How do you feel about family members kissing on the lips (of course in an innocent fashion for the many on GAG who will get hysterical)?

[gobsmacked3]

I have seen it in many families and felt bemused by it. I never kissed any of my three kids on the lips. I saw it as a tad weird

[KnismoShade]

I guess it's just some people's way of being affectionate much like people who kiss their pets on the mouth or snout but, it's not something that I care for. It just doesn't seem right to me. Back when I was teenager my future step mother kissed me on the lips and I was stunned by that. It didn't matter that she was fairly young and pretty. It was still creepy and made me uncomfortable.

[gobsmacked3]

I fully relate

[NearlyNapping]

I'm fine with it. Maybe at some age it gets a little weird, but it's fine with children. Even once the kids become adults, I think it seems kind of odd, but I don't really see anything wrong with it.

I think in my family we used to kiss our parents on the lips when we were little. It just seemed normal to me.

[gobsmacked3]

I see nothing wrong with it. it is just not my cup of tea but it has always intrigued me in witnessing it in other families

[NearlyNapping]

It seems normal to me. I don't remember for sure about other families when I was a kid, but I know it's pretty common. Now I'm curious. I'll ask around irl and see how many people kissed their parents or kids on the lips. I know for sure my best friend does.

I think this is also somewhat cultural. I think some cultures are more into kissing than others, and I've read that some don't kiss at all as adults.

[PrincessPie]

I'm completely fine with it.
I don't see how kissing a family member on lips is weird, specially your children of course you want to kiss your kids.. i don't get how it is seen as weird its completely innocent unless you're someone of a bad mind.

[PrincessPie]

I guess i was brought up doing that so i don't see it as creepy.

[gobsmacked3]

I do not see it in any way creepy. I just did not do it. It was an interesting comparison to my ex-wife who did. If one of my three kids went to kiss me on the lips, i of course greeted the lovely show of affection/love

[PrincessPie]

I suppose its what you'e used to as well, if you aren't brought up that way you see it differently to others who are.

[gobsmacked3]

I was brought up in a very traditional sense. Strictly Catholic in a traditional sense. As well as underpinned by 'boys do not cry'. One of the lessons I learnt at a young age was when my father taught me to box. His main ethos was if you get hit, smile. Even if it shatters your face and it hurts like hell. I seemed to take this lesson on in an emotional sense in life. Much to my detriment

[PrincessPie]

Exactly, what you're brought up with is what forms you as a person.
Those childhood years are pretty much what forms your character so if you were brought up a certain way its hard to change your opinion on it.

[gobsmacked3]

Of course. The aside is you sometimes directly oppose it. My father was a problem drinker who was abusive. This split me. On one hand, I often drank heavily. On the other it made me very anti violence. The comparison with my sister is she hates alcohol and any types of violence

[Purple_Babe14]

I think its perfectly normal, it depends on how close the family are. Some think its weird other, do it. I'm not against it though. As long as its not perverted.

[gobsmacked3]

in no way perverted. it is natural. on this point some people find it hard to be natural

[Purple_Babe14]

Yeah, its perverted if you make it.

[gobsmacked3]

Very wise ^

[Purple_Babe14]

lol, thanks

[indoMATTable]

it's weird because whether it's seen as perverted or not there are two problems with it.
1. it's not the norm so it's just uncomfortable for the rest of us to see.

2. usually the only time you kiss someone on the mouth is when there is romantic involvement so to kiss someone related to you like that is very out of context and odd

[Purple_Babe14]

@indoMATTable thats what the world thinks. Latinoes and Italians do it all the time though, because their close to their family

[indoMATTable]

interesting well I learned something today thank you for your response and expanding my knowledge a little

[Purple_Babe14]

@indoMATTable Welcome! Thats what this website is for... I think, lol

[indoMATTable]

it surely is

[indoMATTable]

ps I have a question for you. I'm running a pole on hear about men and body hair how do you feel about how much body hair is acceptable or do you think it's a non issue

[Purple_Babe14]

@indoMATTable Honestly I think they should shave especially the chest, how am I suppose to see the packs?

[indoMATTable]

interesting I am quite hairy and have shaved my chest before it looks weird though I do have to admit I have never had pecks

[Purple_Babe14]

@indoMATTable Cool

[QueenofCups]

I think it's kind of weird, but my family has never been very affectionate.

[gobsmacked3]

very catlike

[QueenofCups]

True lol. Maybe that's why I love cats...

[gobsmacked3]

i was just watching the best movie- 'infinitely polar bear'

[QueenofCups]

Cool. Never seen it.

[gobsmacked3]

it is so raw and honest- very clever

[Whatthefluff]

It’s a bit weird, but who am I to criticize?

[john1714]

I'm not a fan personally my family and I also were also never touchy feely like when I went home for the first time after boot camp after not seeing my mom and dad in about 4 months we greeted each other with high 5's. My parents were however very touchy feely with each other and their friends (greeting with hugs and my dad always was holding hands with my mom or had an arm around her waist) and that was exactly the person I grew up to be I'm very touchy feely with friends and in relationships with my family not so much though we hardly ever show any displays of affection and we are all cool with that.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yeah in my family we never kissed anyone on the lips, on the cheek but that was about it. I knew a family who kissed on the lips and this former family friend went to jail well lets just say he did some stuff that was not so good but we couldn't figure out why they kissed on the lips.

[gobsmacked3]

I always found it odd when I saw this. i guess it is all about how you are raised

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yeah i agree

[maiave]

As long as the kids are under like...6? I don't see anything wrong with it. My parents did it all the time then. Starts getting super weird when you're over 13...

[gobsmacked3]

It bemuses me but I have no issue with it. Not that I ever did it. Though my ex-wife did

[peterNo1]

I would say it depends. If someone of the two family members kissing finds it weird, it will be weird. My daugther who is 13 still gives me a kiss when she is for example leaving. As long as she is fine with it, i am fine with it.

[gobsmacked3]

@peterNo1 I guess this is the bottom line

[BritishGeisha]

My brother always kissed my mum on the lips (up untill about 9) but I've always thought it was weird.

[gobsmacked3]

My ex wife did but i never did. Just not my scene. i never stopped my kids when they went to kiss my lips though

[BritishGeisha]

I grew up the eldest of 3 kids, me and my sister never kissed lips but my brother and mother would (not for a particular reason, it was just a thing they did), although never our dad, he always did cheeks or more commonly heads.

[gobsmacked3]

I did the eskimo rub nose thing. Along with kissing cheeks/foreheads

[BritishGeisha]

Haha, I'd forgotten about the "Eskimo kisses" as we used to called it, we only did that occasionally as a funny thing.

[gobsmacked3]

kids growing up love it

[madgoat]

Completely normal in my life. I know some others get all in a tizzy about it though.
Perhaps they don't get how kissing originally came about.

[gobsmacked3]

All power to you

[fauna642]

I was always weirded out by it. I think I remember kissing on the lips as a kid, but once I grew up I wouldn't do that to a family member. I know where my mouth has been.

[Phoenix98]

I find it strange but I mean it's a cultural thing for some countries I've never gonna do it. But if they want to power to them.

[gobsmacked3]

I think it is more a choice think as opposed to cultural. Having seen it in many places

[Phoenix98]

You think? I've seen it more common in certain countries or with families from certain countries.

[gobsmacked3]

i befriended a family here (Australia) and they do it. Hence this question for it has always bemused me

[Phoenix98]

Hmmm I've always thought of it as a French, Italian thing since I've known immigrants from there that have done it.

[gobsmacked3]

Mediterranean people are very open to kissing cheeks on hello/goodbye. rarely have I seen them kiss on the lips

[Phoenix98]

Yeah that's true to.

Ah well who knows *shrugs*

[gobsmacked3]

it is not my scene and i find it somewhat weird. but i do not have anything people doing it

[Phoenix98]

Yeah I don't really care either, it's just a tad weird to me but if they want to do it, that's fine.

[indoMATTable]

doesn't matter the circumstance unless it's a baby or toddler it's fucking weird

[gobsmacked3]

I find it a tad weird as well. Not in a bad, or perverted sense. just not my scene

[indoMATTable]

exactly

[Vmm90]

I personally don't, I prefer the cheek but that doesn't mean I think it's wrong.

[gobsmacked3]

In no way am I deeming it wrong. Just curious

[Anon85]

My parents kissed us on the lips when my siblings and I were little.

[gobsmacked3]

good for them. i have nothing against it. just not my thing

[douride2]

I came from a very close family both sides hugs & some a kiss on the cheek.. Never kissed on the lips though.

[gobsmacked3]

Not you!

I left GAG to take break b/c of sex-crazed women like you ;)

How are you my old friend?

[douride2]

Still much the same as last yr.

[gobsmacked3]

I better get my male chastity belt out then ;)

Hopefully this is in a good manner :)

[douride2]

Yes I'm god about it.

[gobsmacked3]

Everything ok, you do not seem your usual perky self

[Guillian]

Nowadays people are so close-minded on sexual stuff that everything "non catholic" is called outrageous and abnormal. So this kind of thing could be taken as normal in a right environment. For example, I'm french and we're used to kiss on the cheek to say hello to any women and that kind of stuff would seems really weird in the US to do, so it really depends on the place and the people around I think.

[LunaJ]

since it happened with me accidentally and not only once, i don't think it's a big deal.
however it happened not within "my" family but my man's family, lol 😂

[Pink2000]

I kiss my little cousin on the lips. He's 2 and so adorable.

[gobsmacked3]

Good for you. and I am sure he loves the genuine affection

[Pink2000]

He likes giving hugs and kisses.

[TXKen]

I believe it is a cultural thing. For some it is totally normal. In other cultures it seems very weird. I'll stick with forehead or cheek!

[gobsmacked3]

Interesting. i think there are exceptions in all culture but your point is very valid

[Lutherthesaint]

No I don't even recommend family sleeping in the same bed. I saw it happening when I was a child I was sleeping on the floor. My cousin sleeping with her father on the bed. He was drunk and got his hand inside her shorts and rubbed her vagina. No one takes what she says now seriously about the incident. I would never let my daughter kiss on the lips or be in bed with anyone until she is an adult

[Pinknpouty]

I dont kiss any family members at all... Only my dogs

[CZLumen]

Just depends on the family. It's okay to feel uncomfortable and okay to not practice it.

[LoveBirb]

I think its odd, but there's nothing inherently wrong with it.