Would you stay friends with a cheater?

[Goodwifie]

Your married friend confesses to having and affair.
What would your reaction be?

[lord_chilled]

That depends, if its just someone casual, the i write him off, he's gone..
But if its a close mate, like a bro then thats difficult. Id forgive worse things than cheating. And its not like they are cheating on me.
My bros already have proven theur loyalty to me , time and time again.
So i dont think they would be the type to cheat on their women anyway.
But then, it would be a shock that they did.
Still, a secret is a secret. I would just urge them to tell their so themselves, or at least never, ever do it again.
But i can't go tell their wives. Thats breaking fundamental rules in the bro code, and thats me being unloyal to my friends. I couldnt do that

[Drunky_Monkey]

Yes I will. I know most people will not agree, but there are situations where cheating in understandable in a long term relationship. I'm not saying its right but I can understand certain situations where someone will do it.

[Goodwifie]

Would you ask why?

[Drunky_Monkey]

I would ask why he/she was doing it and I'll try my very best to get them to stop especially if kids are involved. I guess you know someone who is cheating on their spouse and you wanna end the friendship?

[Goodwifie]

My husband has a friend that would cheat on his wife at any chance that could get even straight after having a baby.
I don't like him at all, I could see the poor state of his wife the last time I saw her.
He had since left his wife for the other woman and then he found out that his new bit had cheated on him. He is crying his eyes out over it.
I have no pitty for him.
I just don't understand why my husband still has anything to do with him.

[Drunky_Monkey]

He is a total asshole for cheating on his wife after she had a baby, then leaving her for the side chick. If your husband is friends with this guy for a very long time, it is quite easy for us men to over look that and still be friends. I totally understand how you feel and you're right to not want this guy around but when guys are very close friends, that bond is hard to break and we will over look these stuff as I've previous said.

If I were you, I would have a talk with your husband and let him know exactly how you feel and if he still wants to be friends with this guy, set some rules. Tell him... the friend is not welcome in your house and he is not to mention when you're around etc...

[Drunky_Monkey]

*not to be mention

[Goodwifie]

We have had a talk about it, mainly because of his own attempt at an affair in which he failed miserably at it.
It was a massive wake up call, but now I can relate to that poor womans stress.
I've been out with friends that do nothing but flirt and dance with other men while their SO is at home taking care of the kids. They'd encourage me to drink and say losen up girl are you afraid of losing your inhibitions? The only guy that I want to lose my inhibitions around is my husband.
I don't hang out with those women anymore.

[Drunky_Monkey]

Ohhh now that there's context, I would side with you in this situation. I think your husband should distance himself for that guy because it obviously hurts you and reopen the wounds you got from his failed attempt of having an affair.
So in this case I would choose my wife over my friend if I were to now answer your original question. by the way if I were you, he would not even have a choice lol

[Blong2u]

Yes it doesn't make them a bad person. I think it harder in a relationship because it's so hurtful and it makes you feel unimportant and like your not special or enough for that person and it hurts your feeling. But some people can't be with just one person or don't want to be. I would never cheat but I am starting to think I am a dieing breed. I don't want to be with a cheater but I don't think it makes someone a bad person, I just think it hurts very badly and if you don't want just one person or can't control yourself or be faithful you shouldn't be in a exclusive relationship or hurt someone else in the process but that's because it's painful.

[Dez22]

If we close friends, either they tell the spouse or I will. If I hate the spouse, in that case I'm not saying shit haha. If we are casual then, i'll still say something and risk looking crazy, ill have it on my conscience I did the right thing.

[PrincessPie]

Yes that doesn't make
Then a bad friend to me though I'd advise them that they should stop what they're doing because it's wrong or leave the person they're unhappy with

[ik09011]

There's nothing wrong in doing that as long as u r not involved in it. Every friend does some good & bad deeds. If he cheats his spouse, doesn't necessarily mean that he will cheat his friends also. I would only recommend not to stay friend with someone who is not trustworthy as a friend and does not do what he/she commits.

[madhatters4]

if they did the right thing by confessing to their partner i could be friends with them. i find cheating to be unethical and i don't really have friends who make and continue to make unethical decisions. i understand people make mistakes and can look past that but if they are not willing to realize their mistakes or unethical behavior i'd have a tough time respecting them and thus probably couldn't be their friend

[LemonadeProphet]

"I stay friends with you, but you better sort your own shit out, you're not dragging me into your bullshit and I won't feel sorry for you if you get caught"

[LemonadeProphet]

*I'll

[Anonymous]

I'd keep this in mind after they reveal this secret to me and I'd use it as a way to hold leverage against them should they ever fuck me over in the future or if they ever become disloyal to me. As long as I don't get fucked over by this cheating friend, then I really don't care.

[skykid1992]

Depends if am friend with his wife then he's died to me but if I don't even known his wife then my friend would get a ear fill for me then I lost so much respect for him

[reptocarl]

"Get the fuck out. I don't ever want to see or even know you ever again"

[nevermoregirl7]

Still be friends, but just don't take part in any other future cheating plans. (I. e. say they are at your place when they are really with the other person).

[Barrabus_the_Free]

It's his wife's problem, not mine. I'm unaffected by it.

Since I know that women are incapable of loyalty, I don't hold it against any man that decides he's going to get some somewhere else. Why should he stay loyal when she's not going to? He shouldn't.

I wouldn't say shit to his wife. Hell, I'd even lie if I had to. I'd only be lying to a woman, so it's not like it's a big deal.

[tiabell]

😂😂so who hurt you?

[Goodwifie]

@tiabell I think his momma had sour breast milk

[Barrabus_the_Free]

I've been shown the reality of the female of the species the hard way too many times. Then I started digging into WHY. And now I understand. That's just the way it is, I didn't cause it, I can't change it, the only thing to do is adapt.

[collegebook]

no I don't think I can. I just don't think I could look at them even more so if I am friends with their spouse

[Goodwifie]

My husband has a friend that cheated on his wife, I had no idea.
We had them over for a BBQ and she looked terrible, she didn't tell me what was going on I found that out much latter.
Now I'm only just hearing about all the other times that he has gone after other women, even asked a mate for his half sisters phone number this was while wifie was in hospital recovering after having his baby. None of his mates pulled him up on it.
Karma did come around and take a big chunk out of his arse and I have no sympathy for him.
Would it be wrong of me to not want my husband hang around him?

[collegebook]

not wouldn't be wrong to want that

[tiabell]

id laugh. thats absolutely none of my buisness. theyll get whats coming to them

[Goodwifie]

They usually do

[abundantlyrich]

I don't care but they will try to suck off sympathy from you. I would distance myself from her though

[HOAAH]

I don't think that is good and would not encourage it, and suggest counseling.

[heemang]

I would be disappointed in them. Very disappointed.

[Iron_Man]

If they cheated on me they'll be out of here in one second even if they live in my house and had no money to leave. That's one of the ultimate betrayal

[meatballs21]

Meh, it's between them and their SO, I'm not involved.

[Prof_Don]

I'd stay friends with that person. I can compartmentalize

[Dudeman1234]

Yea of course. I'm their friend not their parent. It's not my job to police their actions.

[Noodle_fan]

sure , it his business , not mine
most of them are very succesful too , it is important to have close friends that rich , you know? lol

[Dumbbong]

Yes may be, but knowing very well s/he is a cheat, and stay safe.

[wiseguy14]

shit if my friend thats a girl cheated ill say " give me head and i won't tell "

[thomasans]

Call her a nasty slut but still be friends. Could it be you one day?

[Lumberman53]

I would not say anything about it because I don't want to get involved

[ShortCircuit]

Not a chance. I don't associate with scum.

[karahiri]

Yeah, stil my friend. I'd want to know more.

[Anonymous]

I'd still be friends with them. Whatever.

[Regular1]

Not my business what they do

[tvoty1215]

i would be by their side

[Anonymous]

It would strain the friendship

[Midget_Hug]

SHOCK!

[Anonymous]

Blackmail her

[mrt55]

I asked why

[Anonymous]

still stay friends.