason alone

ProjectBaby1K · Answer

I don't like people knowing personal stuff about me.

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing specific, but I would keep all of the darkness in my head a secret

Silver158 · Answer

That she's imaginary.

Anonymous · Answer

When i bang my girlfriend i dont generally mention it to my wife.
Also i usually leave several portions of my day out and bridge the gap with small lies for the purposes of practice. If im always lying its easier to do.
I also stay late at work on random days as well as go in early so the excuse doesn't ever sound suspicious

Kitten967 · Answer

I don't keep any secrets from him

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing at all The only secret I'd keep is maybe a surprise party or just a surprise for them

Analinda1999 · Answer

everything before age 17. and this site :)

445533guy · Answer

many because it's necessary

karahiri · Answer

I don't want to keep anything a secret.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't tell him my mom hits me when she's drunk or screaming at me because I sent him nudes.

Anonymous · Answer

That I cheated on him with a female while we were together.

EmpatheticLady · Answer

That I'm on G@G. :P

OrangeBoy · Answer

My cookies. They are mine -__- !

LastNightmare · Answer

I don't have SO but boys out can be secret

Anonymous · Answer

My dirty side.

Anonymous · Answer

Everything !

Anonymous · Answer

incest?

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