Why is it so hard for a guy to say he is sorry, or to admit that he is wrong?

[KSmiles4U]

The questions speaks for itself.

[The-Romanian]

Saying "sorry" is showing weakness. That's why a lot of us don't say it. And quite a few, like myself, rarely even have that word cross our minds. Even when we did some seriously bad sh*t. We just tend to sometimes say "my bad." Which to a lot of people they've kind of mended the two. But, doesn't really mean the same to those who say it, opposed to those who hear it.

[KSmiles4U]

True. But like why be so stubborn? Like would you really hurt a girls feelings over something dumb that you KNOW was really wrong to say to her?, and Not admit that you're wrong? or say sorry?

[The-Romanian]

Well, I don't ague about things I'm not sure about. So, if she were to get hurt. It would be due to the fact the she realized she was wrong. And she just got pissed that her womanly rant didn't give her the satisfaction she wanted. But, in the small percentile I was wrong with some things. I ate it. Also, we are born stubborn. All of us have are different degrees of stubbornness. And as I stated, "sorry" doesn't really cross my mind. Unless she says it too much herself.

[KSmiles4U]

Haha Okay I got you. So would you just admit that you're wrong though? Saying you're wrong isn't as "bad" for you to say sorry. Lol

[The-Romanian]

Like I said, in the small margin of when I was wrong in a situation, I ate it. Meaning I realized I was wrong with a small detail, not the whole thing. And yes, I admitted I was wrong with that.

[KSmiles4U]

Then I guess my boyfriend is just an idiot if he can't even say that he was wrong. SMH

[dtaijo174]

Insecure men will use the cover argument that saying sorry is a sign of weakness. A real man knows & acknowledges when he has made a mistake and has the guts to say he has failed and regrets it.

[The-Romanian]

Insecure is your argument? Ha. No, you're just one to easily take the blame.

[KSmiles4U]

Maybe not insecure, but a guy who protects his own ego. That's not neccessarily insecurity. But I know what you mean... But I must say that us girls do like when a guy has a sensetive side. Like enough to realize right from wrong and apologize. Get me?.. So yeah

[DanDaMan1200]

Its a pride thing. Its hurtful to our male ego. Its extremely hard for a male to admit they were wrong because they are constantly thinking they are right, when they are not. For a male to admit he's wrong is one of the hardest things a guy can do. Because they have to fight their ego, and then to add , there's so much pressure, and so much on the line (emotionally for the guy ) that's why its hard. Its so much harder than a breakup...An apology, or someone admitting that they are wrong ( the guy ) is almost as equal to losing their mom. Because men take something like that so personally to apologize, its on a whole other realm ( of emotions, pride, sadness, and embarrassment to admit he was wrong ) On Top of this he shows you his heart, his real character... It shows who you are, and if its not good enough they'll be torn, ( emotionally ).

[KSmiles4U]

Good answer. All of that is true, when you said "on top of that he shows you his heart, his real character...ect"... Because (my bf) he does all of that and then when there's an issue with him not showing much love or anything he'll get like really upset because then he knows its not good enough. But then later he'd get his head back in the relationship and do what's neccessary. But then he can't apologize when he is wrong lol

[GIntrovert]

Ah the age old question... the type of younger guy that can say sorry and admit when he is wrong (the typical nice guy) is usually the type of guy most young girls don't like..

[KSmiles4U]

Are you describing yourself? or answering my question? lol

[GIntrovert]

I'm talking about my own experience with girls...

[KSmiles4U]

ok

[Brando]

Pride. It is what protects our ego, and our ego is our companion from birth.

[KSmiles4U]

But like why can't you guys just admit that you're wrong when you see that a girl is hurt by what you said to her & ect. ?

[Brando]

Some guys are afraid of looking weak by being wrong. When we are challenged or angry, we naturally try to defend ourselves against the world, whether we are right or not.

[KSmiles4U]

So then if I'm put in a situation where my boyfriend know's he's wrong and say's he's not going to apologize because he thinks isn't wrong, (when he clearly is wrong) and I'm hurt by what he said to me or whtever, thennn what am I suppose to do? because I'm still hurt and I'm not going to get over it until he says sorry or admits that he's wrong. Nd he says I'm not going to get an apology.

[Brando]

You will either need to really explain how he's wrong (since he's obviously not getting it) or you should learn to deal with his stubbornness. Hard headed people are tough to deal with if they won't listen to a word anybody else says.

[KSmiles4U]

I already learned to deal with his b.s. I just hate how someone can be so dumb and rude to me and hurt my feelings because of something he made up (in the back of his mind). Misunderstanding what I said and turning it into something bad about him when what I said had NOTHING to do with him_And not admit that he's wrong for that. And I explained it billions of times why he is wrong and he says he doesn't care. So since he doesn't care? He's about to lose his future wife. So he can care about that..

[Kurosaki]

Women are guilty of the same thing and to a greater degree, I think.

[KSmiles4U]

Im the type to admit that I'm wrong or apologize. I don't know about girls you've dealt with but that's just me. I'm not afraid to apologize or step up to the plate, even when I'm called out for being wrong. I think that's why it's so hard for me to understand why dudes can stand up to it. No offense to your gender. Lol

[Kurosaki]

Women have a habit of choosing a standpoint and using some outlandish reasoning to stand strong on that point. They'll decide on something and then find reasoning 2nd as opposed to getting reasoning first then deciding.

Of course this is generalizing but it's common...

likewise, no offense to your gender

[KSmiles4U]

Hahaha Okay

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, I thought this was a legit question. I was wrong.

[KSmiles4U]

Hahaha good one :D