Do you think once you love someone, you will ALWAYS love them? Or do you think love can fade away with time?

[pinayfit]

[Jes2020]

I’ve always thought that some people have to “love” a few times in their life to figure out what they want/need. I’ve had 3 long term relationships. My first one I will 100% say I loved, but also always knew we would never be together forever. We were not on the same page about what we wanted out of life, and we started dating right out of high school when I was figuring myself out, but he already knew and had exactly what he wanted out of life (which wasn’t much) he taught me SO much and had a big role in who I am. The second one was an extremely mentally abusive guy who took everything from me over the course of 1.5 years. This one destroyed me. I don’t believe I ever actually loved him, I thought I did while we were dating, but looking back I don’t know what my feelings were. From him I learned a lot about life, and healing, and what I do/don’t want. The relationship I’m in currently is 100% the love of my life, even after only 8 months I can say with certainty that I love him more so, and much differently then the other two. There is no jealousy, no fights, and so much more respect then I’ve ever seen. I think they all teach you something, and sometimes you’ve learned the lessons they were there to teach, and you leave, and feelings fade. You can love someone, and then stop loving someone in order to make room for someone knew to teach you.

[dandiecandie]

I think if i love someone i will stay with them tgrough thick and thun but if they betray me even if i love them so so much from the bottom of my heart i will walk away and never look. Im very possessive and kind when in love. I expect the same drom my guy. If he decides to be all loosey goosey well i will just say these boots are made for walking and thats just what they will do.

[opurba]

Love can fade away. It's natural, suppose one of parent's is dead n i'm not there to feel bad about u ir comfort u but other girls r there to cry with u. U'll delete or throw me in garbage coz u can as soon as u get next best girl for u. But if i'm someone who u can't harm then u might think before doing it or actually don't mind about it coz u truly love me.

[Alsus12]

It doesn't really go away, but there is always opportunity for something better. I was head over heels in love with a girl for 3 years. I lost 150lbs, started taking my medications for my auto-immune disease (now nearly cured), and stopped smoking, drinking, and dip. She rejected me and completely cut me off in the most disrespectful of ways. I used that to motivate myself to get into school and I'm aiming for my bachelors in nursing and then my doctorate in Physical Therapy. I spent time working on myself and identifying what it was that I was doing wrong and bettered myself in every possible way. I know now that it was a mistake to do all of that in the hopes that she would love me back, but I'm glad it happened. I love the man I've become and I don't think my feelings for her will ever truly go away, but I'm confident in myself and I know I deserve someone who won't disrespect me the ways she did.

TLDR; Yes, love will always be there if it was real. It does get easier though.

[Kyren]

It depends on how strong of a connection you had with that person. The more time you invested into being with them, becoming vulnerable to them with your secrets/insecurities and making them happier, the more fulfilling and everlasting the friendship/relationship will be. I can believe there are bonds so strong that no matter how much time passes with distance, they can never fade. Sometimes though, a friendship/relationship can end on a toxic note. The love the person once had with the other can fade into bitterness which then turns into emptiness. If the person didn't love the other all that much or wasn't heavily invested into the relationship, the feeling of love for them will likely fade in time, depending on how attached they were. I feel like this is situational overall.

[AwesomeCookie]

@pinayfit I agree with @DiegoO love transforms, sometimes that transformation includes fading away. But through time and our interactions, and situations and circumstances, love itself tranforms.

[DiegoO]

Yay..

[AwesomeCookie]

👍👍👍

[MrMysteryMan]

Love can be broken, but it's more in a harsh way rather than just fade away over time. That doesn't happen I don't believe. Maybe the strength of love can change, but not the fact of love or care for someone. But it depends on circumstances and what has transpired.

[rjroy3]

I don't think you can truly love someone without knowing them for a year or more. When you reeeeeally get to know who they are. That's when you're capable of truly loving them and not just loving how they treat you now. If you've reached that point, then I do believe in part that you will always love them. Always some kind of loving feelings. But if it's that obsessive feeling for someone that will go away the moment you find someone else and your brain accepts it as a possibility.

[denaliwells]

I was with a girl from the time I was 9 to 16 and yes it was really us together it wasn't a kiddy relationship and I'm 22 now and I still love her to this day and would do anything for her but I could never be with her again and we are just friends but that attachment is still there

[mr762cm]

I've always believed once you truly love someone, you always will. As much as my ex and I couldn't stand living with each other, (or so it seemed) I admit that I still feel love for her. Actually, for all my ex's. And I'm perfectly fine with that.

[GuyWhatRunsThePlace]

The reason you love someone will always remain, however problems and incompatibility will become too great for love to overcome. This is what ends true relationships.

[HitGirl_4680]

Love can fade because things change in relationships, people grow apart, show true colours, do bad things, neglect their partners etc...

[Annie_Mosity]

Since people change it's rather stupid to think love will last eternally. You may not love the person they become...

[angelgirl7]

It may depend on the person, but I think once you love somebody a little part of you is always going to love that person.

[TinaSP]

there's no such thing as forever. even you will die one day and earlier if you dont care about health. if you dont take care of such fragile feeling, it will die. it always die. people are careless

[Finchie40]

If it fades away then that isn't true love but I feel we go through those bad seeds to eventually find r good seed

[whiteangel1]

It fades away.. sometimes it even turns into pure hatred

[Meh18]

I think you experience it differently each time after a break up
After a certain amount of times
It stays with you forever
In this life and the next

[markscott]

Love can last for a life time, or fade. It depends on the couple, and if they nourish their love.

[andreasderjuengere]

Love - as in the romantic concept - does not exist in reality. And it does wear away and needs to be replaced with lasting (emotional) values.

[lonly3187]

I haven't seen my high school sweat heart in over 10 years now and I still love her. She would be the only reason I would return to jersey. Then again losing her is what made me move across country

[hasrett]

Probably depends on the person.
Personally I think it can fade away eventually.

[Anonymous]

I think you just love them from a distance and the relationship changes where you love them like a cousin and not like a partner.

[AM-205]

Love could fade, but it depends of if you're REALLY trying to love, or if deep inside, you want to back out...

[AbdKilani]

I hope it fades away, but most likely it would be exchanged for another love