Is the grass greener on the other side?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of one year left me for someone else

[InDetail]

Certain people get turned on more from doing something they shouldn't, when we lie or think of betraying someone our heartbeat gets faster, and there's nothing people can do about it. But people look for what they don't have always, or become curious if they've been lonely or not with many partners, society pushes us to get sexual validation because there's always something we can never reach, unless we devote our lives to sex and looking good, which most adults don't have time or can't build a career off of that, so the next best thing is multiple partners, and people are legit torn about how much they love you vs that sub-concious validation they'd be getting. So they either cheat and come clean, cheat and lie, or leave you.

[Asker]

Well i was left

[InDetail]

What I'm about to say may take some time to get to, you have to let yourself feel hurt if you feel hurt, because trying to do the opposite will leave you jaded, too jaded to meet anyone who wouldn't do that to you, someone better, you are justified for what you feel, but don't let it shape you. but keep telling yourself, that you know yourself and please explore yourself, go see other people (you need to regain your confidence) there are a lot of small remedies you have to do to get over this , this is the best way to start (Again, explore yourself logically, and get to know yourself better, and see other people to give that validation to yourself.)

[markscott]

The grass is always greener on the other side, until you get there. He won't be as happy as he thinks. for you, get busy. Do things that you like to do. Pamper yourself. Be with friends, or read a good book. Don't give yourself time to do a lot of moping around. It hurts, but you will get over it, and have fun again.

[Asker]

I’m trying man it’s harder than i think like why man 😢 my whole heart

[markscott]

Hang in there, it will get much better in time. But again, don't let yourself dwell on it. Keep busy, pamper yourself.

[uniquegirl04]

Nope. I am not going to lie, the grass doesn't always feel greener on the other side. You have to realize that no matter how much you felt you and your ex connected and loved each other, he was probably never deserving of you. Being single sucks at first, but when you take in the freedom, it is breathtaking. That's when the right, worthy person will come along and sweep you off your feet. I truly hope you can get over him smoothly, it is never easy when something ends especially after a year of loving. Have a good night :)

[Malita55]

No usually not. Men can just be very immature and think they can do better when they absolutely can not.

[Asker]

My guy left me

[Malita55]

I’m sorry, he sounds like a loser who thought the grass was greener but it wasn’t.

[Asker]

Well he’s still with her

[Malita55]

Then maybe there is something he found he likes about her that outweighed your great qualities. Also, sometimes things just don’t work out. You will find someone better don’t worry

[Asker]

Okay i know i will

[Anonymous]

Think of it as good riddance, now you can find someone who’ll treat you like you deserve to be treated.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Jmcmanning]

Depemds on why he left you. Really hard to give you a good answer on this.

[Asker]

He gave me no reason he just said he met someone else

[Jmcmanning]

I can understand him not giving you a reason (guys are good about that). When a guy leaves it usually because his needs are not being met in some form and fashion (I'm not talking about sex).

[Asker]

Honestly the only thing he has been complaining about is spending the night with one another

[JosyJosy]

And you'll meet someone better

[Asker]

Thankyou

[OlderAndWiser]

Some people are not ready to settle down. You found one of those people.

[Asker]

He wants someone else lol

[OlderAndWiser]

Once he has her, he will probably not want to be settled down with her, either.

[Asker]

I mean he sees something in her that i don’t have i still love him but i love him enough to let him go be happy

[OlderAndWiser]

The attraction may disappear when he gets closer to her. At one time, he felt that same attraction to you. . . right?

[Asker]

Right that’s why I’m letting him go i love him but i have to let him be happy

[OlderAndWiser]

He is not ready to be happy in any relationship.

[RoastedCharms]

The sun will shine once again through your cloudy days. It'll take time, effort and patience to find inner peace.
I know it hurts, but you'll realize in the future, you were better off without him as you're being held by the one you truly love.

[Asker]

Thank you for you’re words it’s hard

[RoastedCharms]

I know it is. I'm sorry you are going through this. Heart break is the worst break, but you can use this unfortunate circumstance to make you into a stronger and wiser person. You may not be ready for your Prince Charming and he isn't ready for his Cinderella, but once you two meet after all this hardship and struggles in life, it'll be worth every step of the way. Don't settle, be with someone who will make you happy even in your worst endeavors.

[Asker]

Thank you !

[snmpwalker]

My girl left me for a man she had never even met in real life (online-only). All this 'after' I committed to marry her and provide for her and the kids (all the things she wanted of me).

Go figure...

[Asker]

That’s sad

[snmpwalker]

What I'm saying is -- You can't reason these things and you will never get the truth out of the ones who leave. Best to not look for a reason... and not think that you are lacking in any way. You aren't. It is a reflection on their sad state of affairs, their disturbed minds, their unhappy childhood... not a reflection on you. You did everything to ensure they had the love and the respect to 'stay' if they liked. If they left, then it does not reflect on you.

[Asker]

Thanks I’m trying

[Anonymous]

My ex left me for his coworker and married her. It still bothers me to see them, but I learn my worth more as time goes on. Be around people who admire and appreciate you. For me, it was my job that helped me. It was his loss

[Asker]

Wow!!! 😢

[Opinion Owner]

Yes it was horrendous. But I try not to let it get to me. I surround myself with loved ones and explore other options. Time has done a lot to heal

[Asker]

Did you see any warning signs

[Opinion Owner]

Definitely. He was acting distant in the last few months of the relationship. He wasn’t as clingy as when we first started. He wasn’t scheduling dates as often. I sensed something was up. Just like you, my parents didn’t like him because of what they heard. I didn’t do much to defend him when I found out he was talking to his coworker. I just cried to people and vented out to them about his wrongs. I heard about how he and his wife argue a lot now. Also heard that she’s very insecure for him. I’m not that surprised and after hearing that, I realized the grass wasn’t all that green for him

[Asker]

Wow! Did he come crawling back

[Opinion Owner]

No, he didn’t. I think it was because I talked smack about him after he did all that. But since we go to the same church, we still pass each other. I caught him staring at me a lot of times—even after getting married. His sister in law mentioned before how he liked both me and the other girl. Honesty, he’s a player and he gives off that type of vibe. I don’t care as much as before but I still sometimes wonder why I wasn’t good enough. Just kept finding my worth in other things and other people, that’s what helps. And loving yourself

[Asker]

Thank you well my boyfriend showed signs but he got distance as well he kept complaining about how i wouldn’t spend the night and do other things because of my parents

[boggboss]

Depends why did he feel it was he was clearly not satisfied with what u was providing for some reason

[Asker]

He left me because my parents didn’t like him

[Asker]

But i wanted to be with him despite them

[boggboss]

Surly there must have been more or did they make it known they didn't like him and did he feel u defended him and your relationship

[anuragk033]

Nope it's not greener people are just confused that what is love and what it really means when you love someone with all of you and your heart🙂

[Asker]

I love my ex with all of my heart man he is my everything and he left

[anuragk033]

I know that loving someone from all of heart is how feels like but it's the worse feeling when you found out that they don't really care about you 😔

[anuragk033]

But some day you'll find someone who'll love you so much that you'll where hell you've for all of my life I'm not leaving after even dying 😍

[anuragk033]

Where the hell you have been*

[genericname85]

shit happens. don't make the mistake and assume that means anything in regards to your peronal qualities. sometimes people just don't fit.

[Asker]

Well i guess you’re right

[genericname85]

i know it makes one feel like a worthless piece of shit... i know how it feels. you can be down for some time, that's ok. just make sure you get back up again.

[Asker]

I will

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No the grass isn't greener on the other side he will find out.

[Asker]

Why did he leave man i love him with all my heart why don’t he understand that i gave him all of everything

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I agree with you , he will wake up when it's too late. Sorry he left you. :(

[Asker]

It’s alright I’m just tired of crying

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Awe sorry -Hugs-

[ChandelierBoing]

You could use artificial colouring to make yours look greener

[Asker]

Lol 😂

[thinker_]

u have to take care of it to ensure it remain green

[Asker]

Right

[thinker_]

i am always right cuz i am logical

[TheScream]

Yes lol its not the end of the world. If its not meant to be then it won't be. Move on and just do you.

[Asker]

Lol i will

[TheScream]

Look for a guy at church the best ones are there. 👍

[Asker]

They are the worst ones

[TheScream]

You been going to the wrong church then

[Aivaris]

Yes , if you can chose better why not , I was in relationship for 5year she leave me because another guy is have more money that me and I wanted to marry her by the way that guy is 10year's older that her

[GreenGold1992]

Sorry to hear that, but you'll meet someone much better later.

[Asker]

Thank you i hope so

[GreenGold1992]

I know you will

[rockrewls]

Most times it isn't at all, depending on the entire situation.

[Asker]

My baby left me two weeks ago I’m hurting like hell

[rockrewls]

Sorry to you, why did he leave?

[Asker]

He just said he met someone else no other explanation

[rockrewls]

Well only time will help heal your heart, and look at it this way, better he leave now then if you had kids or were married or both?

[Asker]

Right i love him man

[rockrewls]

I'm sorry you're hurting so bad (hug)

[Asker]

Thank you

[IsiahStewart]

He's probably just a fuck boy who just wants a hot girlfriend for her looks

[Asker]

Probably lol I don't know

[winterfox10]

Sometimes the grass really is greener... but most times it's same shade of green or browner.

[Anonymous]

No, people just want what they can't have. Don't let this get you down though. I know its hard but you'll meet someone who is right for you.

[Asker]

I’m trying

[andreasderjuengere]

Different day. Same Shit.
Perhaps someone quits when a common base disappears. This can happen over time. To simply 'improve': see above.

[xHappyClown]

fuck his brother or a friend of his that you've had an eye on.

[waynecollins]

No it’s green where you water it.

[Asker]

Thankyou

[waynecollins]

You’re welcome!