I found condoms twice in his car, both times said they were someone else's, were they?

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Me and my boyfriend have been dating 2 years. We did live together for a year. Then moved in separately with our parents. Last year i foumd condoms in his car and he told me they were his cousins one was missing. We dont have the greatest relationship the last 10 months iam currently pregnant and he has denyed the baby a few times. I never once cheated on him ever. he's always accusing me of cheating which i do the same. He doesn't see me at all on fridays a few hours Saturday and Sunday during the week we dont see eachother at all. The other day i was sitting in the back and found condoms behind the driver seat in the pocket none was missing the expiration date was 2018. I asked him and he said he found them when he was cleaning the car but said he didn't throw them away because he didn't know whos they were so he put them back. I really need advice... Where they his?

txrey79 · Accepted Answer

I'm so sorry, this doesn't add up either. At the very least he's being safe, but I think it's clear he's cheating... you may not want to believe it which is to his advantage because as long as he denies it... it will be believed by you because you want to believe it. he knows this. Normally I would say give him the benefit of the doubt, but... with all the other information... the decreased time spent together, etc... I would lean on the side that he is seeing someone else. I would like to ask how has he been in regards to affection towards you now that you're with his child? also a lot of cheaters accuse their partners of cheating... it's a tell tale sign, (not always but given the other circumstances, this seems to be textbook), I'm sorry you have to go through this during this stressful time already. you can try to confront him and talk some sense into him... but it's a long shot..

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Obviously they are his. That doesn't - by itself - mean anything bad, but in my opinion there is too much other shadiness going on here (that are much bigger red flags, IMO), that I can't give him much "benefit of the doubt" about the condoms.

I hate to break it to you (not that you don't already know), but he's not the greatest of guys...

lacie92 · Accepted Answer

Even if the condoms aren't his... and "im holding it for a friend" is what I told my dad about my pot when i was 13 by the way. It's still no good if he's denying your baby and both of you think the other is cheating. drop him and focus on you and your child for chrissakes you dont wanna be on maury.

vonasaurus · Accepted Answer

sorry, but he's most definitely cheating (and has proven as much by trying to disavow your baby).

also, his constant accusations=gaslighting=guilt. the condoms are his. better you accept this now than resign yourself to a life of misery. you and your kid deserve better.

dipta · Accepted Answer

Why would someone else leave their condoms in your bf's car?
I know it's tough with the baby on the way and all, but this person is a scum bag. He doesn't want to assume the baby and doesn't respect you. Isn't that enough for you to rethink that relationship?

ATuairiscean · Answer

Condoms with an expiration date of 2018 were manufactured around 2013 so the statement that they are old ones holds water but keeping them and it was the second time you found condoms in the car sound dodgy. I would be suspicious, there are definitely a few issues in your relationship that need to be sorted before baby is born.

Charlotte0204 · Answer

I know you have a bit of a hard choice due to pregnancy, but I think u need to be strong and walk away from this. I'd usually help make people think positive... but I can't with this he's lying to u.

Ellie_copter · Answer

"he said he found them when he was cleaning the car but said he didn't throw them away because he didn't know whos they were so he put them back."  That was a lame excuse. He cheated.

RJGraveyTrain · Answer

I have a sneaky suspicion if he's accusing you of shit, while you're pregnant, and he conveniently has rubbers in the car... yeah. Likely.

Sluthater · Answer

He is a cheater and a bottom feeder. Chalk it up as a loss. Save yourself the drama and heartache. Go see an attorney about child support.

BlakeC · Answer

First off if he is already disowning the baby and isn't gonna be it's father you should get the fu#k out.

linds34 · Answer

Yeah it's super shady, and that explanation is lame. I wouldn't believe it.

JohnDoe3000 · Answer

He's cheating: him constantly accusing you of cheating is a dead give away.

Transigence · Answer

Gut reaction, totally cheating. "Hey cuz, can I keep my condoms in your car, even though they're supposed to be kept out of extreme heat?"

Rissyanne · Answer

He's cheating. I wouldn't depend on him being a father either.

Chanel1981 · Answer

If you have a bad feeling don't ignore it, chances are good you're correct!

JSmuve · Answer

What kind of guy has a box of some other dude's condoms in his car? No one. He's 100% cheating.

Anonymous · Answer

Poke holes in the condom packet and soak them in some chilli juice then you'll know. And as for the baby get a paternity test done

Patriot357 · Answer

He cheating thats where i leave my condoms in the car

johnmichaei · Answer

Condone belong to him if they're in his car no one leaves condoms in the car

Hoder · Answer

Seriously? 2 condoms and you're still with him? It's like a cop catching a stoner and saying, those weren't my drugs. I think he is cheating on you.

Anonymous · Answer

Girl I'd leave him. There's lots of red flags and signs. But he probably hasn't ended the relationship with you because he doesn't want to pay child support.

wankiam · Answer

you are being well and truly played

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, they were his. Current expiration, so definitely current.

LaFemmeFatale · Answer

Someone else's? Nah, he lies to you.

I found condoms twice in his car, both times said they were someone else's, were they?

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