Sleeping in the same bed??

[Anonymous]

Hi guys,

I'll try to make the whole long story short...:

what does it mean when a guy comes to my party (with a plan to stay until morning), he then sleeps in my bed (he promised that he'll keep 10cm distance:)) and he is a gentlemen until morning, but during the night he puts his hand over my hip and comes closer so I can feel his breath? It might sound stupid, but the situation was very clear between us - we did really nothing, we just talked, thought we probably both wanted more...And in the morning he comes to me and asks what plans do I have for the rest of the day, blabla... but he doesn't call me! Nothing! He always asks our friend to come with us, we are never alone except this one night in the same bed.

What should I think about that? I'm pretty sure he is interested in me, but I don't know how should I behave? Maybe I should just forget about him, because he only wants to sleep with me? He was so sweet that night..

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+1 y

OK... I think I should write something more about him.. He is REALLY handsome. Anywhere we go every woman is looking at him. And I've never noticed that... or course I considered him good looking, but I've never thought something could happen between us (

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We met at the party recently. When he saw me he took his friend and followed me to the bar. We talked for about an hour, he was joking, saying to his friends that I'm his girlfriend etc... He wrote me a message yesterday, but didn't write back..

[jackkeh]

I don't think you should think anything about it. Because from what you said happened after, how he doesn't call and asks friends to come with you guys, seems like if he is interested in you ...he's probably taking his time. So just go with the flow, act like you normally do, maybe if you want, ask him out yourself and make it clear it'll just be the two of you in a casual way?

That'll tell you if he actually is interested, because if he invites friends to come along then in a nice way he made it obvious he was just being a tease that night and just wants to be friends.

[Asker]

Thanks.. You really helped. I never wanted do fall in love with him, he's what a girl could dream about and now... I was stupid and I shouldn't have let him sleep in my bed;(

[darkhorn]

Because he loves you and he didn't want to ruin it. He is looking for relationship, not just sex. He didn't want you to think that he wants you just for sex. Call him, and ask to hang out.

Guys who are in love think less sex.

The guy is in the same situation with me.

And I didn't get why you want to forget about him. You have to do the opposite.

[darkhorn]

Guys who are in love produce less testosterone and more estrogen. This leads to low sex desire.

[Asker]

He said It was the first time that he was sleeping in the same bed with a girl who didn't want to have sex with him....

If I call him and ask him out he'll ask if anyone else is coming, and if not - he'll ask me to invite someone else.. He doesn't seem to be very much in love.. He had a lot of time to ask me out :/

[JustDance]

Could you back that up darkhorn? lol I've read some crazy(and real) sh*t, but that's bs.

[sikoo31]

yeah he's playing mind tricks, we do it to confuse the girl and make her want us more because the confusion won't let you stop thinking about us. and that usualy works, but yeah its mostly cause he's after sex but is being patient... but I don't know him well enough to really say, you gotta read more signs.

[dragonfly6516]

Furthermore, he's making you think about him, even after he never called back. Now you're the one chasing after him, not the other way around. That's how players work, they makes the girls come to them. One, it makes them look better, two, since the girls did come to them, it makes the girls look bad. It's win win for the players. But I'm not saying your boy IS a player, just so we're clear...

[sikoo31]

He might be tho, especially if he's aware of his good looks.

[ManAmongBoys]

"A gentleman until morning?" Nope. A gentleman would have slept on the floor or couch.

[Asker]

I still want to believe he's a gentelman... He's so perfect.. but I guess you're right...

[RealDeal]

I agree with Manamong

[ManAmongBoys]

Now, there's nothing wrong with sleeping in the same bed, but don't think he wasn't hoping for you to get turned on and spread your legs. If he didn't want a fcuk, he would've slept elsewhere.

[JustDance]

Maybe he just wanted to be more intimate, put the idea in her head by sleeping in her bed that he really likes her more than a friend? lol

[martyfellow]

Probably he was just handing you a line..hoped you'd change your mind during the night.

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Hey, I've had this happen; I started out with good intentions, but in the middle of the night..!

So he was probably just trying to land a one night stand...

[martyfellow]

OK...even more likely that he was just playing games,hoping you'd change your mind during the night...

Stay away from him, would be my advice in light of the update!

[minimalist]

That situation is really stange that if I had slept with a girl I would not have done nothing.

[Anonymous]

hang with him but if he tries anything too fast, resist & then you'll know if he loves you or just wants sex.

[neberle]

He is just insecure. Something new right?

[Anonymous]

Do you like him back?

[Asker]

Yes!