Why is it so hard to find the right woman?

[mlopez47]

I'm unsure what it is. From what I hear, I'm a attractive guy or cute. I am 23, black and Mexican. I work out to be in shape. I am an honest person that knows how to treat a woman. I don't understand it. Either the girl is not interested in me at all, only wants to be friends but doesn't mind having sex with me, or I get a girl that drinks hella much/smokes too much weed/parties too much(every single night). I consider myself a shy guy sometimes and other times I am not. I tried looking for a right woman through the internet, through my friends, or the old fashion way which is outside in a public setting. Parties, clubs, hangouts. By the way, I love sex but if I had to choose between having only a sexual relationship or meaningful relationship. Right away I would pick the meaningful one. I'm not that kind of guy looking for a trophy companion. I'm looking for a woman that is cute with a great personality, honest, caring, compassionate, respectful, and down for anything. When I say "down for anything" I am referring to like if I had movie tickets or concert tickets to something she will be open to. Someone who is open-minded. If a woman asked me to watch valentines day, I wouldn't get mad and say no. I would watch it because I am open-minded and it would make her happy. That's something I would like from a woman. I would of course want someone who is faithful and not party goer and not drinker every night. I would like communication in a relationship. I know I must have written a lot but I felt I needed to elaborate on everything.

[crhowe0525]

First of let me say there must be a lot of blind women out there because you sound like a great guy. Its hard to tell why a girl wouldn't want a serious relationship with you. You say you find a lot of girls that just want sex. That could be because 1) that's what they're looking for right now or 2) the relationship got physical too soon. I'd not saying wait 6 months or anything. All I'm saying is if you find a girl that seems awesome and you want more than just sex with her, let her know that you want to take things a bit slower because she means something to you. You also said a lot of the girls you meet are basically party animals. This could be because you're looking in all the wrong places. Think about it. Girls aren't going to go to a crazy wild party and drink like crazy because they want to find love. Those girls just want to have a good time. You'd be better off finding someone you work with or know through family or friends for example. As far as the ones that just want to be friends, why not take time to develop some great friendships with them? I'm a huge believer in falling in love with your best friend because you have such a great foundation. You might be surprised when your girl friend starts developing stronger feelings for you one day. As tough as it sounds, just be patient. Trust be I know how bad that sucks but the best relationships I've had have been when I stopped trying so hard and just let it happen. I really wish you good luck. Hope this helped! =)

[Tpope94]

wow. umm. maybe your looking in all the wrong places. girls do not going to a party looking for a meaniful relationship. I think these things take time, its not gonna happen automically. you should try dating, I'm not really sure where to look but keep in mind you could meet that girl anywhere. life is all about trial and error, its not always gonna be perfect. I don't think your standards are too high, you're just meeting all the wrong girls. try having friendships with these girls and see where that takes you. I think if you stop trying so hard to find what you're looking for then it will happen. good luck. hope I helped.

[Habibi27]

I feel u I hope to find the right one to ! It's not easy and I get it for me it's a big turn off when all they want is sex ! I think twice about making her my wife

[Anonymous]

You are too picky, high standards or too many requirements, its gona take a while to find someone you like, keep looking and maybe lower the standards a little

[Anonymous]

First off I have to say that you sound like a great guy and I think a lot of girls would love to be with you. But girls who are at those types of parties are not looking for relationships all they want to do is "hook up" with some one at that party. If you want to find a girl, like the one you described, go to a place you like or some where that a lot of people are and I think you'll be able to find the right girl. It's not going to happen immediatly of course... but I do think it will happen. Just keep trying. I wish you best of luck.

[Janine9]

Because they might have a feeling you deserve better than them. and... I don't know what else to say...