Who is more likely to get cheated on: The nice guy or the bad boy?

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I vote the nice guy, because there is just something so boring, plain and vanilla to women about men that are too nice and textbook gentleman.

The nice guy won't tell her to be quite if she is talking too much, always available and ready to listen to her mess etc.

Basically the nice guy adds no spice, fun and drama to a woman's life basically because of his meekness and always good nature, which conflicts with women's nature to like drama from time to time to have something to complain about to their girlfriends on how her man is acting up lately etc, so women tend to want to look for adventure else where.

The bad boy tends to be more fun at the beginning, but is a damn cancer which eventually most women will grow tiresome of his B. S. and just rather get rid of him rather than cheat on him.

Your thoughts?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The nice guy. I'm going to generalise here, but this question is also a generalisation since some nice guys won't get cheated on and some bad boys will.

Nice guys and bad boys appeal to women for different reasons.

Bad boys:
- Usually better looking
- More confident or at least have a "don't give a shit" attitude
- More fun because they take more risks
- More likely to make a move since they don't give a shit
- In some ways more honest because they don't care whether people get offended or not
- More likely to be able to protect a girl because they'll fight
- Usually non-needy/clingy and more aloof, more of a challenge
- Less stable when it comes to relationships
- More likely to commit crime

Nice guys:
- Usually shy, at the very least when it comes to showing sexual interest
- Afraid to "rock the boat" and as a result are overly cautious in what they say/do
- Try too hard to please people
- Usually not as good looking
- Risk averse
- More needy/clingy
- More sensible
- More stable in terms of relationships

You'll often hear even women admit that they date "bad boys" and marry "nice guys". When you look at the qualities of each it's easy to see why.

Bad boys excite women more, especially sexually, but are less stable as long term partners.

Nice guys on the other hand excite women sexually much less, but they make better long term partners, more likely to have a stable job and just want to provide.

If a woman is with a bad boy she's more likely to be sexually satisfied than with a nice guy, so it makes more sense that she'd cheat on a nice guy with a bad boy rather than the other way around.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Welp, if she cheats on the nice guy that just tells me she's nothing but a low life whore. If she has even the slightest decency she will break up first. When I see a working relationship that actually leads to happiness I tend to find that the male is a kind individual. Bad guys just don't work for long term relationships.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The bad boy who treats me bad, my guy friends know I don’t tolerate any BS from guys, so I’d be gone. Nice guys are the ones you want, but the people I consider nice guys are the normal ones who know how to treat a girl but also have a backbone. The guys that are overly nice and don’t have a backbone are not always that ‘nice’ just weak for whatever reason. Both types I wouldn’t consider for dating. I only go for the decent guys in the middle. It’s about time people understood this instead of just assuming it’s only one or the other. It’s not!

cherryphi82 · Accepted Answer

Hahaha... don't be fooled. Bad boys get cheated on. Nobody is immune. Look at all the Hollywood stars and their drama. Badassery doesn't forfeit another's free agency/dumb choices.

Logorithim · Answer

It's a good question. I wouldn't assume the bad boy satisfies all of his woman's needs and that these two types of guy have the same type of partner. Sure, there is presumably some overlap, but the type of woman that each guy prefers or prefers them are likely to be quite different from each other.

Guy13 · Answer

Nice guy without some mystery or a slight edginess.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

The problem here is that you confuse "nice" with "spineless." And create a false dichotomy where everyone's either a doormat or a dick.

I'm a passionate, patient, understanding workaholic who tries to find a middle ground that suits both parties. But if she repeatedly shows no respect for me or my boundaries, or says things to or about me that are utterly inane, I have a way of cutting her ego down to size with my words and depicting her as complete scum.

If she also repeatedly breaks promises, makes me do all the work, or shows a general lack of interest, I eventually back off. And if she asks what happened, I outright tell her: "I didn't think it mattered, because..."

I also frequently look for ways to make her laugh, or to challenge her assumptions, or encourage her to better defend her positions if I agree with them.

But if she's earned some affection, I hold very little back. I"m honest about what I can and can't offer her, and frank about ensuring I have her consent before doing anything particularly over-the-top.

You don't have to hate cops, be rude to neighbors, be a slob, have a rapsheet, or do any of those other things be be interesting. And you can swear those things off and not be a weak-kneed lily livered "nice guy" either.

However, those activities produce more pheromones, which women immediately detect. And the chemistry of sex makes otherwise intelligent individuals become knuckle-dragging dopeheads rather quickly. Men with lesser outputs become jealous, and women become lustful idiots.

It also depends on the woman involved. Older women who are more mature are less likely to cheat all around. But if they do, it's on the "nice guy." Not because he's boring, but because of some other thing that causes her to feel betrayed, and she does it out of revenge.

Immature whores, however, cheat on anyone and everyone. They don't need a reason. They don't care.

Middle-of-the-road women will cheat on Mr. Nice Guy if he's both boring and lets her down, but it has to be a serious let-down. They will cheat on Mr. Bad Boy once his abusive antics go too far. Assuming they don't have the decency to break up with him first.

I tend to be seen as the eccentric loner with a heart of gold. Women either adore that, or despise it with all their being.

D34Dcell · Answer

The nice guy usually gets cheated on the most. A majority of the women I've been with usually are in a relationship with someone who's unsatisfactory and boring in bed. Those guys are usually the nice guys who don't really like to push the limits and usually stick with what they know and let the woman lead (which is no problem) however repetition does get boring, women enjoy pleasure and cumming too and they also like to be treated properly with passion and respect. However I fully believe and know from experience that they like a man to take the lead and to try new things with them 😊

slatyb · Answer

Nice is not boring. Passive is boring. A nice guy who has some plans for his life, plans a date, and is attentive enough to know when to kiss her is the guy every woman wants.

There are lots of reasons why people cheat in relationships. Some people cheat because they are cheaters. There is no person in the world that would be enough for them. Some people cheat because they are married but their partner is not participating.

The only woman I dated who admitted cheating on her ex-husband had a good reason: she was married with small children and he was basically not emotionally present in their marriage.

Loulouchuchu · Answer

The nice guy always. My boyfriend is the "nice guy". He was cheated on by his exes. It's because he's so lovely they assume he was a mug and would take them back. He's also stubborn so that never happened. The difference is most "most nice guys" don't put their foot down so there's no balance... people will take advantage. If a person let's someone walk all over them then they'll do it. Usually it's the nice guys who are like this x

JimRSmith · Answer

It's nothing to do with what he's like, it's what his partner is like.

Freakles87 · Answer

I wouldn’t cheat period.

I have dated “bad boys” who fool around yet somehow have very loyal girlfriends

But I am currently dating the “nice guy” and every woman has basically cheated or mistreated him.

I believe the nice guy, purely because people will think they won’t leave because they are so nice. Things like this turn nice guys into bad guys that don’t give a crap

Jesseabedeen · Answer

I'm more likely to stay with the nice guy and leave the bad guy. Not up for toxicity in a relationship.

Plus nowadays there are guys who are genuinely nice, listen to you without judgement as well as being proactive, energetic and confident. So you don't have to be bored anymore.

snowangle · Answer

It's hard to say. Stereotypically, it seems like the "nice guy" gets cheated on more often. But personally, the closest I've ever gotten to cheating was when I was with a very emotionally abusive guy. Just to be clear, I never did cheat, but I was tempted with that guy. And I've never been tempted any other time.

RationalMale · Answer

Ehhh would I say the bad boys get higher quality (younger, hotter, tighter) women? Oh definitely.

Do they get cheated on? Definitely. Women who date bad boys are self selected for girls who like drama and excitement and are kind of trashy. These girls also cheat sometimes.

Billlewis · Answer

These responses are unbelievably thrilling... it seems like the general consensus is that women are more comfortable cheating on a nice guy, perhaps because they know there's a greater likelihood that he'll accept her infidelity because he wants to continue the relationship with her. So perfect...

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

Either one.
But the best way to avoid being cheated on is to make her think you're a nice guy, until she fucks up.

Be sweet, gentle, caring and romantic. But if she crosses you, show her that you're capable of extreme wrath and you're not to be fucked with.
(That doesn't mean hit her. Just to be clear. Just shy of getting physical)

That's the guy women typically won't cheat on. Or they might, who knows. Fuckin way she goes bud

Hal2002 · Answer

I totally agree, with what you have written.

The thing is, a lot of females that have been involved with bad boys, after they get tired of the bad boy. Will find a nice safe guy who will help her get herself straightened out, than once she has stability and grows comfortable in her new life. She will grow bored with Mr. nice an safe, than start to crave the drama of the bad boy and she will go out and find one to cheat on Mr. nice an safe with.

CatInLove · Answer

I think it is equal. If there is cheating, it's not about the personality of the guy. It's about the personality of the woman, that has no respect for relationships and what they mean. Anyway, about your description, I know that's what people thinks, but I don't identify with it at all. I never dated a bad guy because I feel no attraction for that type of guy whatsoever. I always fall for the nice guys (also happens that some seem like nice guys and later on reveal to be asses :-( ).

djmzes · Answer

The nice guy and it is because we as a. whole decided to be that way.  We see the world but we do not see the reality. We are more blind compared to a blind person.

CandacePerry · Answer

I did a bad once but he cheated on me with a girl I didn't trust. the girls I have experience were not good. The girls try to get my guys I used like to cheat or leave me. I would said nice guys one that got cheated because they chose one type of woman. I am loyal to any one that I am in a relationship with.

PervinMervin29 · Answer

Doormats get walked on and tend to go for the worst women.

alice55 · Answer

The bad boy most likely to get cheated on because generally they date slutty girls and slutty girls cheat more.

Anonymous · Answer

I dont think that it is more likely for any type of man to be cheated on, it depends on their partner. If their partner is an asshole who doesn't care about the man's feeling they are going to cheat. No matter if they're partner is a bad boy or a nice guy.

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