What Makes Guys Flock To Certain Girls? Why Do Some Girls Struggle With Getting Guys?

[Americanteengirl]

If you’ve been following me by now you should know I get tons of guys, guys approach me all the time, I do nothing special, but girls who say themselves that they have been told by people that they are attractive still struggle with guy attention and barely get approached by them? Even girls I know that I think are pretty don’t get as much attention as me? Why?

I struggle with getting guys/don’t get approached that much

I don’t struggle with guys/It’s not rare for me to be approached by one

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+1 y

Whoa that’s a good amount of girls that’s struggling

[Gothd011]

I get a lot of attraction as soon as I walk in the room.

and I don't do anything special but You will never catch me looking a hot mess. I have people who I never even see before saying hey beautiful I see you all the time and im like well there was nothing creepy about that. *that the shit you really should keep to yourself"

Seriously I think it because I have no fucks. It can not be because of my shining smile and happy go luck tude. Im none of those things and I wear mostly black and I still stand out.

But I do make direct eye contact and it can get pretty intense... I think some guys see that as a come catch me if you can. when I'm being my normal serious self _-_ get me free coffee and stuff though. Especially if I can muster a smile...

My friends hate/love me because they want my confidence and style clear skin etc. and im like... Just stop caring what others think and focus on what you think and you will excel at being the best you.

But I won't lie it feels good to turn a group of guys heads when im walking back... during those time I do wink cause you know im flatter.

I also wear a lot of shorts skirts... well because I got long legs and love to show them off

[LyricElric]

I would consider myself pretty cute, but nothing majorly sexy. I've had guys flirt with me quite a bit these last two weeks which is unusual compared to normal. I would have to say it would be my personality change that's caused this? Just because I've become happier with myself and who I am. I'm happier and that shows in what I do as opposed to before. So may maybe just rocking a different confidence level and being super friendly?

[MisterSir]

I struggle with getting guys/don’t get approached that much

[Americanteengirl]

You are gay?

[MisterSir]

i'm asexual

[StickStickity13]

LMAO

[WhatAboutBob]

Attitude.

[Americanteengirl]

What about it?

[WhatAboutBob]

Charisma. Some have it, some don't.

[Americanteengirl]

Interesting

[Ordinarygurl_]

I completely agree 100 percent I admit that this is something that I don't have and no one literally none approaches me

[WhatAboutBob]

@Ordinarygurl_
But it's fixable. You can change.

[Ordinarygurl_]

I don't know how to change :( I feel like every year I get worse at socializing because of my nervousness and shyness and nobody even likes me

[WhatAboutBob]

@Ordinarygurl_
So what is the problem? Why are you like that?

[Americanteengirl]

@ordinary no guy has ever approached you?

[Ordinarygurl_]

It barely happens no one approaches me in general I am always alone people tell me I'm weird even though I am quiet or crazy because they don't understand my anxiety

[Ordinarygurl_]

Sometimes I wonder if I am being punished for something. I feel like I get worse every year

[WhatAboutBob]

@Ordinarygurl_
You're probably your own worst enemy.

[Americanteengirl]

@ordinary are you average looking?

[Ordinarygurl_]

I am at least average looking

[Ordinarygurl_]

I believe

[Ordinarygurl_]

Some people tell me I'm pretty others tell me I'm ugly

[Americanteengirl]

@ordinary upgrade your dressing style get some money you’ll have no problem with guys.

[WhatAboutBob]

@Ordinarygurl_
I bet this is just in your head. I've seen it before.

[SlowRoast]

Change your username - give yourself more confidence. That'll help. If you think you're ugly, then find specific qualities you like about yourself. Your teeth. Your smile, how your eyes look, face shape, legs, hair, anything. List 5 good things about them and it'll help you glow and focus less on what you don't like about yourself.

[Ordinarygurl_]

@SlowRoast thank you 💖💖

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Honestly I don't know.
I just notice that as soon as I got a girlfriend, girls and older women alike have started flocking me.

[Americanteengirl]

Lolol maybe it’s that paycheck you are getting too

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

That's a possibility, but I'm earning this amount for over a year and this has just started happening in the last months or so.
And now I'm in Prague for work with a couple of female colleagues and they want to have an evening out 😂😂

[LenaMunter]

It obviously has to do with how good you look. But even if you’re attractive, guys might be discouraged if you don’t pay any attention or just seem dismissive.

Also, just because she’s “told by people” that she’s attractive, doesn’t mean she’s an eyecatcher.

[Americanteengirl]

No that’s subjective I’m talking about clear appearance where it’s obvious, and no guys don’t get discouraged if you do either of those things.

[supern0va]

It's also to do with guys thinking that the "pretty" girl is taken or probably just scared that she might have some attitude (which some people like).

[Americanteengirl]

Many Guys don’t care about a girl being taken

[supern0va]

Maybe ur popularity then

[agermanguy]

Probably depends on the guy. When a girl simply smiles at me, I already start considering her as a future partner. Hasn't worked out yet though. Either it was just an innocent smile or I'm just retarded.

[Americanteengirl]

Seems like you have low standards

[agermanguy]

Probably. It didn't get me anywhere tho.

[MannMitAntworten]

It is likely your persona that has men drawn towards you. Certainly seems to play a part with me and women flocking my way.

[Americanteengirl]

Persona as in personality? Most of them don’t know me like that

[MannMitAntworten]

Yes, that is exactly what persona means. One need not know you on a personal level to get a feel for your personality. Even from a distance men and women can in a moment observe you to likely be more 'open' or friendly. More easily approached then perhaps than your equally pretty friends you surround yourself with. Quiet and shy doesn't work for men nor women where attraction comes into play. If it did, a large number of the quiet shy types would be posting something other than matters of depression and of being alone. My friend, he's a good guy with a solid career and all that jazz... but he is quiet and even if gals try talking with him, he can be a bump on a log, which is self defeating. Who gets excited about that? He's very slowly breaking from his shell, but still, just how things go, the gregarious get more attention.

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, turn it around! What makes girls flock to certain guys and leave others alone forever?

[Americanteengirl]

Girls will always flock to hot guys

[FunkyMonkee]

There ya go!

[MisterAnon69]

RBF is one, also being unconfident or self loathing. Just being friendly to everyone makes a huge difference.

[Americanteengirl]

Yeah well definitely not friendly

[MisterAnon69]

Who?

[Wowgirl30q]

I say this again and again... It's all about the charm...

[Americanteengirl]

What charm? I do nothing special

[Wowgirl30q]

You must have charm to attract men

[moonshot]

never got approached never been kissed never held hands with a guy!

[Americanteengirl]

Dang

[hibffhk]

because some girls are charming with good personality. some girls, on the other hand, are too shy or do not like guys.

[Americanteengirl]

I don’t talk to em

[Sha84]

appearance and personality are key separators between hot and not

[Americanteengirl]

Appearance yeah

[fulloflife]

they stare at me and never make a move.
but recently this guy has been pursuing me

[sasukeuchiha7]

They never make a move cause most guys are scared. Probably should let him you're interested too.

[fulloflife]

@sasukeuchiha7
no, I tried reahing out to all of tem... they really werent that interested. thats y i dont pursue men anymore

[sasukeuchiha7]

Oh I see, most of my friends had this problem, they were too scared

[jessture]

Same reason many women flock only to certain men

[Americanteengirl]

And what IS THAT?

[jessture]

Biology

[Americanteengirl]

Get out of here with ya crap. The biology you know is false.

[jessture]

Lmao what?

[JamesRandiDebates]

@Americanteengirl The biology we know is false? Has common-core changed biology as well?

[JamesRandiDebates]

Girls who put out are always popular.

[Americanteengirl]

Depends on how hot she is. Either way just because a girl puts out doesn’t mean she’s going to do it for you.

[JamesRandiDebates]

If she doesn't put out for me then she won't be popular with me. LOL

[Cask23]

Resting bitch face?

[DECENTSCOTTISHLAD999]

Are those guys Genuine?

[ARTJAB]

Silence monster!