Is love based on looks/physical attraction?

[Anonymous]

It seems like it mostly is. Physical attraction is the most important thing

Is love based on looks/physical attraction?

[scotty01]

I say look physical and to me she must be fit and can play tennis roller skate and ride a push bike and snow ski are a must. Can’t do that with me and she affection to me and say the three words and mean it to me with no ex boyfriend around then yes that’s what I’ve been looking for the last twenty years not found that yet.

[i1T2daty]

Does that mean you like books with attractive covers? I guess the old platitude of judging a book by its cover has been wrong. After all these years who’d a thunk it

[Iwant2kno]

I think love is based on many things. I think a lot has to do with the other persons character, personality, sense of humor, perception of life, ways of loving and living, intelligence and so on. As a sapiosexual, I would fall in love with the way a man thinks, not his physique or looks.

[bzzzzz_]

Same for me!

[cassandraa]

It can create attraction but it'll create chemistry between two people. You do need to like the person's personality too you know

[Asker]

But looks are more important. I think that's what live revolves around.

[cassandraa]

Well if someone was a 10/10 and they had a shitty personality I don't care then how good looking he is I wouldn't date him

[jennifer_bloom]

I don't base my attraction on looks but if I am interested in a guy - his looks will appeal to me. If I don't like his personality - he could be the best looking man on earth and I will not find him attractive.

[yuenjanson]

Physical attraction is important for me personally. It's what leads to the desire to learn more about the person on a deeper, more personal level. Physical attraction leads to that deeper connection where a less conventionally attractive person wouldn't catch my eye, and I'd be less likely to converse and get to know them.

[Cassie5403]

Someone could be the most interesting person on the planet and no one would ever know because they’re ugly. I hate people.

[sassygirl13]

There is minimum attraction needed for someone to be considered for love. I need someone who I would love to open my eyes to see every day in morning. That being said , I saw guys who became more attractive as you get to know them more.

[Dulshah]

I personally do not think love is based on looks or physical attraction, it's about getting to know each other, lifestyle, behaviour, likes and dislikes, perception of life, personality in general.

[electroon]

"Love" is based on long-felt and developing caring feelings, while "Lust" is based on strong physical attraction and infatuation.
Love can develop after lust if a relationship pertains.

[Miss_Savanna_Dry]

Physical attraction is important but not the most important.

[Asker]

So love starts off shallow, but turns something more over time?

[Itsyaboiii32]

From what I’ve experienced, yes. It’s like this, if a 4/10 and a 8/10 both approached the same girl without speaking a word yet, the girl would automatically lean towards the 8/10 first.

[Miss_Savanna_Dry]

Just saying you can't force being attracted to someone. Physical attraction does play a role. Not the biggest.

[Miss_Savanna_Dry]

And a 4/10 for one girl might be a 9/10 for another girl 🤷‍♀️

[Itsyaboiii32]

True

[Asker]

That's not very likely. But okay

[patrickstarz]

Girls don't give a shit about personality. Enough

[Asker]

Exactly

[Miss_Savanna_Dry]

We can say the same about men...

[patrickstarz]

The perfect guy for in a girls mind is a rich guy, extremely good looking and huge cock

[Miss_Savanna_Dry]

Okay then the perfect girl in a guys mind is hot, big boobs, nice ass, perfect body, submissive but also must work full time while taking care of all the chores of the house.

[Asker]

I'm just gonna say that i don't care for big boobs or a nice ass on a girl. She doesn't have to have those things for me to be attracted to her

[Pamina]

It's one part of it. For some more than for others.

[luvstoned4him]

partially but its personality that carries the biggest weight

[leestella1999]

Nope i think background, inside his heart, attitude, willing to be helpful, Understanding, respect and loving

[AislingStarr]

Real love isn't. That's called infatuation. Looks go away eventually, and you're left with a human.

[Asker]

Do you think most younger people are just infatuated while older people are in love?

[AislingStarr]

Mm, nah. Infatuation can happen with anyone. I think the longer you learn to appreciate the *human*, rather than the body they inhabit, you'll grow to love the person as just that-- a person. Eventually, that appreciation turns into love. REAL love.

[Asker]

But every human starts off shallow and then it changes

[AislingStarr]

In a sense, you're right. We're all looking for something specific in a person. I look for someone intelligent and a strong mindset, which I guess makes me somewhat shallow. Others look for the current standard of beauty. Some just look for someone tall. However, not everyone is only looking at looks, unless the person is my 600 pound life fat, the person is missing most of their teeth, the person is missing spots of hair, the person always stinks on purpose, or so on. There's someone for everyone though.

[Asker]

That's not true. Not everyone can find love. That's why we to try and love ourselves if nobody else

[AislingStarr]

I did say there's someone for everyone. Never said we all end up finding that someone.

[Asker]

Sad fact of life

[bzzzzz_]

Physical attraction is what sparkles your interest towards someone and want to know more about them. It's the way you talk, your heart, and your character that could make someone fall in love with you.

[dmmmmm01888]

Somewhat yes, but not completely. They have to be a good person and have the same morals and values as yourself

[Anonymous]

Only to men. And a tiny percentage of women. None of these people are capable of feeling love.

[Asker]

80/20 rule look it up

[Opinion Owner]

I don't understand the analogy

[Asker]

Look it up. The 80/20 rule is a real thing. Not an analogy

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t understand how it applies to what we’re talking about

[Asker]

You said love is based on physical attraction to men. But 80/20 rule shows women are more picky. Even on looks related

[Opinion Owner]

Men are called "visual creatures" for a reason. They will not speak to a girl unless she's attractive. Speaking from personal experience, I've never had chances with any guys because of this meanwhile I know so many ugly dudes with girlfriends. I also still don't understand what this has to do with the 80 20 rule.

[Asker]

You can't use I've seen this as a counter argument. Exceptions don't disprove the rule. Men are visual creatures yet women find 80% of men unattractive. Only the top 20% of men get the women. If men are the ones that care about looks more, why do women rate men lower than a 5?

[Asker]

And those men probably have a lot of money or high status. They're not dating them for their personality. That's Disney tale shit

[Opinion Owner]

Then you can't use arbitrary numbers as statistics. But since you are, I personally find most men to be attractive unless they have evident hygiene issues. So I guess I'm a freak of nature.

[Asker]

Numbers don't lie. Male virginity is also on the rise. And congratulations you're 1 in a million. Most women aren't like you. Unless you're a high value man, women won't want you. Men must create their value, women must protect their value

[genericname85]

it certainly is one important part of it. as certainly not "the one most important" thing though.

[Mezius]

I disagree. Some people prefer personality over looks. I'm one of them.

[Asker]

What about people who would you call you a list for putting personality over looks?

[LuWe22]

Emotional connection is it based on. He could be a 10 but if a can't connect with him then I can't fall in love with him.

[Pulimuli]

Partly, attraction is based on physical appearance. Love is deeper

[TheHBK57]

If you only talk to only the "good looking" people, then statistically chances of falling in love with the "good looking" people is more.

[Itsyaboiii32]

Apparently confidence is the biggest attraction factor when it comes to getting a girl to notice you.

[MlleCake]

Not in my world, no. Not even close.

[Asker]

What is it based on then for you?

[MlleCake]

Oh, personality, intelligence, integrity, kindness, how we get along, our values and philosophies for life.

[Asker]

Okay I see. But do looks play a part in it as well?

[MlleCake]

No, really not at all.

[Asker]

Okay. I know for other girls it matters. Hoping I can run into a girl who is more into personality

[MlleCake]

Most women don't care as much as you think.

Personality is really at the top of the list.

[Secret6620]

Phenotype does play a part in it. 🤓

[NicolaD]

Sometimes but not totally

[Logorithim]

Not only

[Blue_moonlight]

Both in some rare cases.

[AspenShiver]

Lust is

[Miss_missy77]

Hell yea it is

[Dav1ss]

It starts that way.

[Sofie1979]

Some parts.