When we first started dating, he told me a number. Throughout our relationship I found out about one or two more on my own, but the one that bothers me most he told me on his own. He said he lied and it's really more than what he told me. We'll call her C. C is his ex girlfriend who I specifically asked if he had slept with. He always said no. I asked because I felt weird about their friendship. Whenever he saw her he would greet her really enthusiastically, like she was his best friend. He would message her asking for rides occasionally, and sometimes just to send her a forward. That was fine because I didn't know he actually lied to me. Now, talking to her may not seem like a big deal to a lot of people, and it's not. But in my relationship, we don't have any contact with anyone we've had sexual feelings for or sexual contact with. It's just easier that way and less stressful having to worry about whether or not those feelings are still there. Anyway, when he told me the truth I asked him 3 different times why he lied. The first day, he said he didn't want me to think he was some sort of hoe. The next time I asked, he said he lied because he didn't take our relationship seriously at that time and didn't think it mattered. The third time I asked, he said because he still wanted to use her for rides when he had no way to get one. That included rides to and from my apartment, to his house, etc. That made no sense seeing as I had a car at the time and could pick him up whenever he needed. I brought that up and he gave me some long answer that I forgot. The last time I tried to get a straight answer, he blew up on me, yelling at me to just drop it. What I don't get is why he got a mad. I know they don't talk anymore. She's blocked on his Facebook and he doesn't even have a phone anymore. It's still bothering me so much. Help!
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Edit: I'm not considering leaving him I wanna know why he is behaving this way. Honestly, I don't really care about past lovers, I care that he lied.
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