Can your first love be your last?

I'm asking this because I kinda fell for a girl that has never dated and hasn't even had her first kiss yet. I know she has feelings for me too. I'm worried that the relationship won't last. We are perfect for each other.
Do you know anyone who's been committed to one partner only? What do you think?


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  • Yes, I was the same as the girl you like. I'm still committed to that guy. I haven't dated in over a year because I love him. I know some people will just say move on. It's not that easy though. If you truly feel committed those feelings never leave. Being someone's first love is kinda special. The way you say "I'm worried that the relationship won't last" makes me think you might have been hurt in the past? if so don't let last relationships ruin your chances at your current one. Have confidence in yourself and this girl that this work out. It could be a good relationship, If it doesn't it wasn't meant to be, and who cares because you're still a good person.
    I hope it works out for you two though ❤

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    • You beautiful creature... Hang in there! 💙

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    • Hey, first of all thank you for your comment. You are right I was hurt also by my first true love and it was about a year ago as well. It kind of mentally fucked me up because of what she did to get over me. But with this new girl I see a future again and I'm hoping she does too

    • I'm sorry you got hurt. I can relate to how your feeling though. I happy your seeing a future again. Like I said in my previous message give it a shot. It could be the start of something really good. Just know though that if it doesn't go the way you wanted that doesn't take away your self worth. You'd still be an incredible human being.
      I'm only really being realistic it can go two ways, but you never know if you never try ❤
      Life is too short to overthink what could be.

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  • My parents have been together for 30+ years. While they dated other people in high school, but I would say that yes, your first love can most certainly be your last... so long as you realize that the hormones that make you feel all lovey dovey around a person are going to go away and at that point you'll have to actively seek to love your partner. It can never be treated as a passive thing. If you can learn to actively love your partner, then yes you can make your first love be your last... otherwise it will fade away like the hormones that start most romances.

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What Girls Said 12

  • Yes it's possible! But my advice if you're scared it won't last is just be mature. There's a problem? talk about it and get STRAIGHT to the point. Don't let arguing ever start happening, it's pointless and won't solve anything to see who's right. Just be mature and treat it like you know what you're doing for the most part but be open to new ideas or things. Since it's your first make sure to take things slow, please trust me on this! Don't EVER rush things. Take it slow.

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    • I know haha I've had experience, but the girl I like doesn't. I completely agree with your mindset by the way. Thank you

  • It can be. It's unusual, but it can happen. If you are REALLY right for each other, it won't matter how many partners you have had in the past.

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  • Well I've only had one serious relationship, and while we still have a long ways to go (we were each others firsts) we're both pretty determined to stay together.

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    • That's awesome :) Wishing you the best

  • It happened for me. I'm with my first love. First kiss, first everything. And we plan to be together forever. I didn't think it would happen that way but I'm not even scared of tying myself down to the first one. We make each other so happy there are no doubts.

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    • That's awesome. You guys are great

    • Thanks, I'm so thrilled with how things are turning out for us! Can't wait for next year when we can move in together 😊

    • I hope things turn out well for you guys too. As a girl who was kinda late having her first kiss, I really really appreciate his patience with me and willingness to take the chance. Let her know you're in it for her and maybe she will have that comfort I've been lucky enough to find

  • I believe it's possible ! My husband was my first love and I met him at age 15. I am now 21 married, he's in the military and we are truly happy. I am very blessed and thankful I found the love of my life at such a young age. But if you 2 truly love each other anything is possible! But don't force anything just let it all fall together or it won't be love.

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    • This put a smile on my face. I wish you two the best :)

  • My mother only loved one man, I don't know if their will be a next for her - she is still working on getting over my dad.

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  • It is totally possible

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  • It is rare but yes, your first love can be your last love. My grandparents met in highschool at 14 to 15ish and have been together ever since.

    Whether or not it is is heard of in this day and age, it's possible and I wish you all the best with your relationship.

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    • That's so sweet, and thank you :)

  • It really depends upon you two.

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  • yeah. my friend is now engaged with her boyfriend. they are each other's first.

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  • My mother met my dad when she was young and got married when she was 18. My dad is her first love. Now she's 60 and still with my dad. I believe in true love :)

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    • Your parents are cute haha thanks for the comment

  • It's possible. I would want that... even though it didn't happen.

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  • Never heard of it but sure it's possible! (theoretically)

    I'm not sure how good that actually is since having different experiences with different partners will give you a better idea on what you're really after. My last relationship was like that and that temptation turned out to be too big for my ex... To think that I've wanted to marry that girl. At some point things become a bit more serious and at that point people start to think about their long-term future with one outcome being fantasising about joint future as a couple and eventual marriage and starting to question if you're missing on anything on the other end.

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  • It's definitely possible. Almost everyone in my family married their first love, and they're all very happy.

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    • That's awesome, thanks for the comment. Definitely made me worry less

  • Yeah I think that's way more common than people think. Some people even say that one's first love will never be as strong as any of their other relationships they will have in the future.

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  • Dude. DO NOT fall for the puppy love first date sort of love. KEEP STRONG. PREPARE yourself for things to mess up. Keep in mind that THINGS CHANGE. Hope for the best but PREPARE for the worst. One day she can be constantly asking you to get in bed with her as you have the time of your life and the next she can be sleeping with other guys and pick the one guy who screwed your family out of everything and killed your best friend. Even knowing this, she may NOT GIVE A SHIT. No, this didn't happen to me, but I am serious in saying IT. CAN. So therefore trust NOBODY!!! Not trying to inspire negative thinking, but it's a lot worse when not prepared for bad things.

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  • Make that Girl your's my bud because you will never get a girl like that again... Although i never had such experience such as falling in love but curious to know how that feels so here you gonna root for me and i am gonna root for you that you get her

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    • Thanks my man! I will. You'll find love soon

  • It won't. Don't worry about it. It's called dating. Just go forward and see where it goes.

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  • Yeah

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  • Yea you could get hit by a semi truck

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  • I don't know who my first love is

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  • Of course

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  • Don't worry about the end, when it hasn't started yet.

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    • But yes, it could happen. Don't worry too much

    • Yeah I know it's dumb to worry about it but I'm kinda at a stage where I'd only date again to spend the rest of my life with her. You're completely right though.

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