Why is it so hard to say sorry?

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ohshee · Accepted Answer

A Friend and I were talking about something one day and she said I said something I didn't say. It's something I wouldn't ever say not unless it was true, or there was a reason for me to believe it was true and we quietly debated it for about 45 minutes to an hour and I kept telling her I would not say that after about 45 minutes to an hour I was going through it step by step by step and all of a sudden I realized I did say it and I feel bad. And in that moment I had to man up and apologize and I looked her deep into the eyes and I said you know that you are right you're 100% right because this is what happened she said yes yes and yes.
And in that moment that I apologize one of the biggest weights came up went back like you would not believe she started crying and I said why are you crying and she said because you're the first person that has ever admitted that you were wrong and you apologize.
And of course me being me, I had to say who said I was wrong as I started to laugh as we both started to that I was just saying I'm sorry I give her a big hug and I should I do I'm sorry I'm very sorry this is why I said it it all came back to me this is why I said it and I'm truly sorry I do apologize and that was something I'll never forget because how powerful was to admit that I was wrong say it out loud and to watch the expression on her face in the word she used after that for me it's not hard at all to say sorry. It taught me something. Just because I believe something doesn't mean that I'm right

Sonorous · Accepted Answer

They could (for many reasons) genuinely believe they aren't in the wrong or they could (for many reasons) know they're in the wrong & not want to admit it.

Some of those reasons could be:
• It's part of a manipulation tactic to get an upper hand or take advantage of someones emotions.
• They lack the empathy required to genuinely feel remorseful.
• They could have an inflated sense of self in relation to their competence level.
• They could have a deflated sense of self & don't want to feel any more socially &/or fundamentally inferior &/or incompetent.
• They could purposefully not want to be on good terms &/or they don't believe the person is deserving of rationality.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It shouldn’t be.

If you genuinely think that you did someone wrong, just go and apologize. It is better than having that guilt stuck in you a few months or years.

And sometimes even if you did an irreversible damage to someone, an apology won’t undo the damage but the apology can at least lessen the hatred the person has for you and healing can proceed faster.

daisy_jones · Accepted Answer

Cause we all have an ego and it's difficult to set it aside and admit you're wrong. Admitting that you're wrong, in our brains, equates to 'I am weak' and no one wants to come off as that. That's something that I kind of picked up when it comes to this.

KieranByrne · Answer

Because it is the feeling of letting the other person 'Let Go' and Responsibility for being sorry, or what happened in the first place!
Or the feeling of being 'Misplaced' or judged, and finding a way to put yourself back on your own feet!
Allowing the other (s) to be happy while you swallow yourself, to wait for their reaction for acceptance or disregarding you!

I. e 'Change!'

PAcc92 · Answer

Women have been cutting the foreskin off their sons for generations, can you imagine how they must feel when they admit they're torturing them for no reason?

That's the reality of admitting you're wrong, it hurts. You'll do almost anything to not have to feel that, it's human nature.

Keyboardkat · Answer

Because it means we have to admit we're wrong. And most of us HATE to admit we're wrong. Apologizing requires a person to be very strong; strong enough to be able to say, "I was wrong" without feeling destroyed by it.

TheBMG · Answer

I’m usually the first one to admit I’m wrong. I’ve always been genuine when saying I’m sorry. Sometimes in an argument, even if I think I did nothing wrong, I’ll say I’m sorry. If they truly believe I wronged them, and I’m just not realizing it, then I’ll move forward by saying I’m sorry. I will not be taken advantage though. First time something happens its in a good gesture to say I’m sorry, and I mean it. If a second time occurs over the same thing, it’s on them. I believe in Mercy and Grace. I don’t like confrontation, and I try to be a peace keeper. However, do not take my kindness for weakness.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s hard to say sorry depending on the situation. It’s like telling someone I understand. If someone says they have cancer and you say I understand even though you don’t have cancer then it kind of offends that person because you don’t understand what it’s like. So you would say something like “i can’t do imagine what that is like; I’m so sorry.”. So you’re saying sorry the same thing that you keep doing over and over again, they will know you’re not really sorry.

Somegirl678 · Answer

i dont find it hard generally, but if someone started an argument out of nowhere then expects me to apologise id be like wtf. thats what my friend did

precious_creation · Answer

Some people just don’t apologize because of their pride. Sucks for them. Apologizing gives you peace, just as much as forgiveness.

s10sleeper · Answer

From what I’ve experienced, there’s many people that it is easy for because they are used to saying it so much it doesn’t have much meaning. To the people it is hard for, it’s probably because they only say it when they mean it, and they have trouble admitting to being wrong

ElizaPam · Answer

It won't be hard in heaven people will be super excited to say they're sorry to me when they see my female soul and realize I was telling the truth the whole time!!! Everyone will be so happy that I'm finally not trapped in a boys body and I'll cry from happiness when I finally get to see what feeling normal is like!! Then we can all hug and be friends!!!🥰🥰🥰

horsenrhinounicorn · Answer

Why say it if your not sorry? People dont like to show other people they were wrong. Apologizing shows a persons failures and mistakes. It is important to be true to oneself, to lie is not healthy to a persons health and thought life.

Anonymous · Answer

sometimes it's not good if you apologize often, it can become a bad habit and your self-esteem can be easily stepped on by others. who is like that? one of them is me.

CaliGirlBH · Answer

If I've done or said something to hurt anyone I'm going to say I'm sorry as soon as realize it. Telling someone your sorry truly makes the situation better and the person feel like you care.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

Who the heck knows. I see it all the time in Politics too. How hard is it to be humble? I’d t that how we learn and become better people?
It seems like many people always think they’re right and even when they’re wrong, they still think they’re right. Or will quickly deflect to something else. It’s pathetic and downright childish.

Hanrej · Answer

Because it's an admittance that you did wrong and if it's genuinly meant the one you said sorry to will expect you to change your behaviour. Knowing this, how can you say you're sorry if it again becomes a matter of doing what is right by your spouse or yourself?

Mia_MadisonOF · Answer

It’s not. I try my best to see all situations from every person's POV and I do my utmost to treat people the way I want to be treated. Exercise these in your day to day and apologizing won’t be difficult, at all.

boxxie2002 · Answer

I think because you are admitting you were wrong and it depends how you acted when you thought you were right.

Sometimes the thought of the potential backlash from apologizing can make it seem easier to leave things where they are

LegendaryIcon · Answer

Because the hardest part of moving on, is letting go

FireFox001 · Answer

Because most people are pride fucks who don't realize that admitting a failure requires more character than hiding the fact.

That said, many people do not consider that they could be at fault and falsely hope for the other one to be sorry.

spookywashere · Answer

I don't know? I find it quite easy to own up to my mistakes and apologize when it's nesscary. Maybe you have ego issues? Always have to be right?

jasco · Answer

Saying sorry and meaning it takes reflection and most people aren’t good at that. Also admitting that you were wrong which most people are good at either

JCrockett · Answer

It's usually easy to say you're sorry when you think you did something wrong. But if you did nothing wrong, then it is difficult to say you're sorry, unless you are very comfortable with lying.

suisuiola · Answer

Because of pride, we're prideful and we don't like to admit when we're wrong or mistaken. People like being right and correct and so admitting to your faults can be hard.

Better_off_here · Answer

because we as humans hate to admit we are wrong.  many things in life could be a lot better if we just said we were sorry and tried to make up for what we did.

Finchie40 · Answer

Cuz most people can’t admit To themselves that they are wrong , it’s a immature trait most people have

CTOswald · Answer

What is this "sorry" you speak of? Is it one of those words people who are often wrong say? I'm not familiar with that...

Jfranco12 · Answer

It isn’t but many people have large egos and are too prideful to admit when they are wrong

lilyanony1 · Answer

Haha because most people don't want to admit defeat.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Its easy to say sorry. Its hard to mean it. I dont say it if i dont mean it. And i hardly say it

Snakeyes7 · Answer

I think it entirely depends on the trespass. Some may be cases of sunk cost or some may think that the person they wronged would never in their right mind forgive them so they never bother asking for it.

Freespirit777 · Answer

Because we have to be humble and admit we are a fallible human being like the rest of the fallible human beings. Somewhere, we think that we must be perfect to deserve love, but if we have to earn love, would it really be love?

tatianamay · Answer

Its not. Well, at least for me, it isn't. When I fuck something up, i apologize.

NathanDavis · Answer

sorry but it really isn't hard for me to say it, if I mess up, that's it... no ways around it

Dvchill · Answer

It’s not hard to say sorry when u are sorry… it is actually one of the easiest things to do… if u are having a hard time… ask yourself are u sorry… or do u blame them for part or all of it still?

Lærke_k · Answer

it depends. it could be something personal. some diganose or disorder. i don't really know tho

Dennisjf12 · Answer

For me, it's easy. I feel I am always upsetting someone because of something I said,  it seems to me that I make people mad at me all the time.

Floppy2112 · Answer

It's not. If I fuck up, I apologize. It's really not hard at all.

dpy87 · Answer

Ego and pride. Something you should get rid of asap.

Browneye57 · Answer

It's not. Just never do anything you have to be sorry for. Fixes that problem.

Anonymous · Answer

Because all relationships are power struggles. And to say sorry is to admit you were at fault in other words to cede power. Power that person can weird against you later.

Nazgol · Answer

Because it would mean to admit that you were wrong and noone wants to feel that way , it would drive down their confidence

sayyessir · Answer

Because saying sorry admits fault and wrongdoing, that bruises our ego to confess to something we did wrong. Depending on what the sorry is for, they may feel ashamed too.

collie22 · Answer

its too hard to say your sorry for something maybe your not

Soleil8000 · Answer

It isn't if you habitually tell the truth rather than invent sh. t to be 'right'

najekim · Answer

Because too many people think they are entitled and never wrong.

Paul09 · Answer

If I'm at fault, I'll say sorry. But never seems enough to say sorry.

Jouth · Answer

Because it's TOO LATE TO APOLOGIZE!!!

Anonymous · Answer

Admitting you’re wrong it’s hard because you’re not doing it out of intentional damage to someone or however it may be it’s just

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Because it's also hard to forgive. So sometimes there's no point in apologizing.

msc545 · Answer

It is hard because it means admitting that you were wrong.

MJtheCoach · Answer

Overuse the word it will no longer will have any meaning

andy530 · Answer

You have to be vulnerable and accept responsibility

VanillaSalt · Answer

As a man we hate to be seen as weak or wrong because of various reasons… as a woman you just hate being wrong.

Anonymous · Answer

I guess the sad person doesn't want anyone to know they're sorry or the person who says sorry the no one doesn't care and doesn't help.

Kevin_Alerion · Answer

For me personally that's ain't easy. I even say sorry when i know that's ain't my mistake

molecularfrontier · Answer

It is just a matter of acceptance. Unless you don't accept, you can't able to say sorry.

jimmy2 · Answer

Saying sorry one thing forgiveness is another thing

AmandaYVR · Answer

Maybe people think it admits fault, or failure.

Cubus · Answer

People don't like to admit they made a mistake.

Nomoturtle · Answer

It isn't. You have flaws. Deal with it.

Medlife · Answer

It is not. It's rather freeing.

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