It sounds like he is just having a hard time adjusting. He’s very accustomed to sleeping alone and very comfortable sleeping on the couch. Sleep is a personal thing and some people have a really tough time sleeping in situations that are new for them or don’t meet specific requirements that they need. That’s something you will have to understand. But at the same time, if this is hurting you, then he needs to sympathize with that as well. As a compromise maybe he can try harder to stay in bed with you, and on nights before he can sleep in the next day, maybe he can stay in bed even if he’s having trouble so that he can adapt sooner.
He's possibly wanting to masterbate alone & doesn't wanna wake you for fears you'll get mad? Or he just isn't the type that likes to be touched. I hooked up with one of my friends once & he doesn't like to be touched at all but he drunkenly held my hand when we drove back to my place one night after being out with all our friends. We had sex the next day & he had no idea how to act but we still did. I'm not sure though why a guy would want to sleep on the couch unless he just wasn't ready for the move because its super serious now?
I think this is him not being comfortable sleeping with someone and you did know about this before moving in with him. Try making a compromise. Ask him to at least sleep in bed with you on the weekends to help acclimate him to sleeping in a bed, but be ready to have him tell you he prefers to sleep on the couch. Seems to be the place he likes.
Unless its a deal breaker. Then you need to have a serious talk about why you feel so strongly that he needs to be in bed with you as opposed to sleeping on the couch
I slept on a spring mattress (with crappy support) and the couch growing up. When I started regularly spending the night at my bf's, I had a hard time adjusting to his memory foam mattress on the floor.
He really might be having a hard time adjusting to both the matress and the presence of another body.
It's not about you, so get that silly thought out of your head. It sounds psychosomatic (not like he's insane, just that it's about his brain) and if he wants to, he could consult a psychiatrist. My guess is maybe a mixture of trust issues and habit. Don't pressure him about it, just try and be supportive and comforting. He may warm up over time.
i think he has a pretty reasonable point. he's used to sleeping on the couch so he's more comfortable with it and perhaps he has somewhat conditioned himself to see a bed as a place for sex and not sleep
you could ask him to start sleeping in the bed. take baby steps as he gets more acclimated to sleeping in a bed again
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I used to be the same way, it was just a comfort thing and had nothing to do with my relationship.
SERIOUSLY... get two separate comforters... and spend more time in bed just chilling, watching TV, etc.
Move his game system in there :)
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Not unusual one of my exs and I slept in separate rooms. If it bothers you I would tell him. Perhaps he could cuddle with you and then leave to sleep. Or maybe get a couch for your bedroom, so he can be close to you.
So he can be truly himself without judgement. It takes time to be fully comfortable with someone. I'm a confident guy but there is always a little bit of a front not matter how slight. If he's like me then you have fully made it into is 100% comfort zone.
Some people have a hard time sleeping with someone because they're a light sleeper. It's actually not uncommon.
There are ways to become a deeper sleeper, but that takes work.
He may be a light sleeper and/or can’t handle being touched or if you move around a lot. Ask him to try to sleep with you to see how it goes. Have you asked him why?
The only time I want to sleep alone if I'm with a girlfriend, is if I'm pissed at her..
For example if I find out she went to the strip club, she'll be sleeping on the couch that night, alone, to show that it's not worth breaking up over, but, that I'm still pissed and that we'll talk about it later
Some people just need the personal space. I have a few friends who even have separate rooms. Some people just sleep better that way.
Some people sleep better alone or other good reasons just to get good rest. Just ask him and he will tell you why he does it.
Could be a lite sleeper, any movement could wake him up. Hell if he's on the couch he's not moving much.
maybe you´re snoring xD or he just litterally can´t sleep with a person besides him. i´d say you could work at that though. but he still wants you around, i guess. it´s just the sleep issue.
I can't sleep with men in my bed because you pigs all snore 😭😭😭
You probably kick him a lot in your sleep and it wakes him up
I junk that you should confront him about it, because that’s so not okay. If he loves you he should be willing to sleep with you in the bed
I could never sleep next to someone. My comfort level is max when I'm on a hard floor. I'm fucking weird. It's probably a quirk.
you married? if not he maybe a hard core Christian.
He might be the type that move a lot when he sleep's two.
I'm not sure what man enjoys sleeping on a couch more. He sounds weird as it is.
That usually happens when you fart big time and the other person enjoys not dying from chemical poisoning...
You made me want to try that if I ever get a girlfriend
You probably snore really lound and fart in your sleep.
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