Girls, why do you get jealous of a"just friend" guy romantic interests, dating prospects or taste in women?

[Anonymous]

First, a little disclaimer: I DO BELIEVE THAT MEN AND WOMEN CAN BE FRIENDS, AND HAVE A BEAUTIFUL, PURE AND HONEST FRIENDSHIP.

But here is a bit more detail about the question.

This happens to me quite a lot, and i don't particularly mind it becauseI've had beautiful friendships coming out of it, but i would still like to grasp what is behind such behavior?

Le'ts say a girl and I decide to be just friends, why does the girl, in that case, becomes jealous and possessive? Why does she feel the need to compete or criticize every girl i look at or my type of girl? I had remarks, well you wouldn't look at her if she wasn't' like this, she has no class, no style, etc..
When i say; oh this girl has a nice style, i like her outfit, why doe the friend says: "well you know, i wore this outfit yesterday... just so you know"

And now to the last part of the question.

Why don't you, strangely, have no single friends, that you can introduce me to? Girls often say to me, that they either have no one and when they do the girls are either in a long term relationship, or (and they know it) not to my taste at all.
I also had one, that invited me to a dinner party at her place. When i asked if i could bring a date along, she became so nosy asking me loads of questions about the girl, and when i said it was my best friend, she hadn't met she chilled. But when i said, that my best friend couldn't make it, she was so happy and said it actually works better for me and made me sat down right next to her at the dinner table and didn't leave my side.

If any girl would be so kind as to shed a tiny bit of light on this matter, it would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you all.

[ThatUnknownGirl]

One of my male friends was in love with a girl who would use him, I wouldn’t say my criticism of her was uncalled for so I guess it depends on the things the girl you know would complain about, if it seems like something a friend is genuinely trying to look out for you rather then someone who is saying these things because she is jealous.

When it come to girls he was interested in I would be genuinely be happy for him if I knew she actually treated him right and offer advice on things he was worried about and listen to him talk about her all the time and I would talk about guys I was interested in or in a relationship with. I actually even told him to give his number to a girl or ask her for hers.

When it comes to single friends though there could be a few reasons why she doesn’t want to introduce you, she may not want to complicate two friendships if things don’t work out well, she may think that use wouldn’t get along or as you said be attracted to each other, her female friends may all genuinely be in a relationship (almost all of mine are or married) or she may secretly have feelings for you.

“well you know, i wore this outfit yesterday... just so you know"
Saying things like this is extremely weird in my opinion, i mean I don’t even know how one would respond to that.

Is the girl who invited you to the dinner party also the girl who mentioned about the outfit? If it is how did you both agree that use just want to be friends?

[Asker]

I think you misunderstood the start of my thread! Girls behave weirdly around me!
They say we are only friends, every time I asked.
But if I tend to look at another girl, they tend to be jealous and possessive! It’s not about someone using me or else. But let’s say we, as friends, grab coffee together. I see a girl I find pretty, and I say it out loud. Every time, the girl gets put down by my friend,, to the point where it feels like she’s implying, why do you look at her while you have me!
I also tend to be compared a lot to the guys they’re supposedly interested in, and when I ask about the guys, they become secretive like the guy doesn’t even exist or drop it!
Another example, is I had a pic of cara delevigne on my screensaver, because I find her pretty, and as I’m single like who cares...
She saw it and became mad like criticizing every aspect of her!
Regarding the introduce friends part, it’s not really as you said. It’s more like no I’ve got no one for you, none of them are your type or good enough for you, they are all in relationships. And even the one that are single and my type , I can never meet! The only ones she introduced me too are the one that are the polar opposite of my type!
If we are really only friends, why would you be worried if I meet your girl friends and actually end up going out with one?
This will not affect our relationship!

[ThatUnknownGirl]

Next time they get jealous remind them of the fact that use are only friends and ask her why she is behaving that way because honestly that doesn’t sound like a healthy friendship... especially since their behaviour could be putting other girls off getting to know you.

[Aphrodite8789]

A lot of us don’t