What can I say to my boob loving boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is in love with boobs, he's always staring at other womens boobs and telling me 'not to worry' cos he loves me but he loves boobs also. This really gets 2 me as it makes me feel not good enough. I dunno what 2 say or do, I dont wanna seem like a control freak but it does get 2 me that he always is staring at other womens assets. Help please?

[jemma]

Talk to him, and by talk to him I mean get him in shit. How would he feel if you were always talking about how attractive guys were, that were more muscular than him, or make more money than him, he would feel insecure about himself, and you would be in the wrong. He should already know that commenting about other women's bodies to you is disrespectful. Tell him he needs to watch what he says to you about other women, because you find it disrespectful, and in the long run you won't stay with someone who is immature and disrespectful. Tell him he talk talk about tits all day long if he wants, as long as its with other people. The thing is that no relationship will work, if the people in it are to timid or immature to talk about what is grinding their gears. if he doesn't stop, leave him because he is choosing to undermine and continue disrespecting him.

[ionlife]

I think this is a bit harsh as men are naturally drawn to beautiful women and it sounded like the big issue is that he is looking and not discussing it or comparing the other women to her. Asking a man to stop admiring other women is like asking a lion to only eat vegetables... a) It is /never/ going to happen, b) it is unnatural, and c) they will just do it behind your back.

Personally, I think a woman who is secure in herself and her relationship wouldn't mind it from time to time.

[ionlife]

... in other words, women, please don't throw around your insecurities and then make it appear that it is somehow an ethical or moral issue. And for the record, I don't mind it if when my girlfriend talks about other guys being attractive as I am confident in myself but I do draw the line when the discussion becomes of a very sexual nature. So unless this guy is bragging about what he'll do with the women, I don't see the harm in him looking... My 0.2c

[Anonymous]

Well, the only thing I can say about this is. He's not touching is he? I think it's annoying also, but do you ever go out and see a guy you think is attractive and give him a once over? OF COURSE YOU DO! It's human nature to be attracted to different people. As long as he's not touching what's the big deal? Maybe try to do something to keep his mind off of the other girls, or if you really think you need to then talk to him. But you will never change your boob loving man, he will always love boobs.

[Belleza]

The only thing you could really do is just sit down with him and talk it out! Listen relationships are really all based on compromise, understanding and communication oh and trusting one another! If you don't have that all you have is just a heartache and suffering and worrying where he is at the moment! It's really all that simple - if you don't feel like talking it out then just trust him! Good luck hope this helped!

[ionlife]

It is a fact of life that us guys will always love breasts, asses, legs, and pretty much everything else on a woman.

You can sit down with him and talk to him about it but I think you also need to understand that it is a natural thing for us. Yes, some are more discrete and others are way too obvious but I think that many of us outgrow the 'too obvious' phase and become gentlemen (more discrete). :)

Aside from his staring, you also need to ask yourself as to why you are insecure about him looking at the other women? Boost your own self-esteem and I think you'll find that his looks won't really have that much of an impact upon you as well.

[luckoftheirish33hot]

ur icon indicates that ur a guy, why the hell do you have a question like this on here?

[azarakram]

What you can do: every time he admires a girls boobs.. get him home right away, remove your blouse and shove your chest in his face. Problem solved!