20 years old, never been in love or had a proper boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I'm 20 and never been in love or had a proper boyfriend. I've always felt awkward and just not attractive since I was little, I've had two guys really into me but I just wasn't into them, I'm just scared, all my friends are getting boyfriends and I really want to meet the right guy.. I see 14 year olds that look like they're in love and it makes me kinda jealous and sad, like how can they understand and not me, I've been in the world longer! it sounds like I'm being mean but I'm just being honest:(

[Anonymous]

Not sure what you're question is here, but...

Don't be jealous and don't be concerned. It isn't quite as uncommon as you think. I was 21 when I got my first boyfriend, but I didn't fall "in love" until this year with my current boyfriend at 24. My first kiss? 21. First time having sex? 21. I'm not fat. I'm not ugly. I'm not dumb. Perhaps I lack in the modesty department a bit (lol), but the point I'm making is that regardless of what you or I look like or what our personalities are like we're still girlfriend material. Sooner or later, and probably when you're least expecting it, you'll meet a guy and fall head over heels. But just keep in mind that you may need to make that first move. Don't be scared. If you find yourself even slightly interested in someone, make a move and see where it leads you. If I hadn't asked my current boyfriend out on a date he probably would never have given me a second glance (he's ridiculously oblivious to just about everything) and we wouldn't be planning on buying a vacant plot of land right now on which to build our future home.

Point is: don't give up hope. Go out and FIND yourself a guy with confidence! Take the risk of being shut down! Because it's totally worth it! And if that simply isn't your style, love will still find you, just give it time!

[gotc147]

Inspiring, best answer.

[Asker]

Awesome answer. I hope I'm as lucky, thanks:)

[kmhco]

That makes two of us...

[kidaphon]

Just remember, you're not alone in situations like these.

Many of us out there are in the same predicament - if you could call it that anyway. An acquaintance of mine is 32 and he has never had a relationship at all. He's a great guy, not socially inept, fine in the looks department, has lots of friends too and he's content with life. The point is, you do not need to be in a relationship to be happy in life. Sure the spiel of loneliness can strike pretty hard sometimes, but living independently and enjoying life that way is equally as satisfying. Society (and often cultural background) often makes subtle hints that living in a happy relationship is the way to go in the long run. What I am saying is that you should not be worried that you have not had a profound relationship at all. You will know intuitively when you have met somebody that is actually worth pursuing in life, but until then, enjoy what you can being single. Good luck! :)

[lonelysadguy]

COME ON YOU HAD 2 GUYS INTO YOU BUT YOU WERNT INTO ONE OF THEM ... WHAT GIVES... YOU SOUND TOO PICKY OR YOUR JUST LOOKING FOR TOO MUCH PERFECTION AND MAYBE YOUR SORTA FALLING FOR THE IMPROPER TYPE OF GUYS (THE GANGSTAS OR WHATEVER) AND IGNOREING THE PROPER TYPES IF YOU WANT THE TYPE YOU WANT YOU HAVE TO DO THE ASKING OUTS AND NOTICE THEM TYPES AND STUFF ALSO YOU SAY YOUVE NEVER BEEN IN LOVE IS BECUASE YOU DONT "LOVE" ANYONE HOPE IM NOT PISSING YOU OFF BUT I HOPE THIS HELPS

[Anonymous]

i'm 22 and still never had a girlfriend, I've been wanting one since I was 14, it's easier for you girls since we guys always have to initiate everything, make the first move and ask you out, and when we initiate, there is no guarantee we will get a "yes"

[Asker]

Yeah but since you initiate everything, its more likely you'll find someone. 'cos girls don't generally do that, if they did initiate and were shut down, it would be way worse.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah but I hate having to initiate everything because I have been rejected too many damn times, and worse, gotten teased and lead on

[Pengithwill]

Alright if your looking for mr perfect you may never find it, I am a guy I know I'm not perfect, but you gotta look past the little imperfections and maybe you will find someone your actually interested in, oh yeah and confidence is key, if you find someone ask to hang out go bowling something fun where you two can talk and be comfortable without being too awkward

[Kushmall]

i haven't had a proper girlfriend and I'm 20 years too I totally understand where your coming from

just be yourself and start doing more things were there's other people

[socalgamehater2006]

I've never had a girlfriend either, I hate being in control of my own destiny because that means I am just setting myself up for failure

[RMClownMASTER]

Lol

[socalgamehater2006]

Well duh!, it's true

[bellxchaos]

:( omg we're in the same boat :/

[GoBlue97]

You're not alone

[trod199]

hoe come