Do you have higher standards for looks or personalities?

Question

These probably aren't the top qualities on your list but which one is more important on your total list? I got to be honest... I have higher standards for looks

leestarlord · Accepted Answer

Both are important, but for me, I realised looks is more important probably 60:40. If I am attractive to a girl physically, that is the only time I will risk rejection and ask her out. I need to be physically attracted to her for me to be interested to know her personality in the first place. Even if she has the greatest personality, but if I am not physically attracted to her, I will never ask her out and rather stay at home or do something else. I have tried dating girls with nice personality but were not my type. I observed I was not exerting the same effort to maintain a conversation and was not really looking forward to the date. Just my two cents.

lEat70sBush · Accepted Answer

Looks. Personalities aren't potentially passed genetically so couldn't care less about those. If she's hot enough she could be a total bitch, I'd still do her for 2 weekends in a row vs 1 for the rest that are just average looking.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'd say that about 30% of the people in my age range meet my "looks" standards. Far less meet my personality-standards.
However, I know relatively many people who do meet those personality standards. For example, I want them to be at least slightly intelligent/educated, otherwise I get bored. I'm in university, I know most of my friends from university, so they automatically meet that standard.
If I look around in the pool of people I'm surrounded by (who broadly study the same kinds of studies, take the same sports classes or go to the same bars - which is why I know them), I'd say looks and personality are about even.

samhradh_leannan · Accepted Answer

I don't have much in the way of standards when it comes to looks. I have some preferences, of course, but it's not something I really dwell on. My standards for personality are a lot more important to me, though, and I think about them much more.

yoshi_wanna_ask · Accepted Answer

Definitely personality. There's a lot I want to achieve in my life & have pretty high standards for myself. I can't to lavish my lucky guy but I gotta know he's genuine gentleman first.

GoldenSunshine · Accepted Answer

In my experience almost anyone can get attractive if they have a great personality

redsox490 · Answer

I already answered a question similar to this, but for me I would say I have a higher standard for personality. For me looks are not everything. I'm not saying it's not important. By looking at someone, it's how we first judge them. I'm just saying, if someone has good looks but are a bitch, thinks the world revolves around them, and I don't even wanna be in the same room with as them. Then I'm not gonna really care about their looks, cause I won't be interested in them. I would love to find someone that has both, great looks and personality.

cavmanier · Answer

Your question is like asking me if I need food or water more to live. Both are important. I think I'm much more picky than the average person with both though. Like if all guys were like me, girls would not get 100 messages a day from guys while online dating. They might get one message every few weeks because I wouldn't hover over 90% of possible girls like a pack of hungry lions (I know; rejoice women).

DarthLadyKiller · Answer

I like good looks a lot, what man doesn't? But I am very specific about what kind of personality I need and if I were faced with a very dead-beat, boring girl that did not say much, or was totally a dominating weirdo and had fantastic looks or faced with a girl who had a lot of personality, a real individual, slightly needy, a sense of humour and deep emotions and integrity who had ok looks, I would pick the second, no questions asked.

IwanderIwonder · Answer

It depends.
If it's just for a very short term hookup or one night stand, I honestly don't care so much about the personality as I already know what the "relationship" is all about.
But when it comes to a more substantial relationship, I'm almost a total opposite, as long as she has nice eyes, I'm flexible on the rest of the physical attributes but I'm very strict on Personality

Twistboy101 · Answer

Both are equally important. Because why would you date a girl who is just butt ass ugly... but also why would you date a girl who's beautiful but acts like a total dumbass asshole... you have to find a midpoint between looks and personality... that's how you do it.

Wwwyzzerdd · Answer

She could be a 10/10 with a 0/10 personality. I don't care how hot she is, if I can't stand to be around her then the only thing I'm going to have her around for is aggressive sex.

My minimum is 6/10 looks with 8/10 personality. Looks fade but if she's a good person then it won't be difficult to be around her.

JohnDoe3000 · Answer

Personality. I'd be perfectly content with 70th percentile lookswise, but my standards for intelligence, independence, etc... would probably put her way over the 90th percentile in the personality department.

guy42069 · Answer

Initially, I prefer looks but they have to have a good personality to match it. I had a crush on a girl bc she was hot but then I realized she didn't have a good personality, so I got over it.

Daniel3035 · Answer

I'd go with good looks and an okay personality because a person can always change personalities and become better looks not so much.  I'm sort of both here I think being brutally honest.

JustRollTheDice · Answer

You can change the way they look (not saying that I would change anybody) but let's be real once an asshole always am asshole

AleDeEurope · Answer

I don't think I have high standards for looks, just be above a 7. But for personality I do have very high standard.

Z-Spark · Answer

both really, if physically she is not appealing to me i won't be interested in getting to know her, and if i do begin to get to know her and realize she has an attitude/ unfaithful, annoying or inbelievably dumb then that is a huge turn off

Browneye57 · Answer

It's called... wait for it... SHALLOW! :) We always said, "While beauty may only be skin deep, ugly is to the bone."

James_m-c · Answer

I personaly have looks quite far down my list but its a persons personality that makes me atrackted to them so i have that very high standerds for it

Impregnator511 · Answer

I see a lot of girls I consider attractive so I don't think I'm setting that bar particularly high. I'm looking for a very special personality though... someone who will put up with me!

Anonymous · Answer

personality by far are u hot yourself OP? i have a theory that only girls that hover around the average range are the most egoistic and looksdiggers.

purplesparkle · Answer

Both are pretty reasonable. Loyal and affectionate manly guy with a normal face and any healthy body type.

Stamps · Answer

Of course, looks are good and all, but I don't want to be with someone who is only good-looking. It must be someone I can trust, I can have fun with, I like to talk to etc.

mndejong · Answer

personality, both because I'm religious and I think that my personality is better than my looks

RedThread · Answer

Personality. Looks matter only to an extent. I don't want to spend time with the way someone looks.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Personality more - I need to enjoy his company.  He just needs to not be ugly

Deathraider · Answer

Personalities: Needs to be rational, logical, smart, and introverted Looks: Average.

TheNotorious · Answer

looks:no im fine with average girl.  personality:yes you need to be smart.

Anonymous · Answer

if you look nice but are a complete bitch, i am not going to like you. if you look average but are that person with an A+ personality, i am going to like you

ernest1 · Answer

personalities are very essential but looks can be very distractive ,, in summation, I think personalities outweigh looks

Jaboy_J · Answer

I would say both are important I want good looks but more of an amazing personality cause I know I'm not that good looking but I have a very good personality

SunsetLover · Answer

Personality by a mile. I'm not that picky on looks.

Yumix · Answer

for a relationship, it needs the right combination of both. so it's pretty equal

MoeAli · Answer

Looks will get you a first date. Personality will give you a second, third and a 4th date 😊

player0696 · Answer

Personalities are more important than looks, I think so

skater_boi · Answer

it's nice with a good-looking girl, but won't work if we have nothing in common

Anonymous · Answer

Most people here are lying as a good looking person with a bad or no personality trumps ugly person who has a great personality.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I have high standards for a girls personality.

ShadowUnicorneTears · Answer

Personality.  Looks mean nothing to me.

genericname85 · Answer

looks at first and then personalities.

Iron_Man · Answer

They are both up there on a high level I need both

bombbomb · Answer

everything is nothing without looking

Smegskull · Answer

looks qualifier is just "not ugly"

Tammy94 · Answer

personality.

Asiantrash · Answer

Look 20% personality 80%

madhatters4 · Answer

personality for sure

Anonymous · Answer

Looks. Personality means nothing to me

TheChocolateWriter · Answer

ehhh... personality

hero-hero · Answer

Yes for both :( !

Midget_Hug · Answer

Neither.

Asad1ONE1 · Answer

Both!

almadafie · Answer

Both, to be honest.

Pizzalover101 · Answer

I'm in the middle

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