Why do girls prefer the bad guy instead of a good guy?

[Heriot]

[Tiffany_Taylor_Made]

The claim that girls prefer the bad guy instead of a good guy is a generalization that does not apply to all girls, as different girls prefer different types of guys. However, to answer the question about specific girls that prefer "bad guys" over "good guys," one must provide an adequate definition of "good guy" and "bad guy." Oftentimes, when people attempt to define a "good guy," people often describe a man with a pleasant, soft personality, but also with characteristics that are often considered unattractive to many women. Such characteristics are often shyness around women, nerdiness, poor social skills, lack of confidence, and lack of (physical) sex appeal. Because boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are inherently sexual in nature, many women are much more likely to be attracted to men with confidence, courage, social skills, and sex appeal as opposed to men with merely a nice, gentle personality. Simply being "nice" is a trait that should exist within every human, which could result in forming stronger friendships and make it easier for people to get along. However, it is the confidence and sex appeal that often sexually attracts women to men, which are characteristics that should go along with being nice. The man often described as a "good guy" often lacks such attractive characteristics.

On the other hand, when defining a "bad guy," people often describe a guy that is bold, confident, socially skilled, and more often than not, sexually appealing. Such men possess the confidence to approach women and begin a relationship, the sex appeal to sexually arouse women and create sexual desire in women, the courage to protect their women from danger, and the social skills to improve the likelihood of forming relationships. However, a "bad guy" could also be defined as a man that is a bad person in general, such as men that commit crimes or harmful acts towards others without remorse. Unfortunately, some women do begin relationships with such men that are bad people because men that are bad people often have the attractive characteristics that women prefer in men. Yet, this does not mean that the majority of women prefer men that are bad people. Instead, women are often accused of preferring the "bad guy" over the "good guy" because society often defines the socially skilled, sexually appealing, bold, and confident guy as the "bad guy" and the nicer, but less confident, sexually appealing, and socially skilled guy as the "good guy" when, in fact, the "bad guy" that girls prefer could be a good person in general.

[Screenwriter]

This isn't a truism. Some young women like the idea of a "bad" boy. Someone who's a bit of a scoundrel, maybe had a brush with the law, has a badass motorcycle, is a ladykiller.

Rational older women, and by older, I'm talking about women with steady jobs, young children, mortgage and car payments, aren't looking for cheap, ephemeral thrills. In fact, a "bad BOY" would not be on the radar of a sensible woman who has responsibilities. She wants a grown man who's OVER being a boy and takes care of HIS responsibilities.

There's lots of ways to have excitement in your relationship: travel, sports that you both enjoy such as scuba diving, hiking, camping, fishing, hunting, skiiing. Things you both enjoy doing such as home remodeling, painting, DIY projects, art, music. If they're things you're passionate about, they're thrilling. Political and environmental causes, charities.

There are too many ways to be good people that are great for the ego and for the world. Bad boys are only concerned with themselves and make for terrible partners.

[Novacane]

Because women love a man to be dominant, and not submissive. As we have seen through many roles the "bad guy" tends to be more masculine and dominant than the counterpart "good guy". They don't want someone that can easily be walked over consistently they want someone that can stand up for themselves and for them as well. Women work on the basis of security and protection so they look for someone that will give them that, and let's be honest those "good guys" tend to be the typical guy, everyone is a "good guy" but not everyone is a "bad guy" that's why they get all the attention. Think about it this way if everyone is being nice/good to you that's what you will always expect so nobody will really stand out, but then here comes the bad guy that doesn't give them the type of attention they are used to getting so their mind instantly starts to react and becomes intrigued with this bad person, like the rebellious side coming out. So in conclusion don't be nice to women, well treat them with respect but you don't owe them anything

[jackderby_01]

Because the nice guy is fake. He's putting a partner on the pedestal. He avoids conflict and may even accept it if others disrespect him. He tries to please everyone. But in truth he wants something in return which is why he's doing it in the first place. People won't like you if you become someone you're not. You have to be yourself and not care what others think cuz in the end your true relations ar established by trust and unless you show both your power, strength and weakness, vulnerabilities, emotions and mistakes you won't be original. Being yourself is important. Otherwise you're just being something else to impress someone and people don't like such dishonest people anyways

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

I am going to assume that the so called Good Guy is boring, any guy who describes himself as that is probably lame.

The so called “Bad Guy” probably has a few things that make him appealing or entertaining like ; Owning a Motorcycle , being in a band , he will probably also give the woman a Dab out of Giant Bong , and they will have a smashing good time at raves and music festival

A so called good guy doesn’t fit any woman’s shopping list. Those are super specific. They may prefer someone who describes themselves by any other adjective such as : Fit , nerdy , artistic , sporty , business savvy , hospitable , cheffy , bohemian , outdoorsy , philosophical and deep.

anything but the so called nice or good... it makes us want to throw up

[Ryfyle]

That deffinition of "Bad Boy" Sounds really fucking lame.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

@Ryfyle it’s an example of what he would stereotypically be. Good & Bad Guy are super generic terms. And besides people who think of themselves as Good only think that in terms of comparison to other people. Sadguru gave some some speech about how no one likes self righteous people.

Oh and that bad guy would absolutely be a fun guy for a woman to date in her early 20’s , probably not to marry or settle down with though. They will probably switch to dating a Wine Sales Rep , Sexy divorcee , a jazz musician , or some food blogger when they are 30 . The most boring they go dating wise is probably the banker.

[Ryfyle]

What a day and age when pseudo-twink with stubble accounts as a "bad boy" in your early 20's. Then again, I might be too intense of a specimen for most people. Guess that's what happens when your passions in life could considered too dangerous for most.

[hhadeshatesme]

there are loads of different reasons. And people’s definition of it differ from person to person. From my own experience with “bad boys” they lay everything out on the table. you know what your getting yourself into with them. no bullshit, no mind games. “Nice guys” aren’t all that nice (obviously I’m not speaking on all of them but there’s enough of them for you to notice) they tend to be very controlling, insecure, and manipulative. Nice guys are nice on the condition of giving them what they want, they can feel very entitled to getting their way and can turn into some of the scariest people when told no. Bottom line shitty men tend to hide behind the “nice guy” act to seem approachable and do give the actual nice guys a bad rep.

[hahahmm]

I disagree with the idea that they prefer him. More like how you might view ice cream compared to a cup of soup. One is fun. One is actually good for you. Just because you eat a lot of ice cream doesn't mean you can't have soup too. A lot of females are under the impression that they can have everything. They try to have all of the ice cream now and then later in life they want soup. The higher quality females think soup is best. If you want a quality relationship don't worry about the ones getting fat on ice cream.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Do you want the same things now that you did in your early 20's?
In my ten years ago I just wanted to fuck, have fun and graduate. Today I want to build a family and buy a house. And also have fun.
Wanting different things in different times of your life is normal. It's supposed to be like that.

[hahahmm]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 The problem is when she's lying to you and saying she's loyal to you but actually she's getting banged by the biker gang dude 3-5 times/week. A lot of these women want that ice cream & soup at the same time and present different faces to different men. Also not everyone is on the same schedule. There's women who only want soup when they're 20. Then you have some who want to be whores covered in cream for 20+ years and then act surprised when the soup man isn't interested later on.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

That is different. That is cheating. That is a problem that can happen to everyone even the bad guy gets cheated on.

But now here is the thing. I disagree that good women want ice cream. Because they know it's a ball of ice cream over a turd.
Good women want soup because they know that's only the entry. They have a hole mean ahead. When you say they want it all, they want a good guy that knows when to be "bad". The full meal.

Just like we want a sweet loyal girl who also let's us fuck her like a whore.

I know that many girls are trash and are super entitled. They want a guy that is the entire meal when the only thing they have is nice tits. Fuck those girls!

When you and me talk here our biggest difference is that when we refer to "girls" we think of different attitudes. You think most of them are the entitled trash. I don't. But I don't deny that they exist and exist more than ever before in history.

[hahahmm]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 My theory is that most of the good ones are usually locked up in relationships. The low quality ones are in and out of relationships a lot & easier to find on the market so it will seem like there's a higher percentage of low quality ones simply because of that. I saw some survey that said 50% of women today are against (rabid, man hating) feminism. So for sure... you have a huge number of women who would be happy to get into a relationship with you and dance on the ashes of your crushed soul.

"That is different. That is cheating. That is a problem that can happen to everyone even the bad guy gets cheated on." -- It's not really the same for men and women tho because a man is willing & expected to give his life to protect his woman. On day 1 of a serious relationship that guy is potentially risking his life for her so if she cheats on him he's then risking his life based on the lie that they have a mutually loyal relationship. She's never going to be in that situation. She can also get pregnant with another man's seed and lie and say it's your baby. She can have you paying for that kid for 18-20+ years just because it amuses her or she likes robbing dudes. You can't do that. Yes, there's men & women who cheat but when women cheat the fallout can be much worse for the man than it is for her when she cheats.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

The good ones are all in relationships? Doesn't work like that. They can be single for many many reasons.
Feminism is not about men hating. You are think of femimazis. For real have you ever meet a feminist in real life?

1. How many men will actually die for their partner? Not many I promise you.
2. Of the ones who would how often is the average person in a life death situation? No one goes to a relationship thinking about that.
3. You really think men can't cheat and leave women in the gutter? Take their kids and take their money and lifestyle away? We can do that!

[hahahmm]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 I said: "My theory is that most of the good ones". Not that all were in. When I mentioned feminists I clearly qualified that too but you skip that detail. As far as men risking their life for a woman: It's interesting that you want to downplay the negatives of modern women while then bashing men by claiming that few men would die to protect their woman (in the context of a serious relationship as I said). It's well known that men are protective. It's one of the main traits women are even drawn to. Sure, it could be there's lots of guys who are cowards about it but I haven't seen evidence of them being in large numbers. After all, even simps try to protect women. They just go overboard and do it in situations where it's not actually a good thing to do.
"You really think men can't cheat and leave women in the gutter? Take their kids and take their money and lifestyle away? We can do that!" -- No, a man cannot get pregnant and lie about who the parent is. It's just not biologically possible. As far as "take their money and lifestyle away" - no guys don't take a woman's money. He takes his own money. He doesn't take her "lifestyle" he takes what he provided. Look at Dr. Dre. This guy gave his wife so much money that she was throwing $100k parties every month. She had everything a woman could dream of. In the divorce she wanted half of everything he has. There's no subtracting out of everything he gave her in the marriage. She even claimed that she had quit her law career so he owed her for all of the money she would have made if she kept her career going. Mind you, she was never even a good lawyer to begin with. You seem to be going down the road of claiming that if a woman says something it has to be true & that the math needs to always work out in her favor. I hope that's not where you're headed.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

That was not bashing. To give your life for anyone is not easy. Even mothers leave their children behind when running from something dangerous. Happens a lot in natural disasters.
But here is the thing, what women need protecting from? In developed nations the chances that you are in danger are actually very slim. If there is danger more often than not they have a gun or are in a group so any men will be as helpless on the rare occasion it happens. So... what they need protecting from?

A man can't lie about who the mother is, but you know what he can do? What my father did after my mother divorced him because he cheated on her. He married with the woman he cheated on, let's call her "A". They had two children. After that he went and got another woman pregnant, let's call her "B". He is a man of money and you know what he did? Basically forced A and B to be both his wives or else he would take their kids away along with their provider. Oh yes because he made sure they were dependant on him for everything. If one whould try to leave all he needed to do was go to court. They had no money to fight him there. They would be left on the gutter. That is what a man can do. He still has them in this situation and got a third one, "C".
My mother was the only one that was breave enough to leave when he cheated the first time.

[hahahmm]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 "Even mothers leave their children behind when running from something dangerous" - Good mothers do not leave their kids behind. They will run back into the burning building and die with the kid if they can't get the kid out. Unless bystanders hold her back so she can't do that. Likewise a man who is not willing to take a bullet to save his wife/woman isn't being a good man... assuming that she was an innocent victim as opposed to doing something totally retarded on purpose. It's a grey area if she created the situation against his advice.

"In developed nations the chances that you are in danger are actually very slim." -- You're living in fantasy land. If you were right then there would be zero cops and zero people ever even getting into violent situations. " If there is danger more often than not they have a gun or are in a group so any men will be as helpless on the rare occasion it happens. So... what they need protecting from?" -- Where I live the odds of a woman having a gun is like 1/3rd of a man having one. Not every woman even has a gun. Also women don't always travel in groups and even if they did that doesn't prevent predators from being in groups too. It's like saying the sheep have nothing to worry about because they're in a group. Ha ha ha. Come on, man.

"A man can't lie about who the mother is, " -- okay so now we get to the bottom of your views on men: your mom taught you almost everything you know about men and the rest was taught to you by your dad who is a bad role model. I get it. You're a bit of a momma's boy. And I'm not saying that to be mean. I used to be one too.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

When survival instinct kicks in all vets are off my friend. That goes for men, women, mothers fathers, pets you name it.
Going back into the fire is a decision you make once you are out. But you did get out alone didn't you?

I never said it is not necessary to have police. I said it is rare that you are in a situation where you need to be protected. Even more rare when you being a man will make a difference.
So what if women don't have as many guns? You having a gun doesn't make tou safer if the attacker also has one! In fact it increases your odds of you being shot because the robber doesn't want to be shot does he? If you don't have a gun he can just go away once he has your wallet.
And yes being in groups helps. It always has it always will. Humans are not sheep. One unarmed men against a group of unarmed women is always best than a 1 vs 1 situation. Always.

Oh no my friend. My mother always told me to be with my father because "he is the only father you have". And I did pass some of my childhood with him. Even recently I reached out to him hoping he would be be better now. He isn't. I make my own opinions I don't need anymore to make them for me. I don't need to grow with a man next to me to know what a good men is supposed to be.
Note that I just gave you an example, a real one, of how a man can screw over women big time. And you didn't answer to that so I will assume you understood that both men and women can ruin the other.

[hahahmm]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 The entire top posting was about "why do girls prefer XYZ"... it wasn't even about men but you wanted to turn it into being about men because you felt defensive of women in general, I guess. "When survival instinct kicks in all vets are off my friend" - I think you're making excuses because you know you don't have it in you to protect your woman. I assure you that a lot of men don't have that problem. You talked about the burning building example and asked how the woman got out -- well sometimes it's because she first took out a kid and then she has to go back to a different part of the house for a different kid. Usually they stay in the house and don't come out unless they have all of the kids. I mean, I don't recall ever seeing a headline like, 'mom escapes fire but all of her kids die".

"I don't need anymore to make them for me. I don't need to grow with a man next to me to know what a good men is supposed to be." -- Sounds like you don't know if you're trying to justify a man not protecting his wife from danger. What often happens is people often think they know everything about themselves and life... only to find out later that they didn't.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

I simply said at first that is normal for people to want different things is different stages of life. I was referring to both men and women.

I already got bitten by a dog for my now wife. And trust me I am afraid of dogs and heights. Still did it. Me believing that survival instinct takes over in moments of life and death isn't me excusing anything, is simply stating a fact.

And you will never see it in a headline. My sister works in a hospital in London. There was a big ass fire in a apartment building some years ago. It was news all over the world. Google it won't be hard to find. She told me stories of some of the survivers. Including some people who got calls from their lives ones still inside asking them why they had left them behind. Hard to swallow isn't it? Knowing you are going to die and the last thing you do is calling to make who left you behind guilty for life.

[hahahmm]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 Well, I encourage you to aim for high standards in life. Don't let the bottom feeders of society be your definition of normal.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

@hahahmm and what makes you think I do?

[hahahmm]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 You writing, "When survival instinct kicks in all [b]ets are off my friend. That goes for men, women, mothers fathers, pets you name it." This is something people say because they aren't mentally certain about who they are. Then you kept bringing up that not all moms would rescue their kid. To me it's all just a way of justifying something you feel about yourself although yes, I'm aware that you disagree. Anyhow, probably my last post on this thread.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

I know very well who I am. Like I told you I already had to put myself in a dangerous situation for my wife. Still doesn't change the fact that no matter who you are if survival instinct kicks in you are not even going to think you will just act in self preservation. You don't agree even after I gave you the London fire example fine.

But we are alright way off topic.

[Kaneki05]

Well one of my ex's she was a bad person so i guess that's why she went with the bad guy or she was really dumb. Either way she wanted to be with the guy who wouldn't go to hospital with her after something serious rather than me. Even tho he was already with her and i am guessing there were cheating at that time together.

Then some other girls aren't cheaters or anything but yeah seem to get with bad guys. I don't know why they like them either.

Now girls here saying that don't happen. Welp it does i've seen it many times. Don't mean every girl does of course. But factually yes some girls do get with the bad guy instead.

[SueShe]

Can you provide us with reliable government statistics for you global statement on one gender?

Do you honestly believe that the 1+ billion adult women that are married did so because they chose a bad guy over a good guy?

Could it be that you make your blank statement based on some biased porn site statistics or from personal experience?

If you were rejected in favor of a "bad guy", does that make every single woman preferring a bad guy over a good guy?

What is your definition of a good and a bad guy?

There are so many wrong ideas and dogmas that the porn industry wants mainly men to believe that everything they publish must be taken with utmost caution.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

"Can you provide us with reliable government statistics"

My face. Checkmate.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

@FýrdracaDócincel What does have to do with good guy and bad guy?

[FýrdracaDócincel]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8
It doesn't. People who want articles of proof for something that's everywhere I refuse to take seriously.

She wanted a source.
She gets my face.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

@FýrdracaDócincel and your face is a source of information or proof of what?

[FýrdracaDócincel]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8
It's not proof of anything. She shouldn't need proof. That's the point.

My god, you're thick.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

@FýrdracaDócincel and why shouldn't she need proof? In fact who's to say that she is wrong? I don't think she is. So I also need proof.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8
Because anyone with a brain can see it in our pop culture.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

@FýrdracaDócincel Aren't you letting social media brainwash you to much?

[FýrdracaDócincel]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8
Fantasy reflects reality.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

@FýrdracaDócincel It doesn't it really doesn't.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8
Yeah right. You're full of it.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

@FýrdracaDócincel why? Because I know girls like good guys?

[qwert1234]

I don't think they like the "bad" guy per-se. It's not like "ohhh he's taking drugs, so lovely" or "ohhh he robs convenience stores, I'm gonna marry that guy".

I think it's because "bad" guys project a confident image. Confidence can carry a conversation. Conversation can lead to curiosity, curiosity can lead to attraction.

Also, please remember, confidence is not arrogance. lol. So many guys think they have a game, but it's just arrogance (ie: "I've had sex with 10 other girls, it was awesome")

[Medhat-M]

People have different personalities... There are introverts and extroverts... Reserved, laid back and exclusive people , promiscuous and adventurous people... The bad boy / nice guy drama only starts when someone goes for people who's not their type and gets rejected... And they do that because they don't fit the general and most stereotypical image of " cool ", so they feel kinda shamed and try to be more like it... So, they seek people like that... And that doesn't happen only to guys... Girls too, they're called " good girls" and " shy girls "... But because they're girls, their success rate is way higher and they actually can get the guy.. But then they realize it's a mistake and it ends up ugly and they're emotionally scarred... making them realize the obvious that it's usually better to stick with your type and that's what most of them eventually do and be like.. Oh I'm so done with bad boys lol

[Exterminatore]

It’s pretty simple. Usually it’s because they are pathological. Security is very important to women. That comes in many forms. Pathological women will view men who do not obey laws or rules, lack empathy, lack morals and lack values as strong and able to provide security. The reality is it is weak to be unable to discipline yourself enough to live within the law and rules. Being able to accomplish things because they lack empathy and are able to disregard morals and value nothing as sacred is also not a strength.

[Toast792]

They don't. That's just something some men made up, because they can't imagine someone not being attracted to them. So instead of accepting when someone turns them down, they spout that bs. On the occasions where women go back to their abusive exes, however, it often because she is manipulated into it, or mentally ill.

[tatianamay]

Hahaha so what exactly is the "bad boy"? He smokes? some teens smoke. He drinks? Eh, some teens just wanna experience getting drunk. He sleeps around with girls? I thought even men in their 30s do that.. He wears a leather jacket? Even I can wear a leather jacket and turn into a bad bitch. He has gone to jail? Wtf, you're asking me to date a criminal? *sighs*

[t-8900]

eh i'm in my 30's and dont sleep around. If there's no love involved I'm not interested

[nawtee_me]

@tatianamay I do not believe for one minute you can be a bitch... Bad, maybe but bot a bitch. ;)

[tatianamay]

@nawtee_me lmfao, thank you! hahah

[St37xy11]

I'm not into them and never been into them. I have come across a few and I saw right through every single one of them. They are easy to get rid of. Tell them you are waiting for marriage and they run for the hills. Most guys who aren't serious will run for the hills so its an easy fix when you want the guy to go away lol.

[Anonymous]

You’re kidding right? Literally no one prefers that. Unless they’re a movie character. Why would we want to be with a guy that treats us like caca? No thanks. We prefer good guys. If you’re in high school then the teenage girls are for sure more intrigued by “bad” guys. But that shit wears off after you graduate and enter the real world. The good guys always win.

[Flower7]

Because bad guys lie to girls and pretend to be good guys.

By the time his real personality starts coming out, she’s already hooked. Often, she becomes in denial that he’s not really the person she thought he was and keeps hoping he’ll go back to being nice to her.

No guy goes in treating girls badly from the beginning and is able to keep them. Bad guys lie a lot, especially to girls that they date.

[Anonymous]

Lots of reasons. Very few good but we all have to grow up someday and that includes girls.
Bad boys are leaders (even if they lead to a dead end) women generally are followers. Bad boys are forces to be reckoned with. To a young mind especially a young woman that's exciting. Bad boys are impulsive. Women prefer spontaneity. Bad boys are instant notoriety. Women want guys with status a young Bad boy may SEEM to have that. Because women ESPECIALLY girls have a hard time distinguishing fantasy from reality. This is why guys are able to trick women with lies. A God liars Wil be able to trick a week minded woman repeatedly.

[godfatherfan]

It is sad but seems to be true. In the dating I have done in the last 7 years since my divorce, it seems if you are not willing to treat a woman like shit, they have no interest. I just can't disregard my partners feelings, thoughts, opinions, etc. You treat her right, get the car door, ask her opinion, they shit on you and dump ya.

[whirled_up_girl]

I think some women are attracted to the idea that a bad boy would be "good" them even if they are "bad" in other aspects of their lives. My take is that it's the idea of breaking through the tough exterior to reveal a very good guy has been wounded by the harsh realities of life and therefore has resorted to bad behavior. Sometimes even the so-called guys have been the ones to hurt me the most (emotionally) because I was not expecting it.

[doopayo]

This is not a romcom, that’s not true anywhere but the movies. I for one do not like “bad guys” you can go be big and bad in juvie.

[pickedcrisps]

Sometimes women actually prefer the good guy. As long as he is built physically like a bad guy. You know.

A guy wants feminine hips and feminine lips on a woman right is it not fair she wants a manly man with muscled thighs and strong arm ties?

😅

[Jlegacy]

They are ignorant of what it means to be a good guy.

A good guy is kind, powerful. Knows how to woe a woman. Can lead a woman and tell her to sit down. He is a God in the bedroom and he is wealthy.

Girls who are ignorant of this, go for the cheap look alikes. And boys who people think are good, are not even this good. Hence they spoil the good name of us good boys.

[19magic]

I want a bad boy in bed, and a jokester in life that's a hard mix but that'll be nice lol

[Sualina]

what type of cliche shit is this. You must be reading way to much wattpad.

[19magic]

Nah I stopped reading that years ago love 😜

[Sualina]

well that explains the root to this problem!! you started at a early age.

[19magic]

I've met guys like that in life kinky guys who like to have fun, I feel like if you can't have a laugh with the guy you're sleeping with then who are you gunna laugh with

[Explorer911]

Immature ones do. They like to have fun, adventure and a bit of thinking that he's going to change for them.
Not all fo them. I guess just the ones that just want to feel "special " because the a hole is dating them.

[Browneye57]

They like edgy, capable, decisive, strong men, that will entertain them, and ravish them. It's biologically built in. So do the work, and be the man, or sit on the sidelines. Your choice. And no, being a girlie-man will NOT get the ladies.

[anniisa97]

When will you guys with this thinking get over this already? Its not true. If you're so sure it is and nothing we can say will change your mind then stop bloody asking about it

[Anonymous]

For the exact same reason you'd prefer to throw it into the 110lbs 32DDD-22-32 goddess who can suck a golfball through a gardenhose, but who's a complete nut job over the 240lbs, pimply-faced librarian with the heart of gold:

Because sexual appeal matters. A LOT.

[PralineCream]

Immaturity, women grow up on movies where the bad boy has eyes for only one girl and stops being a bad boy only for her. So they get this idea that they can "fix" a bad boy.

[red324]

What movies have you been watching?

[PralineCream]

@red324 I mean I'm dating a sweet nice guys right now but look at any teen rom-com/show, even some adult rom-coms. ie: in Buffy the vampire slayer, Spike and Angel the "bad boys" are bad but not when it comes to Buffy.

[red324]

All the movies I watch they start off as Mr charming then turn into a bad guy later.

[PralineCream]

@red324 well you're a guy?

[red324]

I watch a lot of lifetime movies. Lol I'm strange I know.

[PralineCream]

@red324 Well look it's a common trope women grow up with. The bad boy turned good, but only for her. ex: Cole from Charmed, Nathan from One Tree Hill, Damon+Klaus from Vampire Diaries. There are many many more.

[red324]

Oh. I see. I watched charmed. I didn't watch the others only parts of one tree hill.

[PralineCream]

@red324 Yes Cole and Phoebe are a good example of this.

[PurSeduction]

Well it might be interesting in young ages, or for lost females seeking adventure.

My dad is a good guy, but succesful. He got my mom and created a family.

It depends on what you want.

[Nik1hil]

Because they are honest about their flaws and wear their heart on their sleeves.

Girls don't feel judged by them...
And feel comfortable around them..

Not feeling judged like a slut or a whore...
Is 50% panty dropper..

[nice-girl]

Because the bad guy can protect them better from external danger, maybe. It must be psychologically built in but I'm sure it has something to do with this.

[t-8900]

bad boys usually dont stick around for them. They have other women they're going to and you're just another side piece.

[nice-girl]

@t-8900 Girls don't care about this. And even a "nice guy" can cheat and sometimes be worse and let her down. (I am supposing here that she chose a bad guy, which is not always the case. And second, you can't categorize guys as bad or nice as everyone has different shades of their personality). An interesting video I came across related to this topic: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g4S1e8ppDno

[t-8900]

I think if you're just using a girl and leading her on and cheating you're a bad boy, pefiod.

[nawtee_me]

@nice-girl That is why the strongest survive in nature. Of course we as humans do not all act on instinct. In nature the badboy bull, or stag, or whatever it is gets the heard. However if he is not bad enough the heard can reject him.

[nice-girl]

@nawtee_me Of course it is not black and white

[t-8900]

@nice-girl I can be a bad guy, a very aggressive bad guy. Especially when other males are around. I'm extremely aggressive like that and I'm not afraid to show other males up in front of women I'm interested in. That said I never treat the women like shit. Maybe the definition for a bad guy just varies? But I don't feel I am because I still do charities and help the elderly, etc.

[nice-girl]

@t-8900 Yes, as I mentioned before you can't categorize guys as bad or nice as everyone has different shades of their personality

[t-8900]

@nice-girl okay that's fair. I would say I'm a territorial nice guy.

[dustybiker]

Define good guy? I see this question here a lot. Just a quick scroll through an askers Q and A’s tell a whole story.

[Heriot]

When I say "good guy", I will say a guy who respect her during relationship and will not betray her like looking for another girl, a guy who will not come late at home being full drunk

[dustybiker]

There are a number of.. more worldly men who push that barricade back though. This is all just black and white. Humans are grey. Both the woman choosing and each mans day to day behavior. Good choices today, poor choices tomorrow..

[anniisa97]

Maybe because a lot of men pretend to be good, and show their true colours later when the girl is already emotionally invested in him? Ever think about that?

[dustybiker]

@anniisa97 Few people are that good at hiding their true colors if that manipulative. However in that case they usually are the ones who know how to zero in on the woman who are easier to control, that’s an entirely dif thing. - It still doesn’t make half men bad and half men good.

[anniisa97]

Well yeah but who ever said half men are good and half men are bad to begin with? Its not just "nice guys" and "bad guys". Its just a stupid thing men created

[Nomina]

I second what was said. Immaturity. As well as rose-colored glasses. Been there. The bad boy is exciting. Another part of it, in my opinion, is thinking he can or will change because of her.

[SaoirseS]

I don’t believe this is true, but I have no inclination to debate it.

[VDrago14]

There's a more animalistic draw that enhances the sex appeal. There's also the aspect that they'll be more dominating. Bad guys come off as strong, where as good guys don't.

[jshm2]

They don't. That's just a movie trope.

In reality, girls prefer the interesting guy, instead of the dull guy.

[exitseven]

I find that this is a myth. Maybe because of my age i do not see it but even when I was young most girls liked to date somebody who was a gentleman.

[boggboss]

Because they tend to have better social skills and charismatic

[Massageman]

They live on the dangerous edge of life? Maybe they are Bi-polar or have Borderline personality- - - might explain the hot/cold differential in guy preferences.

[nawtee_me]

It has to do with nature. the strongest gets the heard and if he is not strong enough the heard can reject him. The deer with the biggest antlers, the ram with the biggest horns and bangs hears the most. etc.

[Anonymous]

Because the "good guys " are not actually good. They pretend to be in order to get in a woman's pants. At least the bad guy is honest about being a total douchebag

[anniisa97]

Yeah "nice guys" aka incels. There are good guys out there but they don't call themselves "Good guys" and compare themselves to "bad guys" lol

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly

[Anonymous]

women prefer sin over good works
there is a reason more women do not make it to heaven

Ecclesiastes 7:28

while I was still searching
but not finding—
I found one upright man among a thousand,
but not one upright woman among them all.

Proverbs 5:5
Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell

https://www.youtube.com/embed/3oSdrgEZrUw

[Renegade_Sailor]

Women want a man who other men want to be, bad boys have confidence in spades.

Read the Rational Male.

[Anonymous]

They are more attractive, manly, protective. I am attracted to dom men who can be “the man” even in men groups.

[Asianguy123]

Bull shit… unless the girl is school dropped out and doing drugs.. I mean immature people will like whatever the fuck. But if you are from a good family and didn’t dropped out of school they will want good guys

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

The good ones what the good guy.
But the good guy is not the same as the nice guy. Learn the difference.

[Andres77]

Simple... they want fun and adventure.
Risk heightens the experience.

[K-I-S-S]

They want excitement and young immature women tend to find it in a bad guy.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

The idea that bad boys are actually good guys and they just need some therapy-fuck.

[bulletbob555]

Because its more fun with the sinners than the saints. I'm a good guy with some bad boy tendencies. So don't be afraid to be a good guy

[Sur_Is_Weird]

I really don't get it either...
Why DO most girls like bad boys?
I'm a girl who's just as much confused as you are!

[Questyunurazz]

I think a bad boy but who is also loving would be better if I was a girl

a lot of bad boys seem to be cold and unaffectionate but maybe y'all like that

[Questyunurazz]

I'm a very naughty criminal who doesn't give a fuck about the law but I'm not exactly a bad ass I'm a very sweet and loving guy. It's jusni don't agree with following rules

[Twalli]

They're generally more exciting. Girls generally don't marry the bad guy though, at least not if they know he is one.

[Shihab91]

I believe its not a bad guy but a guy who is more confident and doesn't exaggerate being nics to her.

[InferiorElegy]

Because females love drama, they need it, they crave it, without it they have nothing also why females love having simps and white knights around.

[kellytheman]

I think they think bad boys are more exciting and nice guys are boring.

[ChiPaPa]

Because he's exciting and they think he can be changed.

[IncognitoBandito]

Sometimes they like the element of danger, or that they are an intense lover.

[Chthou95]

Excitement. And then bitch and complain to the nice guy about their problems she's having with her boyfriend

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

You watch to many movies

[Chthou95]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 You believe in too much blue pilled dogshit

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

I am not going to be hostile here. Just a few questions.
1. Do you think guys and girls can't be friends?
2. Do you really think every girl has a group of guys who will listen to everything she has to say about her awful boyfriend?
3. Do you even think most girls actually go around complaining about their relationship to other guys?

[Chthou95]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 1. If the dude doesn't find her attractive, sure.
2. Why do simps exist?
3. a lot bitch and complain on social media and because of that simps try and be the shoulder to cry on

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

1. Why? I have attractive girl friends. Still my friends.
2. Simps are all around social media like Instagram and TikTok. But even on those they don't go for the girls who are not showing a lot of cleavage and ass. Those thots are a small percentage of girls that have simps.
3. Again most girls don't have simps. They go to their friends when they have problems.

[Chthou95]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 You're not the other thousands of dudes that can't just be friends with a girl they find attractive. Congratulations 👌. "Those thots are s small percentage of girls that have simps" lol okay keep telling yourself 😂. And yeah let's ignore the thousands that have simps waiting to line up to be there for her in hopes they could sleep with her. You got it bud

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Yes I can tell you that most girls don't have that kind of internet attention. But even the ones that do, do you think they talk with all those simps? They are just filling their posts with comments but getting zero answers

[Chthou95]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 "i can tell you that most girls dont have that kind of internet attention" okay bud sure 👌. And i never said they all talk to simps. But youd be lying to yourself if you think they don't like the attention

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Most girls don't have that attention. I wish I could prove you that the hundreds of hot girls you see on social media are not the norm. For each of them there are thousands of girls who have a social account where they almost don't post anything and get zero attention.

The ones that post for attention yes, those love the attention.

[Chthou95]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 Let's agree to disagree. You're not going to change my opinion or views and im obviously not going to change yours so lets leave it at that

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Sure. Have a good day

[Pallavi37]

Good guys don't approach thats why

[Shihab91]

True

[TruthBringer]

There is truth to this, at the same time the nice guys do approach, they just end up in the friendzone lol

[Pallavi37]

Yaaaa

[Deserter]

It's a subconscious test I think. To see if he could lead and provide, and be assertive

[KrakenAttackin]

Good guys make a girl laugh. Bad guys make a girl cum.

[KrakenAttackin]

Or another one for you. "Good guys finish last, bad guys finish on her face".

[dragoblack]

Confidence, goes for what he wants with no hesitation, and a bit of danger adrenaline rush

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Stupid and wicked girls like bad men. If she wasn't wicked then she wouldn't see attraction in him.