Is my boyfriend a shithead? What should I do?

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okay i have depression and tonight im feeling REALLY horrible bcos my mom is making me feel like shit. and im not exaggerating or anything but the window was just next to me and the urge to jump down was so strong. i was literally in tears and i texted my boyfriend that i wanna kill myself - but i didn't tell him the reason. he called me a few times and texted me but i didn't reply. then for 2 minutes there wasn't anything from him and i kinda calmed down abit. so i asked him, "what were u doing? for that 2 minutes?" AND HE SAID HE WAS ON TWITTER aka a social media. i got really pissed off like YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS SUICIDAL RN AND TOLD U she's THIS CLOSE TO JUMPING DOWN and yet you're on social media? i scolded him and told him i wanna break up bcos he's a shithead. and he said things like "WHAT CAN I DO", "IT FEELS TERRIBLE TO SEE YOUR GIRLFRIEND WANNA KILL HERSELF BUT U can't DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT", "im not a superhero i hope your next boyfriend will be a superhero". we fought abit and now we are kinda still together. and i dont know what to do. dont call me a "dramaqueen" or anything because i know i was this close to jumping down. and i could have been dead while he was on social media happily just because he's not a "superhero" and "cant do anything".

JesusIsMyOnlyLord · Accepted Answer

I am afraid that I could write something wrong to you, but I will try it, because there will be the Holy Spirit who will tell if I am writing something wrong. so...
Your boyfriend is an addict on computer games, he is kind of heartless, he has no love to fight for you. Do you really have hope hope that he could change in just a week, or maybe a month? I like you having hope, but I guess you are intelligent, aren't you? Can't you see that he will take much longer to change, than some months? I, for instance, have been needing more than 2 years to become free from laziness, computer addiction, sexualizing of women and girls, and insecurity, and I still didn't reach my goal.
And please call me crazy, if you absolutely can't listen to the real hope that you are searching. But although I may be crazy, I'm experiencing an interesting improvement in my personality. Since I stopped masturbating, a new desire has found it's way in my heart: I want to make a girl feel desired by me writing her love letters, poems, and songs, by me buying and crafting little gifts for her and by informing myself about her hobbies and interests. But my goal of this romanticism wouldn't be just marrying her, but to share my whole life and my love with somebody. And that's the problem: I'm still 15 and I would disappoint her slightly with me being still unsettled and lazy. I'm yet not good enough.
But there is one way bigger problem than those:
I gave Jesus my life, that means that I will follow him everywhere and forever. He is the only reason I do now want to live, because he gives me love, that I can't get anywhere else. And then I can use this love to serve others and to help them with their problems. God gave me also wisdom to decide appropriately.
So, I can't merry someone because of feelings or because I think that she will be a nice buddy to hang out. I wouldn't even merry her because I love her! I do love a girl, but this is the reason why I won't propose to her. I still don't know her much, neither does she, but the biggest problem is that she sais that he is a "christian" but doesn't seem to put Jesus on the top of her priority list. Jesus is the fundament of my life. When a storm comes and the wind blows, my house will still stand. But when I merry, my wife will be also part of my life. So, if she doen't follow Jesus and if he isn't the fundament of her life, she won't stick it out, if a storm comes and the winds blows, because her side of the house will be built on sand.

Toiletries · Accepted Answer

Depression is tough, its true. But, at the end of the day the only one that can save you is YOU. People can only delay your death that's it. The day you decide you are done saving yourself; no one will be able to help you. It's not okay to cause your partner's emotions to run wild like that and certainly you didn't make it better either since you didn't respond. The fact that you are still alive only proves that you weren't gonna do it or the feeling was not as big which means you were in control. Having the urge to do something and having the COURAGE are two different things. You both need better communication, that's always the key, period.

Morrioghan · Accepted Answer

I wonder what are you trying to accomplish with this. Don't be a dramaqueen and don't annoy your boyfriend with things like these. Look into yourself- you don't really want to jump, you just want that someone would speak to you and care for you.
Don't punish your boyfriend with this. He can't do anything if you won't speak to him, he is indeed not a superhero, he can't mind-read or help you if you don't let it or whatever. He did the only thing that most people would do if the get a drama they didn't asked for. And I assure you that he was not happy.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

What the fuck is he supposed to do? You didn't pick up his calls or whatever, all he can do is wait. I understand where you're coming from, we've all wanted to commit suicide. Me being one of the people that have actually attempted it various times throughout growing up but if you tell someone you're suicidal, they try to contact you and you don't pick up, there's no much more they can do depending on their situation and what's logical so for those 2 little minutes he was on social media, stop being a dickhead about it. He tried at least.

xxmamichulaxx · Accepted Answer

You sound more like his child then his girlfriend. I know you must have been upset but you sent him a shocking text and then sat there and purposely ignored all of his calls and texts and got pissed when he didn't text you for 2 whole minutes. You DO seem like a drama queen.

DarkWalker · Answer

He's perhaps not the most sensitive guy, that's true. Perhaps he didn't think you were really serious. That depends on how much he sees you as an emotional person.

Anyways, talk about your emotions with someone, so you'll feel better. That is what is most important right now actually. Work on yourself, before you start looking for faults in others. (And to be honest: not all guys would react the way he did, they would perhaps panic more and run to you. If you are not pleased with his reaction, he's perhaps not the right choice for you.)

Nik1hil · Answer

The other my friend (male) is called me from his hostel
And was a bit sobbing now we men don't usually cry,
So I knew it was serious,
He wasn't suicidal still i went for a decent conversation,
Took 15 min calmed him down suggested him to listen to his favorite soundtracks and rehydrate
Then gave him a call 1hr later to make sure he was okay

I honestly never had a girlfriend (probably to ugly to have one) sso I don't know how it changes situation with a girl
But I care about people in my circle
I wouldn't like one dying while I had a shot at saving it

He was probably sexting or looking at chick's on instant and Twitter
So if he doesn't cares if you die there is no point in wasting another moment with him

Anonymous · Answer

Girl what you need is a psychologist and stop trying to manipulate your boyfriend over shit like that. Suicidal people don't write anyone before they do it. Only the once that need attention will say things like that. I'm not saying that attention is wrong, every body needs that however in your case you need to figure out what's the cause of it and fix it rather then looking for someone else to fix your shit for you!

awesomejerry · Answer

em henz,
there are better people in world who care for you. don't give up too quickly. soon you will meet someone who will be a perfect guy and can't live without you and will make everything in your life perfect. moreover it has been said the perfect person makes your life heaven when he comes into your life. take care

awesometjgreen · Answer

he asked you what was wrong and you didn't respond. no one should have to run behind you even if you are suicidal.

StrawberryCream · Answer

Jeez what were you expecting/wanting him to do in that situation? You didn't reply to his calls or messages.

Aheali · Answer

You can't blame him. He was trying to call you and message you but you didn't reply. If you didn't reply that means either you already jumped or you just want the attention of having him keep calling you. And he did try to give you attention but you didn't accept it. If you actually need help seek a therapist but don't blame him for stopping calling. And what else could he do, sit there and do nothing?

Redstang88 · Answer

Well, you are a drama queen.

So what I take from this is you tell him you're suicidal, promoptly ignore him, and when he quits for 2 minutes - probably to try to reach you through said social media - you freak out?

Grow up

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly, he had nothing else to do. You rejected his calls. And he was likely trying to calm himself down because you attacked him after you ignored him. Not like there was much for him to do.

IEat70sBush · Answer

This is Exhibit A on why I'd rather avoid psycho girls, even if they look like Miss America finalists.

Anonymous · Answer

From an outside look you seem to dramatic and blaming everyone else for your depression when you need to get control of yourself, you sound emotional today and maybe close to your period or on it

PinkPandaBear180 · Answer

He didn't do anything because you didn't let him. You didn't respond to his texts or calls. What was he supposed to do? Sit around crying and waiting for you to give him the time of day?

Anonymous · Answer

How immature can you be, let the poor guy live his life without you being an attention seeker

themoogle · Answer

You didn't reply to his attempts to contact you. You are both shitheads. You for not letting him try help and him for acting immature after you finally answered him

ZanSu · Answer

you can't ignore him and then get mad that he didn't do anything

Unit1 · Answer

Sucks to be your boyfriend.

alicia95 · Answer

tbh i think you should've replied to him

Dog19 · Answer

Sorry, he's not good enough as a boyfriend

Anonymous · Answer

you're both shitheads

Tomsta · Answer

Read title... Answer is dump him

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