Only when you twist the meanings around. By use of definitions you can justify almost any statement.
The more recent use of the term good guy or nice guy does just that. You often hear it said that nice guy doesn't mean nice guy. That's because the meaning has been twisted. It's been twisted from meaning a nice guy to a guy who is overly shy, or a nerdy guy who can't get a girl. If you define it as a shy or awkward, of course the nice guy doesn't get the girl.
But being shy or nerdy or awkward doesn't mean nice. They *think* they would be nice to a girl. When in reality they've never been with a girl and have no idea how they'd act.
Relationships put people in all kinds of strained situations. You don't know how you'll react unless you've been there. They imagine they will be perfectly calm and romantic under strained conditions, when they really have no idea how they'll handle it.
Then when some self proclaimed nice guy gets in those situations and handles it poorly, suddenly they are not so nice any more. They were only "nice" in their imagination, or under situations where it was easy to be nice.
So they sit back viewing others from the outside, and judge them without ever having been in that situation.
That doesn't mean they aren't nice. It doesn't necessarily mean the other guy is a bad boy. It means they don't really know how they'd act in the same situation, and it could go either way. They may handle it well, or they may not.
On the other hand, bad boys are not necessarily bad boys. It's a similar kind of judgement. A guy who is more aggressive and goes after a girl is not a bad boy or asshole. Maybe she wants to be gone after? Maybe she wants a guy who is more aggressive. Being aggressive by itself doesn't make him an asshole.
Maybe the "bad boy" is just fun to be with. The guy and his girl could be sitting around reading comic books. Or they could be out having a blast doing something mischievous. It's fun to be bad sometimes. It adds some excitement to your life.
But here's the thing. A person can be "bad" and "good" both. There is a balance. A guy can be fun and exciting, and aggressive with women. But at the same time he can be a good person, who treats her well, and treats others well.
Most women won't want a guy who is truly an asshole. But that doesn't mean they want a guy who is complacent and boring either. Too many people act as if this subject is binary, one or the other, when it's not. A guy can be both.
No. There is a difference between a 'bad boy' or a confident guy. Confidence is attractive to women. But maybe a guy having a rough look or stlye and is still being a generally good person. We really shouldn't put people in such narrow categories. Someone kind seem or act like a good guy and still do terrible thing. Priest and Doctor molest children for crying out loud. Question why someone falls for a bad person is rather destructive as people can be very deceptive.
It depends. The "bad boy" image is appealing but it's never a dealbreaker if he doesn't have it. I just like confident, intelligent, masculine guys. A guy doesn't need to have the "bad boy" image to possess those traits.
That may be true with a lot of young people in their teens and 20s. Their brains are still developing and they are often more attracted to danger and wickedness in general. They have less empathy and are more interested in things that bring others down to feel good if that makes sense. It's really hard to explain the phenomena. But yeah, they often like the chaos. Plus young people are much more impressionable and easy to convince bad is cool. Combine that with them much more into conformity and you end up with people impressed by wickedness and trying to feel impressive by obtaining it. When you get older, it'll probably look dumb to you.
My observation has been that young women tend to find the bad boys more appealing, but as women get older they value the good ones more. I'm not exactly sure why. Maybe the bad boys seem more exciting, but after getting hurt by them, women start to realize that they'll be happier with a good guy?
I think some of it is just natural progression of what people value as they grow and mature. Younger people (male and female) tend to value excitement more, but as people grow and mature and have more responsibilities most value stability, being supported, good communication, lack of drama, and being treated well a lot more.
Bad boys are usually better at providing excitement. Good boys are usually better at all those other things.
A nice guy can't be a nice guy just because he is, or else your classification would be right. From what I understand, girls like a competent man, and bad guys are often competent. As a result, guys trying to be nice guys seem to think that they need to be incompetent, or maybe even just think that it's okay to be incompetent. It's the guys that are capable of all that the bad guys could do yet choose to be good that get the girl, given she's given the opportunity to and is smart enough to recognize him.
No, not necessarily. This dichotomy of good and bad boy/girl is nonsense. It's so simple it's ridiculous. Women like "bad" men because they are perceived as more confident, whereas "good'" men often put women on a pedestal and aren't actually kind at all, but just try to be nice to get women. It's possible to be both "good" and "bad" which is what women truly want. Simply be kind but also show that you will not tolerate disrespect, and try to be extremely honest. I don't know why people struggle with this.
The main reason why they get them easier is because they don't mind lying to her and giving her way more compliments. They use flattery, exaggeration, and money to impress. That is why they can get girls pretty easily, but the relationships don't work because they are still a lying, deceptive person.
Bad boys in a girl's mind is often someone who is outgoing, who speaks his mind, confident, passionate about things he do, doesn't give a fuck about what others say and other similar traits. Usually these traits are considered ideal by any woman out there. What bad means in most guy's head and in some girls' head is someone who abuses, doesn't respect and someone who is violent.
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I guess the answer depends on who you talk to and the circumstances. Sometimes bad guys are appealing then some girls find out the hard way that's their not worth bothering with with them cheating and playing away etc.
I don't consider myself to be a bad guy but I'll stand my ground when needed to and have my red lines when it comes to people and I don't see much appeal in being bad anyway.
for what ever reason, girls gravitate toward the bad boy.. They cry " I want a good guy" but they always wonder towards the bad..
When I act indifferent and like I could give a shite, I can chat up a girl all night, if I act like a nice guy and do all the right things, I can't hold a conversation.. So you want to meet a girl , be a dick..
What I've learned is that there is some truth to this. Women don't necessarily want a "bad guy" just because he's bad. Women want a confident man, unafraid to step outside of his comfort zone, they want a good guy, but not a push over. Most women want a man to be man, and to give her all the extra badness when they are alone.
Yeah it's a lot easier for the bad guy to get the girls because they lie, where as I expose all my flaws and tell you exactly what I'm going to do when where another it doesn't sound as appealing but it's the truth.
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