I'm too weak to break up with my girlfriend and she knows it. Should I just cheat?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend and I had a huge fight due to confusion. I broke up with her 3 times in 1 week and then asked for her back because I had a horrible gut wrenching pain from the break up and simply could not function for weeks. I couldn't hardly eat, sleep, or focus on my job.

But now that we're back together, she is cold. Colder than ever before. Even though she took me back, she is almost emotionless and doesn't care. My birthday was the other day and I spent it with friends, she was at work "Busy". I smile, and let it slide, but on my part time, I'm quickly looking for new women to date and feel attached to. And I'm sure she's thinking the same. If I can't break up with her, then I have to cheat.

Because within just 1 week when we broke up before, I proved to her how weak I was, how lonely I was, and how clingy I was. She knows all my weaknesses and she doesn't know what to do about it. She knows I am incredibly emotionally insecure after months of showing her that I had everything together. She even tried to win me over in the beginning because she assumed I was so amazing and had such a social life when really, I didn't. I blew my cover in just a week.

Advice on how to cheat and handle this situation? Thanks!

[lolwtv111]

Hm cheating will make you feel worst than when your first broke up with her. You need to write down the pros and cons of being in that current relationship and if there are more cons than pros you should find that as another reason to break up with her. If you're not happy you're jot being fair to her or yourself when you both could be with someone who is better fit for you. Cheating is a choice, if you cheat says more about you than her. It will affect you later on and her as well. Its better if a relationship ends on knowing you did everything but it just didn't work out than someone betraying someones trust and cheating. Think very well of what you are going to do.

[kaylaS91]

Advice on how to cheat?
Go to your local brothel. Stick your dick in the filthiest chick you can find. Go to the doctor and get confirmation of positive results for a host of different STD's. Then break up with your girlfriend and tell everyone you were too weak to break up with her so you decided to let your dick do the thinking.

[girlsaskall]

Don't cheat on her. You will wreck her self esteem/self worth for the REST of her life. If you don't want to be with her, then SAY SO? I really don't understand why on earth cheating is better. Break up with her, then flirt. You will be the biggest asshole if you cheat and ruin the self esteem of both women if you do.

[Asker]

I want to stay in the relationship. I really really do. But everything is so strange now. She used to have so much life and innocence at the beginning of our relation but that has faded since one week where I became obnoxiously clingy and threatened to break up and said she was ignoring me. Such an embarrassing situation for me. Now, when I get flirtatious, she avoids it and if I bring up her behavior, it only causes more fights or she ignores. If there is a way to regain her attraction and energy, I will do it. But I think we both don't want to be alone after the fight and we're buying time until the next great person comes along. Can I even regain her attraction after I was clingy? Lol

[Moniquita]

I'm the exact same way when I am upset, usually insecure, it's like you can't even connect to your emotions cause they're too extreme. Honestly by the sounds of it, if you guys are both looking outside of your relationship, just end it now. don't cheat, because it hurts so bad, and your self-worth goes down like crazy (talking about her). Just talk and ask her if she wants to continue, and what you can do. If she forgives you she won't forget but its puts a commitment piece in that she needs to work towards forgiving you and to put aside her hurt. if she can't then there is your answer. Obv. its probs more complicated, but if she is one to talk then go for it and talk.

[mathmarcus]

Dont you dare cheat, cause if you know the pain. Then you know its a bitch and thats just total disrespect

[LegateLanius]

Dude, just break up with her. That is the worst thing you can do to someone

[justmeme]

Don't cheat, be a man and break up with her and work through any pain you feel. If you don't feel the relationship is right it isn't worth wasting anyones time.

At the end of the day if you don't feel communication with her will help it improve then do break up, but cheating isn't nice no matter what the situation is like.

[AzureGirl]

Just leave. Delete all contact, get a friend that will talk you out of stupid decisions, and don’t be an idiot and cheat. That’s not going to do anything but make your situation worse.

[Saccharissa]

Grow the fuck up and either walk away, or stick with your decision to be in a relationship.

[Asker]

I want to stay in the relationship. I really really do. But everything is so strange now. She used to have so much life and innocence at the beginning of our relation but that has faded since one week where I became obnoxiously clingy and threatened to break up and said she was ignoring me. Such an embarrassing situation for me. I think she feels like there is no point in becoming romantically involved out of fear that I will threaten another breakup and pout. Now, when I get flirtatious, she avoids it and if I bring up her behavior, it only causes more fights or she ignores. If there is a way to regain her attraction and energy, I will do it. But I think we both don't want to be alone after the fight and we're buying time until the next great person comes along. Can I even regain her attraction after I was clingy? As I look back, I seemed like a child in a candy store saying "I hate you!" to a mom if he doesn't get the toy he wants. I'm so embarrassed. Lol

[Asker]

But God bless her for giving me another chance. Although she's cold now (Didn't even wish me a happy birthday), I was feeling so sick during our space. I am comforted to know I have her in my presence at least. I felt like I was dying. Never have I ever had so much in common with someone as her. It's rare to find given my eccentric interests

[LynnShanice]

You should not cheat. Be a man, no matter how hard it may be and leave her. If the relationship is that bad, you don't need her.

[Spacequeen]

Cheating will only make the situation worse. Prepare for drams

[Poppykate]

I am not sure if you are mature enough for a relationship... 🤔

[lexythelou22]

You have to get the hell over it and dump her. Why just hurt her more?

[MsPinkUnicorn]

be brave and break up with her and if you that weak make something so she breaks up with you

[samhradh_leannan]

No, you should break up with her. Period.

[Asker]

I want to stay in the relationship. I really really do. But everything is so strange now. She used to have so much life and innocence at the beginning of our relation but that has faded since one week where I became obnoxiously clingy and threatened to break up and said she was ignoring me. Such an embarrassing situation for me. I think she feels like there is no point in becoming romantically involved out of fear that I will threaten another breakup and pout. Now, when I get flirtatious, she avoids it and if I bring up her behavior, it only causes more fights or she ignores. If there is a way to regain her attraction and energy, I will do it. But I think we both don't want to be alone after the fight and we're buying time until the next great person comes along. Can I even regain her attraction after I was clingy? Lol

[samhradh_leannan]

It sounds like both of you are really confused about how you feel and have been turned off by the other person’s behavior. The only thing I can suggest is a serious heart to heart, where both of you open up and lay all your thoughts and feelings out on the table. It may get messy but if you can work through it, then you may be able to find solutions for your relationship together. But if she hasn’t been willing to talk, then there may not be much you can do. Try approaching the conversation in a calm, tactful, non-accusatory way. If she’s still completely unwilling to communicate, then you can’t fix your relationship, and if you can’t fox your relationship, then there’s no point in staying in it.

[MaelaK]

Just break up, this is leading no where.

[madhatters4]

man up and end the relationship.

[BrianMerritt]

Grow a pair.

[LifeEqualsLove]

No..

[alexei1000]

Just break up