Boyfriend won't add me on facebook?

[Anonymous]

We've been seeing each other nearly 3 months now but my boyfriend still won't add me on FB.

I asked him why and he said "My FB doesn't always like me getting friend requests. I can't always add people, I sometimes get an error message or it just says pending and doesn't do anything".

However over the past two weeks he's accepted 6 friend requests, both male and female. Although 4 of the 6 were female which put my back up somewhat.

What the hell is going on? Do I trust him and think nothing of it, or shall I call his bluff?

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I called him out on it, as I said there's nothing wrong with your facebook, you've accepted another 3 friend requests while I've been online tonight. WTF is going on? Sort it out!

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Also said to him, that I don't mind not being friends with him on facebook, but its the crock of sh*t he fed to me about not accepting my friend request that I object to.

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Found out he was still listed on Badoo as single, and on his profile said he was an old fashioned gent that loved to wine and dine girls and to hit him if anyone wanted to chat. Lying piece of sh*t.

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Talked to him, he deleted his Badoo account and turns out he has a son and a very nasty ex who's hassling him on facebook, hence no friend request. All sorted.

[Visitor2]

My boyfriend and I broke up 2 days ago. We were together for 4 months. We met on an online dating site. He asked me to exclusively date him and I said yes. On the 3rd month we were together, I asked him if we could be friends on Facebook. He gave excuses saying he is not really active on Facebook. Another month had passed, I asked him again if we could be friends on Facebook since he had met my friends already. Again, he told me I don't have to be friends with him on Facebook because he said he's not actively using it. Then, 2 days ago.. I thought I'd check his Facebook page out since his is a public account. His friend's list are filled with single women. Luckily for me, these women also have public accounts. He would comment and would "like" their pictures. The worst part is that I saw in the comments how he flirts with these women. Asking them to meet him, he tells them how beautiful and sexy they were. And he wants to marry them. All the nice things he would tell me turns out, he told these women as well. Asked him through text message about these women, he tells me their just friends before I met him and that he's just "fun flirting" with them. He also said that I have no business checking out his Facebook page because I'm not in his friend's list. I told him that it's not okay to be flirting with these women on Facebook because we're exclusively dating. What he did to me was very disrespectful. He told me that I should not be nosey on his Facebook activities. I told him I don't want to be in a relationship where he chats and flirts online with other women. That's just not cool. Because of this we broke up. He blocked me from Facebook. Him blocking me from Facebook says a lot about where his priorities were. Also, that I blew his cover. This was a blessing in disguise for me now rather than find out later. I was hurt by what he did. But I know I'll be able to move on. Hopefully, I will meet the right one for me soon and he won't mind friending me on Facebook.

[allyaskyou]

huh. been there. the twist was he friended me on fb and that made me easier to acces his posts on other peoples wall and ya I saw it.. posting i love yous to other womens wall.. to make the story short we broke up. he told me to block him and so i did. i have no time to play around with his bs..

by the way it was an online relationship but on my part i hoped that we will someday meet in person and have our relationship for real but unfortunately it didn't work out as how i dreamed it to be.

Now Im dating another guyy online ( again) and he has an fb account yet he didn't asked me to be friends on there.. I just leave it that way.. I already learned my lesson, if theyre for real they will be even if i won't force them too. if in the end they just played around then its not my loss at all coz I know to myself i invested real feelings for them yet they just wasted.. thats life it happens even in real world ( outside the internet) so there's nothing new at all the only difference the cheating was done with the use of high technologies we have now.

[tina031]

don;t trust him. what a A***

he is obviously hiding something on FB or thinks that once you two become FB friends you'l send him a request to change his relationship status to "in a relationship" with you. and he might not want that,

don;t waste your time with him. you will fidn someone even better who will be proud to accept you on facebook and advertise to the whole of FB that you are HIS.

[wanacot]

If he simply hadn't flagged you as his girlfriend on facebook that would be one thing, but not even adding you as a friend after 3 months of dating is a red flag. There's something more going on here than he's letting on. The "technical error" excuse is simply his way of trying to deflect the issue. If he's really worried about it not accepting then tell him to update his browser, it takes about 30 seconds and should leave him absolutely problem free. However, considering he is adding others as friends that doesn't seem to be the underlying issue here.

[Asker]

I like your thinking. I think I'll call him out on this one.

[Asker]

I called him out on it, and he went strangely quiet. He's deffo hiding something.

[NotSoBad]

I'd assume he's lying if he accepted other peoples.. I mean in all honesty, if that is the case, why hasn't he sent you a friend request? You could accept him.

Some people don't like to be facebook friends with the people they are dating because it creates a lot of problems, but if that is the case he should be honest with you about it.

Tell him if he is going to lie about something so stupid then this relationship isn't for you. then stand by your guns and leave him to question the idiotic move he made.

[Take_it_off_x]

hmm this is seriously suspicious there's something going on here I think you should confront him about it

[Asker]

Yeah, especially when he's accepting friend requests from girls all over the country! WTF!!

[Take_it_off_x]

Yeah this is really unfair as some one else said if the problem was he couldn't accept he should have added you instead. I really hope things work out for you ya deserve some1 amazing :)

[Asker]

Precisely. Its making me absolutely hopping mad.

[Asker]

Found out his son's mother keeps hassling him on there, so hence why he wouldn't accept me as he was afraid she'd start on me as well.

[beachybabe22]

have someone you know that doesn't know him add him, if he accepts look at his profile and see if he's trying to hide something.

[Asker]

I like..I like..:)

[Jayded1]

I am sorry hun you need to call him on that shit. Something is very wrong.

[tina031]

what!? a son? dump his sorry ass.

[Asker]

Yep but as my brother's in exactly the same situation with his ex missus who is a total cow, I'm inclined to be more sympathetic. I just wish he told me sooner.

[little]

wow, that's a bunch of bullsh*t. DUMP HIM!