I found condoms twice in his car, both times said they were someone else's, were they?

[Dalessandro88]

Me and my boyfriend have been dating 2 years. We did live together for a year. Then moved in separately with our parents. Last year i foumd condoms in his car and he told me they were his cousins one was missing. We dont have the greatest relationship the last 10 months iam currently pregnant and he has denyed the baby a few times. I never once cheated on him ever. he's always accusing me of cheating which i do the same. He doesn't see me at all on fridays a few hours Saturday and Sunday during the week we dont see eachother at all. The other day i was sitting in the back and found condoms behind the driver seat in the pocket none was missing the expiration date was 2018. I asked him and he said he found them when he was cleaning the car but said he didn't throw them away because he didn't know whos they were so he put them back. I really need advice... Where they his?

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Same brand same size we used in the beginning

[txrey79]

I'm so sorry, this doesn't add up either. At the very least he's being safe, but I think it's clear he's cheating... you may not want to believe it which is to his advantage because as long as he denies it... it will be believed by you because you want to believe it. he knows this. Normally I would say give him the benefit of the doubt, but... with all the other information... the decreased time spent together, etc... I would lean on the side that he is seeing someone else. I would like to ask how has he been in regards to affection towards you now that you're with his child? also a lot of cheaters accuse their partners of cheating... it's a tell tale sign, (not always but given the other circumstances, this seems to be textbook), I'm sorry you have to go through this during this stressful time already. you can try to confront him and talk some sense into him... but it's a long shot..

[Dalessandro88]

Since he found i was pregnant our relationship is much worse. He accuses me wants passwords to all my stuff but won't give me his. His mom changed his password to his and said she won't give it to him. So since i couldnt get his i won't give him mine and he said im hiding thingd

[txrey79]

yeah the whole thing is really weird, I thing he is hoping he can find something to use as an excuse to be distant... if he went through your stuff, he would find something innocent and blow it out of proportion, if you don't allow him to look, it's because you're hiding something, I'm assuming this was an unplanned pregnancy? maybe he is scared that the baby means a much more committed relationship than what he had in mind, and it's forcing him to act out, (I'm sorry I'm not taking his side clearly he is in the wrong here I'm just trying to explain his possible thinking), what's really messed up is that he clearly has someone who lives him and is willing to build a future with him but he is rejecting that, I'm not sure what other things are going on,

[txrey79]

(career, school, finances debt, etc) but if you want this to work out you would have to have a talk with him, sit him down in a calm and loving manner, and explain to him, (along the lines of) "look, I want to be with you, you are the father of this baby, I love you, I want to start fresh and forget about the past and move forward, if you don't want to do that, I will prove you are the father and you are going to end up taking care of this baby one way or another, so it can be with me, someone who loves you, or it's going to be done with us doing it separately, (child support motherfucker), he may have delusions that he can deny the baby and continue on living like a single person and seeing other girls, but his responsibilities are going to catch up with him... it's just what position does he want to be in when that happens?

[MrOracle]

Obviously they are his. That doesn't - by itself - mean anything bad, but in my opinion there is too much other shadiness going on here (that are much bigger red flags, IMO), that I can't give him much "benefit of the doubt" about the condoms.

I hate to break it to you (not that you don't already know), but he's not the greatest of guys...

[lacie92]

Even if the condoms aren't his... and "im holding it for a friend" is what I told my dad about my pot when i was 13 by the way. It's still no good if he's denying your baby and both of you think the other is cheating. drop him and focus on you and your child for chrissakes you dont wanna be on maury.

[vonasaurus]

sorry, but he's most definitely cheating (and has proven as much by trying to disavow your baby).

also, his constant accusations=gaslighting=guilt. the condoms are his. better you accept this now than resign yourself to a life of misery. you and your kid deserve better.

[dipta]

Why would someone else leave their condoms in your bf's car?
I know it's tough with the baby on the way and all, but this person is a scum bag. He doesn't want to assume the baby and doesn't respect you. Isn't that enough for you to rethink that relationship?

[ATuairiscean]

Condoms with an expiration date of 2018 were manufactured around 2013 so the statement that they are old ones holds water but keeping them and it was the second time you found condoms in the car sound dodgy. I would be suspicious, there are definitely a few issues in your relationship that need to be sorted before baby is born.

[Charlotte0204]

I know you have a bit of a hard choice due to pregnancy, but I think u need to be strong and walk away from this. I'd usually help make people think positive... but I can't with this he's lying to u.

[Ellie_copter]

"he said he found them when he was cleaning the car but said he didn't throw them away because he didn't know whos they were so he put them back."
That was a lame excuse. He cheated.

[dipta]

"So many people ride my car... who could have been?"
Lol >___<

[RJGraveyTrain]

I have a sneaky suspicion if he's accusing you of shit, while you're pregnant, and he conveniently has rubbers in the car... yeah. Likely.

[Sluthater]

He is a cheater and a bottom feeder. Chalk it up as a loss. Save yourself the drama and heartache. Go see an attorney about child support.

[BlakeC]

First off if he is already disowning the baby and isn't gonna be it's father you should get the fu#k out.

[linds34]

Yeah it's super shady, and that explanation is lame. I wouldn't believe it.

[JohnDoe3000]

He's cheating: him constantly accusing you of cheating is a dead give away.

[Transigence]

Gut reaction, totally cheating.

"Hey cuz, can I keep my condoms in your car, even though they're supposed to be kept out of extreme heat?"

[Rissyanne]

He's cheating. I wouldn't depend on him being a father either.

[Chanel1981]

If you have a bad feeling don't ignore it, chances are good you're correct!

[JSmuve]

What kind of guy has a box of some other dude's condoms in his car? No one. He's 100% cheating.

[Anonymous]

Poke holes in the condom packet and soak them in some chilli juice then you'll know. And as for the baby get a paternity test done

[Patriot357]

He cheating thats where i leave my condoms in the car

[johnmichaei]

Condone belong to him if they're in his car no one leaves condoms in the car

[johnmichaei]

I'm sorry sweet baby they belong to him there's no condoms in my vehicle unless they belong to me

[Hoder]

Seriously? 2 condoms and you're still with him? It's like a cop catching a stoner and saying, those weren't my drugs.
I think he is cheating on you.

[Anonymous]

Girl I'd leave him. There's lots of red flags and signs. But he probably hasn't ended the relationship with you because he doesn't want to pay child support.

[wankiam]

you are being well and truly played

[Anonymous]

Yes, they were his. Current expiration, so definitely current.

[LaFemmeFatale]

Someone else's? Nah, he lies to you.

[Zer0Ghost]

It's his car, who else's are they supposed to be

[Máiiréad]

Yes, he is cheating on you.

[Grace_Rdz]

He's probably cheating..

[emerald77]

He's cheating. End of story.

[catelyntje]

No he's definitely cheating dump his hoe ass

[TheEpicIrishman]

No, dump his ass

[alicia95]

CHEATER!!!

[CT_CD]

Yes they were

[Jrow80]

Hard no.

[idk2035]

his... 😑